First of all you have to know that it is not a persuasion film
1. After watching the one-sided part of fear of marriage, I think you can watch it several times.
Contrary to the fear of marriage, what Charlie and Nichole showed me was intense love, courage in the face of conflict, mutual help in career, compromise and mutual incomprehension. Based on these, you can't say that it is a failed marriage, and that the ending is not beautiful does not mean that the process is not beautiful. After reading it, I began to yearn for this kind of life where someone loves me deeply and needs me and resents me, when every girl rips the social label of an independent woman in the 21st century (sometimes because they are too afraid to lose this label, people can't express it. ) In fact, the following is a heart that longs to be loved madly. In fact, the purpose of marriage is not to succeed. It should not have success or failure. It only cares whether the process is pure or not.
2. About the ending
The director is Noah, I thought it was Woody, flashbacks + immersive viewing experience, if people with divorce experience can fully arouse empathy. The ending of this film has no ending for me. They are getting divorced. This is very clear at the beginning of the film. The only suspense is whether after all kinds of troubles there will be a divorce in the end. It's good, but there is no reconciliation in the end. I think this is the correct way to make money and not to please the audience. Besides, few people are so easily moved by happy endings. There are many modern movie fans, and few are obsessed with false happiness. Can't tell who is right and who is wrong, can't say good or bad, it is not arrogant as a life mentor to give you a clear answer in front of your screen, the role of this movie is not to guide you but to make you think In the future, guide yourself and you will definitely get something after reading it, but don't expect him to tell you.
3. Feminism
Another feminist movie by accident
First, in the process of presenting the independent lives of the two, the screenwriter and director actually showed obvious partiality to Nichole. On the surface, no one is right or wrong. In fact, there are traces of beautifying Nichole and slightly belittling Charlie. Charlie, for example, Charlie's desire to control his son is very obvious. What you should do what you shouldn't do, even including the subjects that his son is good at, he must be stubborn, and Nichole is always warm and kind, bringing his children are always laughing, or do you want to highlight the way single fathers get along with their children? I don't understand it a bit, but the second half of the movie still highlights Charlie's emotions (for example, he is brave enough to cover the blood with his sleeves when he hurts his hands). Where is the reason for the arrangement? A sudden sympathy?
Second, the passage of the Virgin Mary Jesus that Nora said is very obvious. Everyone has seen this. The image of the mother is "highly standardized" in the relationship between the sexes. The mother cannot cheat, the mother cannot drink alcohol, and the mother cannot live Violence, if the mother cheats, drinks alcohol, and abuses domestically, then the mother will go into the 18th hell and can't be forgiven for putting her in a chastity lock. Of course, the father can't cheat, nor should he abuse alcohol and domestic violence. , But if my father did this, he would be forgiven by society by default. The patriarchal society has been around for a long time, and people's subconscious has such a bad root. Although they are like this, they are! They are our fathers, they should be forgiven, bad fathers but still fathers, just as the Virgin Mary gave birth to Jesus and was still pure and unblemished A virgin, God didn't even exchange bodily fluids with her, a truth, to mothers requirements are so high. A little bit of mapping, the high requirements for mothers are actually high requirements for the entire female group. Why does the society judge women’s body, appearance, and dress differently than men? It is worth thinking about this point beyond the movies, why I don't talk about feminism, because we can't be blindly angry, feminism is too angry now, this is not what this movie is about .
3. See the truth in the details
In the first place, at the beginning of the movie, the two sit in a mediation office and write a summary of each other's advantages. Here we have the perspective of God, that is, our audience knows what they wrote, but the two parties in the film refuse to read each other aloud. Well, at this time the audience knows that their relationship started with warm and warm love and affection, and it is now on the verge of ending, but they don't know what happened in the middle to make it qualitative. Skip to the end, the divorce was successful, Charlie accidentally (finally) saw the merit summary written by Nichole, at this time he and the audience were crying (I cried here), when you love someone, you can actually pay attention There are so many details on him, and knowing how you are, there is no way to change the fact of separation. Unfortunately, this is the irreversibility of feelings. A wave of tears, very clever narrative method.
In the second place, Charlie left Nichole's house in LA. The power went out. The two of them closed the door without electricity and looked at each other reluctantly, but in the end the door was still closed. Willing to, but must end.
In the third place, Charlie sings in a bar near the end. This solo is from the modern musical "Company," which explores a young man named Bob, who is unmarried and has three girlfriends. , There are ten couples around him who are his best friends. His best friends are urging him to get married every day, but he can't find a reason for him to get married in his best friends. I sang this reason and summed it up, alone is alone, not a life. Even if I know that marriage will bring you trouble, I still want someone who needs you morbidly, forcing you to care, but when you fall asleep chatter. Putting this song at the end is a good interpretation of Charlie's folded state of being single and his former married life after the divorce. Choosing single or married is always a very contradictory topic of discussion, and everyone can only do it by himself. explore.
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