Freudey believes that "attack" is one of the instincts of human self-defense, which brings not only destruction, but also a release of enormous energy. And the "language attack" of swearing is more like an invisible dagger, which can also hurt people. Therefore, in terms of morality and etiquette, we must never allow it to exist, but sometimes, we slam the dagger at ourselves. A prick may open a vent for emotions, and may satisfy the suppressed desire of human beings to attack.
Couples who quarrel, couples who don't choose their words... All those who confront each other with verbal violence are not all desperate. It is precisely because there is room and thoughts that they speak ill of each other. It is to decompress oneself, and it is also to send a signal to the other party—you and I are not all fate, at least we have something to say.
Cursing is also emotional. If there is emotion, it means that the heart is not dead. Once a couple, couple, and friends are torn apart, because they deeply understand each other's weaknesses, they will definitely point to the weak point when they make a move.
Favorite, tear it up, the most ruthless.
Wife hysterical: You blend in with your selfishness, you bastard!
Husband is hysterical: I wake up every day and I wish you were dead! why don't you die? I hope you get sick and get hit by a car!
This is a ten-minute battle of words between the two couples in the movie "Marriage Story". Adam Driver plays the drama husband Charlie, and Scarlett Johansson plays the actress's wife Nicole: The two sides originally wanted to talk calmly and rationally. In the camera, the two were sitting on their sofas, and Nicole talked about herself The desire to return to Los Angeles, Charlie expresses confusion and does not care.
Nicole tried to get closer, approached Charlie, and confided her feelings, but Charlie didn't understand, communication was ineffective, and began to point fingers at each other: vicious accusations about lawyers, bad marriages, parenting styles... more emotional The more excited, the more the problem escalated, Charlie tried to stay away, spinning around the room, while Nicole pressed step by step.
In the end, they talked about the part of the characteristics they didn't want to be their parents as the main point of attack. Both sides were out of control and hysterically cursing each other's ancestors for the eighteenth generation. This scene is too real. These days, it is the warriors who dare to marry. The one who hasn't left is Deadpool.
There are as many people in this world as they are getting married, and there are as many people who are getting divorced. The most popular, but also the most ruthless, people can live together for various reasons, or to relieve loneliness, or to traditional needs, or security demands, or even just to share the cost of living, it is certain that there is love in the first place to have the courage to enter the marriage.
Love makes a marriage, but once it touches time, the marriage begins to collapse. The once good luck will be killed by triviality, burnout, disgust and many other bad emotions during the time. Nicole and Charlie stabbed themselves while beheading each other with vicious words.
The title of the film is "Marriage Story". The couple Nicole and Charlie are still decisive. They have been torn and broken, but they are still warm when parting from each other. Charlie reads Nicole's letter "although it has no meaning now. but I'll never stop loving him." It's too early to fix.
For some couples, there is no possibility of repair, and some couples may not be able to let each other go after tearing up for a lifetime, especially middle-aged couples, quarrels and rants are the main theme of their lives, and each other has lost the initiative. Quan, they are angry, uneasy, self-tired and begging for nothing. They don't believe in love, but they still devote themselves to it without turning back. Pure itself is just an overly pure goal.
In that bed, who knows what the person sleeping next to you is thinking? Having different dreams in the same bed is the normal state of marriage, just like in the [45th anniversary], the couple survived to the golden wedding, so what? Not without feelings, just without passion. The wife is a good wife, but the husband can't feel the wife. They have been married for 45 years, and their lives are highly synchronized. The middle-class life is not up and down, extremely frozen, they are very similar to each other, they are usually expressionless, to each other, to others, Even for themselves, they rarely lose control of their emotions, and their joys, anger, sorrow and joy are so shallow, and tearing and forcing has become a luxury.
So Bergman, who has been married 5 times, has a line at the beginning of his movie "Marriage Life":
"Do you believe that a couple can be together forever?"
"That's an absurd custom, and marriage should be a five-year contract."
Brutally revealed Bergman's attitude towards marriage, those marriages are like a grave, completely dead, those pain, indifference, betrayal, despair, and endless silence and crying, as if all the hero and heroine have lost one. With the key to open their hearts, they are destined to wander in the personal world of nothingness. They are like isolated islands floating in the sea. In the ebb and flow of the tide, some drift farther and farther, and some begin to approach each other. Later, they collided with each other, hit their heads and broke blood and no longer knew each other.
Obviously "Marriage Story" is not as desperate as marriage. Although it is ruthless enough to tear it apart, it still shows the mutual understanding, appreciation and achievement between the two. At the end of the film, Nicole ties Charlie's shoelaces. It doesn't matter whether the marriage exists or not. The important thing is to stop hurting each other and let each other go. This is precisely because there is hatred in marriage, but it is also full of warmth and love. A good marriage story is a good gathering and good dispersal, and a marriage where "buying and selling is not possible, but benevolence and righteousness are there".
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