Growth is a required course, but the hormonal bipolar period at the age of 18 is destined to be difficult and impossible. Whether growing up in a big city, children from wealthy families who have seen all kinds of worlds since childhood. They are still young men and women who grew up in remote towns and want to jump out of the narrow circle of life. They are all trying to choose the life they want at the age of 17 and 18 in their respective lives, the most energetic and courageous years. Christine grew up in Sacramento, a remote town in California. She has a feeling of disgust for everything here. She hates the backwardness and lack of culture. Her parents sent her to the best Catholic high school in the area (Immaculate heart). In my eyes, this school is Immaculate fart. She gave herself the name Lady Bird, and subconsciously she wanted to fly to the East Coast of the United States to separate herself from everything here.
This prayer from the priest at the opening ceremony seemed to come from the inner voice of Lady Bird. The first stage of growing pains is to face the uncertainty and uncertainty of the future. Lady Bird planted a desire to get out of the small town. How to make this desire germinate, and the result is the problem she needs most. I admire Lady Bird very much. Although she is not born with sufficient conditions and has no extraordinary talent, The family would also not give her a large sum of money to send her to a top university. But Lady Bird has a heart that dares to fight. Under limited conditions, she will use various resources. In order to apply to her beloved university, she took the initiative to find a school teacher to help her organize the application materials and give her advice. Take the initiative to run for the president of the student union, hoping to become your own bonus when applying for colleges. Although she missed out on the student council president, she followed the advice of the school's nuns and participated in the community activity, the school's drama class. Knowing that her mother was reluctant to let her apply to the expensive East Coast universities, she turned to her father to solve the problem of expensive tuition. After learning that her father was unemployed, she did not complain that her parents were useless or demanding. When my family has financial difficulties, I go to second-hand stores to buy clothes, and I work odd jobs in coffee shops during summer vacation. To meet new classmates, and even give up the opportunity to be with family to spend one last thanksgiving with classmates. From Lady Bird's point of view, she clearly worked so hard to realize her ideal, and wanted to get used to not being accompanied by her family earlier. But in the eyes of my mother, it is selfish not to spend such an important holiday with my family. You want to hold me in your arms, but I'm tired of hiding under your wings. Lady Bird inherited her mother's stubborn, strong characteristics. It's just that in the process of growing up, she needs to spend time and youth to collide with the real environment and her inner ideal.
The purpose of Lady Bird's efforts is not only to escape from here, but more importantly, she wants to get the affirmation from her parents, especially from her mother. Her parents didn't stop their daughter from applying to colleges on the East Coast for bad reasons, but for the most real issue: money. The mother loves everything in this town, there is her life circle here, she cares about her colleagues, and will give gifts to the newborn children of her colleagues; when someone in the community dies, she will mention it to her family and silently send the elegiac couplet ; met an acquaintance in the store and went back to greet her and cared for her children; she listened carefully and kept tight-lipped when the school priest confided in her about her depression. Even though taking care of the sick at work is exhausting, she can still smile and admire the town's meandering creek and sunset on the drive home from get off work. She has never told anyone about her husband's depression, but she just bears it silently. Outsiders can see it clearly. My mother is a big heart. She cares about everyone and is kind. But mother and daughter are like two mirrors facing each other, you show my shortcomings, I show your ugliness. In her mother's eyes, Lady Bird is a teenage girl who can't do anything well, "don't think about anybody but yourself". The two were arguing about applying for a school while driving. The mother even told her daughter to go to city college and then go to jail and then back to college, so that you'd learn to pull yourself up. The jail that the mother said did not really hope that her daughter would learn some principles of life after going to jail, but used extremely sharp language to stimulate her daughter's heart, hoping that she could consider other people in the family. The mother expresses her care and love for her daughter clumsily through harsh language, but in exchange for her daughter's self-harm (jumping) and resentment, as well as the endless quarrel between the two. Even, the daughter will use the mother-like vicious language to treat other people in the school from time to time, and the lesson is that the friend broke up with her and the school suspended her.
The father in the family is a nice guy, forbearance, loyalty, and silently contributing to the family. Even though his brother was not his biological son, he still supported him and allowed him to graduate from university smoothly. Although he obtained an MBA degree and graduated from a famous school, he encountered a company change in his middle age, and his father was still unemployed. Some of your friends' father could employ your father and they're not gonna do it if it looks liks his family is a trash. This mother's words irritated Lady Bird like a needle and she started to re-examine her own family and parents. Yes, this small community constitutes an initial society, and 17-year-old Lady Bird is also exploring the first step in transforming from a school student into a social person in confusion.
During this final year of stumbling, Lady Bird learned to pick her friends and know which circles she should fit into. In the circle of wealthy children, she has always been the one with low self-esteem, and all the lies she tells are actually trying to hide the deep low self-esteem in her heart. But in front of her best friend Jules, she can unabashedly express her feelings for the first time, talk about her family, encourage each other when she is lost, and share the joy of the successful performance together. Seeing all this, Lady Bird resolutely attends an unforgettable prom with her best friend Jules. Although the lives of the children of rich families look so glamorous, they are also riddled with holes, their private lives are chaotic, they have no goals, they are hypocritical and exaggerated, and their families don't care about each other. It was out of tune with the family she grew up in, and she didn't belong in that circle.
When she showed her graduation thesis to the nun, she was surprised by the nun's comment - you clearly love Sacramento. Even she didn't understand how she clearly hated the town, how it became love with others. Although I just pay attention myself. "Don't you think maybe they are the same thing? love and attention?" During the nun's rhetorical question, Lady Bird fell silent and understood what her mother said to herself, which was full of Love and attention. Only when you love something you pay attention to it. Mother didn't mean to say those vicious words, and it wasn't that she didn't want to help herself. In this family, the father acts as the glue between the mother and the daughter. He knows that the mother and daughter both have such strong personalities, and the mother is also troubled because she does not know how to help her daughter.
It doesn't matter who you are, what matters is who you are. The day before she sent her daughter to the airport, the mother had a thousand words and so much love that she wanted to tell her daughter, but she was afraid of her daughter's mockery of her words, so she tore and tore, and finally Not even a piece of paper was written. The mother always felt that she was still the backer of her children. She couldn't reveal her weakness. She didn't even hug and say goodbye to her daughter at the airport. When her daughter left, she drove back to the airport and cried to tears. The daughter also wanted to show her strong side in front of her mother, but after seeing the letters her mother tore up before, she also burst into tears. In the big city of New York, who cares where you are, Christine woke up from a hangover and saw a helpless Asian mother and son sitting on the hospital bed. It turned out that everyone was struggling with life. Everything about Sacramento has been imprinted in her heart. This place that she once thought was a bond has become a part of her. It is the people and things here that shaped her growth experience and the growth trajectory of each stage of life. What can be done is not to erase but to be grateful.
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