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Prince Bouyirodian, Brother Pheasant of Guizhou, Zhong Hanliang Futian, Aamir Khan of Shenzhen, image spokesperson of Laoganma in southern China, national first-class dishwasher (enjoying special allowances from the State Council), best-selling book "It's Time to Fall in Love" You are going to study, you should make money, and you want to fall in love." The author, a man who has no womb but gave birth, has won a movie star, has had a near-death experience, and has been looking forward to returning to his mother star. (If there are any similarities, hit me)
As we grow older, we gradually understand that life is actually a game for the brave, no matter in the battlefield, in the shopping mall, or in love, if we don’t fight for it, how can the sky fall? pie? Even if the pie falls, will it fall a second time?
Whenever I watch a group of people go on and on, watch you sing, I will appear, watch the wall change the king's flag, and watch all kinds of bigwigs make their debut.
Is it luck or ability? Is it accidental or inevitable?
Are those so-called heroes real heroes, or are they just reckless?
Those so-called heroes, the so-called successful people, you don’t know how much risk he really took to achieve his goal, and this risk is very likely to completely destroy him, and he is lucky and escaped in the end.
People tend to get carried away easily, taking chance as inevitable, luck as ability, and recklessness as bravery, and even the wisest person is often unable to tell the difference.
If you rely entirely on the blessing of God and pray for luck to come, then what is the point of struggle?
One of the great joys of life lies in finding inevitability in chance, finding a way out in confusion, and lighting a light of wisdom in the dark.
With strong will and scientific methods, many problems in the world can be solved.
Even so, we still have to respect nature. Life is limited and the world is infinite. There will always be exceptions. When exceptions come, we just need to accept them and deal with them calmly.
The benevolent do not worry, the wise do not fear, the brave are invincible.
What kind of person is the real hero?
1. Is bravery a momentary state or a personality trait?
I was treated in Guangzhou in September and revisited the movie "The Deer Hunter". I was very excited at the time, especially because of the deep brotherhood in it.
I just finished watching "The Deer Hunter", and I briefly talk about three deep feelings:
1. About love:
①Love is very likely to happen naturally and without reason, and the feeling of guilt and self-sacrifice deepens the depth of love.
②Love is not a purely happy journey, but also an ascetic practice. Let love be like wine for a long time, and every time it floats from the deep alley, it always makes people want to stop.
2. There are two kinds of bravery in the world:
① One is the passion that bursts out in an instant, which I call a state. What is needed is the belief that one hit hits and perishes together, otherwise, it will be exhausted again and again and it will not last.
②One is a personality that is not afraid of changes. I call it a trait that does not easily change with the external environment or excessive pressure. It is also very likely to bless its courage and become stronger over time.
3. About risk:
①Revenue = probability × odds × luck factor.
②The way of gambling with life in exchange for money like the Russian turntable is something I don’t agree with. Just like I don’t agree with the famous saying of the boss of Delongtang, “As long as we gamble with our lives, it must be the most exciting.” , Life is the capital of the revolution. The most taboo thing for investors is to make the principal suffer permanent loss. If life does not exist, what is the use of money?
③ Of course, it is feasible that Mike and his brothers risk their lives in the cages of the prisoner of war camp.
I once wrote in the article "Pain is the Catalyst of Personality", "Pain is the catalyst of personality, making the wise become wiser, the foolish more foolish, the violent more violent, and the soft more soft."
In fact, pain can also make the brave more The brave and the cowardly become more cowardly.
I found that it may be related to the pain caused by my medical treatment. It seems that I have been paying attention to the topic of "courage (brave)" since this time: Is true bravery a momentary state or a personality Trait?
My answer is: true bravery is a personality trait.
2. What is bravery?
When it comes to "courage (brave)", the first thing that comes to mind is war and conflict. Recently, there has been a little unrest around China, with the confrontation with India in the south and the North Korean nuclear issue in the north. On the issue of whether to fight or not to fight, everyone is talking a lot. The battle has not yet started, and everyone has already fought an unknown number of big battles in their hearts and mouths.
Regarding war, there is a particularly classic exposition in Sun Tzu's Art of War, and I will briefly break it down:
1. War is a major event of the country: Sun Tzu said: Soldiers, the major event of the country, the place of life and death, the way of life and death, must be observed also.
2. In war, five elements must be considered: therefore, the scriptures are based on five things, the school is based on the calculation, and the situation is based on: the first is the Tao, the second is the sky, the third is the earth, the fourth is the general, and the fifth is the law.
3. Justice (the teacher is famous): Taoist, let the people agree with the above, you can die with it, you can live with it, and it is not dangerous.
4. Heaven: Heaven, Yin and Yang, cold and heat, and timing;
5. Geographical advantage: Earth, near and far, dangerous, easy, wide and narrow, life and death
; , Strict;
7. Strict military discipline: the law, the music system, the official way, and the main use.
Of these five things, no one will fail to hear them. Those who know are victorious, and those who do not know are invincible.
When the confrontation between China and India was tense, I used this analysis system to make a preliminary inventory of the situation and decided that fighting a war is not a good thing. The wise authorities on both sides will definitely refrain from escalating the conflict into a war. At that time, I simply did the following in the circle of friends. Comments:
1. War is an extension of politics, not the only means of solving problems.
2. Politics is a game of interests and demands of all parties. How to win or not lose both requires pragmatic handling and responses, rather than acting on emotions. It is necessary to calculate the general ledger, the large account, and the cost-benefit ratio.
3. Victory followed by war, rather than war followed by victory, Tao (international outlook, popular sentiment), heaven (international political pattern, internal resource mobilization), earth (geographical advantage, geopolitics), general (military power, generals), law (Strategy, Tactics, Military Discipline), fully calculated, estimated, planned.
Regarding the inventory of the situation in the war, Sun Tzu said it more clearly, and about the way of being a general, it is simply five words: benevolence, trustworthiness, wisdom, courage and strictness.
So I checked various annotations and found the following ones that are more refined:
Jia Lin's annotation: "A full-time wise man will be a thief; If you have both, you can be a general."
Mei Yaochen said, "Intelligence can make plans, faith can reward and punish, benevolence can subordinate the public, courage can be decisive, and strictness can stand up for power."
Wang Xi: "The wise person is a seer. Those who do not have doubts, are able to make plans, and change powers; those who believe, give orders; those who are benevolent, focus on sympathy and sympathy, and win people’s hearts; those who are brave, follow righteousness without fear, and can be resolute; A phase and a beard are indispensable."
As for the interpretation of the word "brave":
Du Mu commented: "The brave, take
advantage of the situation in a decisive victory, and do not hesitate to patrol." Du Mu's annotation is really precise . Without hesitation, without hesitation. This is the most accurate interpretation of "yong" in my opinion.
"Courage" should be resolute, both courageous and daring! Reckless or reckless, neither can be called brave, the former is cowardly, the latter is reckless.
Courage is not the courage of every man, it is not only the burst of passion, but also contains wisdom and restraint! Only those who have both benevolence, faith, wisdom, courage and strictness can be called true courage. Passion is only a narrow sense of courage, and in the end, it can only become the courage of ordinary people, but not the way of being a general.
3. How to identify brave people?
The situation on the battlefield is changing rapidly. When in the upper hand, the main general can dispatch troops step by step. However, once the war is stagnant, or the situation is not conducive to our side, the soldiers will suffer double torture physically and mentally. As the main general, although there is no life worry for a while, he will inevitably suffer greater mental pressure and physical fatigue, especially Seeing that the momentum of our army continues to decline, and the battle situation is getting more and more unfavorable, the willpower of the main general at this moment is the key to supporting the entire team!
True bravery is a kind of personality trait, it is a kind of courage, it is a kind of facing the great pressure and emotional impact, still using reason and self-control to mobilize one's own inner willpower, calmly deal with it, and ignite the soldier's inner belief. , boost morale and turn things around.
Different levels of sensitivity to emotion or stress require different levels of wisdom and self-control to manage in order to be brave. At the most impulsive moment of emotion, still maintain rationality, guide the flow of emotion with a calm brain, and generate powerful spiritual power!
I once gave an analysis of the different sensitivity of people to information in the article "Geili Ge's Negative Energy Interpretation "Love in the Time of Cholera":
① The reason why people are troubled is actually their lack of wisdom. Wisdom does not just refer to IQ being smart or not, but even emotional intelligence.
②The lack of emotional intelligence, in the final analysis, is a manifestation of lack of intelligence. The observation and collection of information on the state of affairs are incomplete, and there is a lack of thinking in analyzing and dealing with problems, resulting in misjudgments, which affect the choice of the wrong plan, and the wrong plan choice produces behaviors that are completely different or even irrelevant behaviors.
③ Generally speaking, being sensitive to information is a manifestation of intelligence. Being smart literally means having good ears and eyesight, but actually being sensitive to external information. But people who are too smart often receive too much information, resulting in information overload, overwhelmed, and allergies. This is why many of the smart people we think end up doing nothing.
④Sometimes, dullness is a kind of ignorance, and it is also called dullness by some people. People with dullness have the ability to filter information, but it is not the ability to filter. Sometimes it is actually a flaw in their brain implementation. Barriers to receiving certain information help them better process the most useful information with limited energy and attention to make optimal decisions.
⑤ Wisdom and great wisdom are like ignorance. In many cases, they are innate and vary from person to person.
I think that people's different levels of sensitivity to information reflect the characteristics of different types of people that are very difficult to change, and these characteristics can be used to divide people into different types and really identify brave people.
1. The first type of people: People who are emotionally sluggish and emotionally indifferent
will not lose their composure easily. When the war is in an anxious or unfavorable situation, they can play a role in stabilizing the morale of the army, at least they are not in chaos.
However, such a person lacks strong emotions and motivation for positive action, and it is difficult to generate great power and become a leader.
If such people have higher intelligence, they can enter the staff as intelligence analysts.
2. The second type of people: people with sensitive emotions
are easily excited and act blindly when they encounter small things.
They have empathy, and they usually lend a helping hand when others suffer, but when faced with an enemy, they can't do anything.
They can become active actors in wars, but they usually fail to achieve great things, because they lack the intellect formed by deep thinking and the courage to lead everyone forward.
They can be active responders and followers in the ranks.
3. The third type of people: people who are very excited
are usually people of noble character. They have strong self-esteem, hate evil, and be straightforward.
They are easily excited, and they are prone to reckless and blind actions that lead to big mistakes.
But it's not that they are less intelligent and less motivated, on the contrary they may be very intelligent people with noble motives, and they can also form a force around them, but usually their emotions outpace their intellect, often Do things that they regret later.
This type of person is more suitable to be a lower-level general, and only needs a noble motive to inspire his determination, and he can go forward.
However, if the war is intense and a protracted war is fought, their willpower will decay faster.
4. The fourth type of people: strong feelings, but deep and not revealing
. Although these people have strong emotions, they are deep and not revealing.
They are not easily dominated by emotions, on the contrary, they use reason and self-control to control and guide the strong emotions in their hearts, resulting in great power.
But once they lose the self-control shaped by their noble beliefs and motives, their sanity melts away, and passion takes over, with enormous destructive power.
That's why we Chinese people often say "do not match morality", which is exactly what we are saying.
Fourth, love requires courage!
Some time ago, a colleague talked to me about her 13-year-old son's puppy love. The child's mother-in-law also gave special support. She helped take care of the child and tutored her every day. She also talked with her on the phone every day to discuss education and future planning. She said she was a little worried instead.
When I heard that there was such a good thing at the time, I was instantly envious. It really was the back waves of the Yangtze River pushing the front waves! Little old driver!
I said, "In your son, I see dreams that I didn't realize when I was young!"
But I also gave her my opinion at the time.
Children who grew up listening to my stories, I will give them a few points of view, but I dare not say to their parents:
1. Love is beautiful, and learning to love is a manifestation of growth. Love represents responsibility. If you are not ready, you don't have to realize it. Hidden in your heart can't hide its beauty. Courage is a valuable quality, recklessness is not. There is wisdom in courage, and the key to getting something is to make yourself worthy of it.
2. When it's time to fall in love, don't die reading, but remember: love needs to grow together. If one person is left behind, it may become a person from two worlds.
3. Masturbation is not bad, adults will. To learn temperance, this is a required course for growing up as an adult.
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