Good-looking skins can also carry interesting souls. Excellent actors can achieve different types of roles. Scarlett Johansson, who is known as "widow sister", undoubtedly starred in a very wonderful family ethics film. "Marriage Story" has deep still water and long-lasting meaning. It needs to calm down and taste it carefully. Although the main line of the film tells the story of a divorce, its core is not to accuse "marriage is the grave of love", but to re-understand and examine the essence of marriage through a "end of marriage". When two people meet and fall in love, they must be attracted by the unique charm of each other, and their eyes are full of the dazzling light of the other half. His/her shortcomings are like eclipsed stars in front of the sun's magnificent advantages. carry. Just like the hero and heroine at the beginning of the film reminisce about the past at the request of the mediator, and when they count each other's advantages, they all unanimously describe the image of the other half with perfect character-Charlie in Nicole's memory is personable and talented; Charlie's eyes Nicole is kind and selfless, innocent and romantic. However, there is no absolutely perfect other half in the world. Marriage is destined to be a long journey. The flaws of the other half will continue to enlarge under the erosion of time. This is the "siege" dilemma that most marriages have to face. . Just like in the film, Nicole gradually discovers that Charlie is selfish and arbitrary, often careless about himself, and can't even remember his own phone number; while Charlie feels that Nicole is capricious, unreasonable, and has a successful career, but suffers from being unable to There is a longing for warmth from his wife, Nicole likes Los Angeles and Charlie has a soft spot for New York. The conflict gradually develops to the point of irreconcilability, but when they want to sort out and end the marriage, they have a thousand emotions in it. Overwhelmed. Nicole hired a lawyer on the advice of a friend, and Charlie had to fight to get more custody of his son. When the absolutely rational balance of law was used to weigh the weight of the old emotions, the two couldn't help feeling a little shocked and confused. In the face of the intruding icy external force, the two had a more objective re-cognition of this marriage, the other half, and themselves. In the end, the two came to an agreement in mutual understanding and compromise - to end the marriage, but to retain a sincere friendship, mutual respect, and to raise their children together. It was the end of an exemplary American marriage. With the development of society, the continuous awakening of individual consciousness, and the increasingly acute appearance of the inherent contradictions of traditional families in modern society, more and more people realize that perhaps "one-stop" is not the best choice for them, rather Instead of constantly negotiating, fighting and compromising, it is better to break down the barriers and get out of the "besieged city". "A rift between them It was a corridor less than nine meters wide, but it seemed to be two thousand kilometers long. It was an exquisitely furnished no-man’s land, with velvet rugs and high ceilings separating the two bedrooms. , the ghosts of two centuries lived in the bedroom - all the previous presidents and first ladies and the ghosts of their marriages, thirty years of struggle, their hearts are dead, and there is a wasteland between them. "This is an accurate description of the marriage of President Shimoki and his wife in "House of Cards", and it applies to all marriages that exist in name only. The hero and heroine in "Marriage Story" finally walk out of marriage The palace has retained a deep friendship and is still each other's best friends, and many men and women who are still in the palace may have nothing but the empty palace itself. In 2018, the marriage rate in my country was only 7. At the same time, the national divorce rate reached 38% in 2018, close to 40%, and the highest in Heilongjiang Province has reached 63%. In the United States, which is the leader in divorce rate, the divorce rate of first-time marriages has remained above 50% all year round, and choosing to end a marriage is no longer a niche behavior. In the face of such a huge reality base, it may be time to face up to the question of "what is the essence of marriage". The huge betrothal gifts and dowry before marriage, the wide-ranging elements at the time of marriage, the sound of gongs and cannons, provoking newcomers, are the classic opening of Chinese-style marriages. This is not just a major ceremony, it is more like a witness scene of a contract gambling game, and everyone present has placed a bet on this marriage and increased their stakes. Therefore, when the new couple can't stand the ravages of time and decide to part ways, they must make a big noise and break up completely, so that they can be worthy of the original investors from all walks of life - this table is not what I want to lift. At that time, the parents' hard work and dedication, the eyes of relatives and friends, the team of seven aunts and eight aunts, and the madness of their own uncontrollable emotions all contributed to an unsustainable marriage that inevitably slipped into the abyss of dog blood. The ensuing war of child seizure made the two sides even more tense and hysterical, and wiped out the remaining trace of warmth. Although the end of an American-style marriage does not have the cheers and fanfare of Chinese-style relatives and friends, the competing interests and the almost cold rational judgment are equally lackluster. Much of what makes divorce so frustrating is that we tend to overestimate the value of a marriage. Paying at all costs, using too much force, and seeing marriage as a container for all emotions, energy and wealth - once broken, it will be scattered on the ground, and it will be hard to collect. We start a family in order to pursue happiness, and marriage is just a way and a way to achieve happiness. In order to reach the other side of happiness, we should try our best to maintain this boat, but we should not lose the freedom to choose again in order to stick to marriage. What is the essence of marriage? Marriage is not a cage that imprisons all one’s emotions, and the failure of marriage does not mean the failure of life. A marriage should be a “transportation method” for the journey of life. If we feel dizzy, we can choose to get off at a certain stop. Do not make each other suffer from turbulence. Marriage should be a matter for two mature adults to judge, choose and undertake by themselves without external interference. Even divorce should not equate to emotional destruction and total loss. It's just that when we wave goodbye, we need to sort out our emotions and cherish our former confidants. As at the end of "Marriage Story," Nicole leans over to tie the loose shoes for Charlie, who is holding Henry
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