At the end of last year, I watched Scarlett's "Marriage Story" with Mr. Sun. It was a rare occasion. He chose a movie that I would like to watch, and he usually doesn't catch a cold. In order to finish it smoothly, I coaxed Sister Sanshui to sleep early. It took me two days to read it, and a few days to review it, and I determined that it was the best in 2019 in my mind - delicate and accurate. A long-lost good movie, where is it? I think a sentence said by the director of "Four Springs" can express the power of this film.
What we perceive is a unified emotion, where do these perceptions come from? These details have to be analyzed bit by bit, and how each detail should be expressed. Of course, over-expression is also terrible. Too much personal emotion is injected into it, which cannot be perceived by most people. We need to find this kind of synaesthesia before we know how to convey it appropriately. The more records you have, the more sensitive you are to the details. The details are particularly moving. Looking back, you will find that this is the inner driving force.
Everything is reasonable! I love this film for two reasons: First, its narrative awakens my thoughts about the ability to express details. Second, the content of its story gave me a little more experience of married life and dispelled the generally meaningless pessimism.
Because of my personal experience, divorce is no longer a pessimistic thing in marriage. "Let's get divorced", the idea of each other is as natural as the baby's beginning to germinate an independent personality. It is an inevitable factor when two individuals collide for a long time.
In retrospect, my parents' divorce continued throughout my adolescence, and I witnessed their various entanglements. At that time, I would stubbornly think that since they were not suitable for each other, it was the right thing to separate. Why can't you let it go? To a certain extent, this movie allowed me to fully see in this separation, the two sides in love, the two sides in tacit understanding, the two sides in compromise, from filing for divorce to being driven by divorce, pulling out daggers and stabbing each other’s pain points.
On the first anniversary of my marriage, I understood what marriage was like by thinking about the reasons for divorce, and I am grateful for it.
Talk about this movie.
Perhaps without the involvement of lawyers, this won't be a marriage story that ends in divorce, but one that recounts a relationship like the one in "Love in the Trilogy." In my opinion, the several quarrels in the movie are not for divorce. They are not much different from the quarrels of daily partners. The relationship between the two has always been accompanied by tenderness.
Like Mr. Sun and I, we had several big fights in the first year of our marriage. We could raise our values to parenting and future planning. Usually I'll be the 'Nico' (the heroine) who pokes his pain points and forces him to deal with it, while he is the 'Charlie' (the hero) who was ignorant at the beginning, and then suddenly realized, and the result of the quarrel is also the same as the movie. In the same way, we will hug and apologize, and then we will cook when we should cook, and read when we should read.
Perhaps the difference is that I'm not short, and I never compromise on problems, so he's less able to ignore my needs, cut his nails or celebrate his progress in work when the problem isn't solved.
But I think the most important thing is that there are no experienced friends around me who can help me introduce lawyers (laughs).
Writing this, I really have to first sigh about the casting of this movie: the widow sister who is less than 1.6m plays the heroine and Adam who is close to 2m plays the male protagonist. The director never balanced this height difference.
So you will see the widow sister quarrel and jump up, and the other can still look down and curse with fingers down, like the beginning of this marriage breaking down: Nico feels that in this marriage, Charlie never really "see" her. So she's going to jump up and tell him she'll make him have to pay attention to her and get to know her again.
Widow sister has this kind of energy. In terms of character image, in addition to her aggressive side, she can also show you the side of a good wife and mother. And Adem has also given the character a considerable degree of fullness. He can handle work and family members calmly, rationally and patiently, and stubbornly use the parent-child time between him and his son. vulnerable side.
As a scene in the movie says, they look so well-matched and dazzling.
The character's character can be displayed so well, precisely because the script was not biased at the beginning of the design. After a special understanding, the director is not limited by his own experience. He also visited various matrimonial lawyers, judges, mediators members, etc., perfect their marriage perspectives from their cases and viewpoints, and penetrate into the roles. Not only that, in order to balance the role forces on both sides, they will also use tones and space to create different character backgrounds for the two. For example, these two posters:
So I'll be listening to Nico complain and think of poor Charlie being dragged from New York to Los Angeles by her so often that she's stuck in hotels and empty apartments, having to withdraw at the peak of her career, and when Charlie is enjoying the honor and the crowd in New York, she'll be Seeing Nico's cramped eyes, thinking that in this marriage, she is more of the heroine in his drama, and accepting the fact that he loves him more than she does.
This film does not discuss what is right and what is wrong.
At the beginning of the film, the characters are developed in the monologue of two people. Charlie read what he wrote about Nico in his eyes, Nico read about Charlie in her eyes, and in most complementary flashes, they both wrote about the other being a competitive guy. I think that's it, when Nico got the chance to play the pilot show in Los Angeles, Charlie couldn't congratulate him calmly, and after belittling the opportunity, he said that he could put the money of the pilot show into the theater, and Nico was also Motivated by emotions, he chose the intervention of a lawyer, hoping to reverse his life. Probably many divorces started on a whim, pushed through the hands of others, ended in shock, and finally realized that the opportunity was missed in retrospect.
So after the divorce, Charlie finally moved to Los Angeles. Nico had a new life as she wished, not only nominated for an Emmy Award director but also a new boyfriend. In the field of career, Charlie understood what she wanted to be seen. Immediately afterwards, Nico's letter from Charlie in her eyes was accidentally discovered. It was originally the same article as the opening narration, and the last few paragraphs were arranged to appear at the end. Charlie choked out and read it out, making people sigh:
This sentence reminds me of the following scenario:
But this is not a love story.
This is the outline of the main line of the story. It is too difficult to summarize what the story is about. It feels as if we all know a certain truth, but when it comes to examples, we are running out of words. Perhaps a story that cannot be generalized is more likely to be a good story.
In addition to the main story of the two protagonists, the side branches are also full of surprises. Lawyer Nora, as the woman's booster, said something that made me think that my marriage is very important:
In the siege of marriage, we are all more influenced by each other, either blessed or reduced. I hope that all of this will not be truly understood until we leave.
peace.
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