In China's sex education system, sex is directly expelled from the temple, and love is fortunate to have a dragon robe and a body as holy and sacred. It is a life-and-death bond between the hand that holds the child and the child's growing old together. It is the mutual support of the icy and jade-like case and the eyebrows, but it has never been the realization of the original impulse of carnal desire or just a piston movement in the body of the interaction between the two sexes. Therefore, in China, the love of the hawthorn tree is love, if you are the one, a blind date of a hundred people can be love, and a one night stand or a gun friend is definitely a hooligan.
In fact, since human beings had psychological, cultural and other multi-level development factors, "love" has nourished and sprouted from the primitive sexual desire, so in the next few centuries, "sex" and "love" (Eph. Lloyd said that love is the sublimation of the sexual drive), the relationship began to get weird and tangled.
The Marquis de Sade began to write SM works during the French Revolution, and in such a stable social environment, the men and women in a rapidly developing society no longer need to use radical sexual behaviors to resist social unrest, and Due to the guarantee of economic and social welfare, human beings no longer need to establish a family as a guarantee of personal survival. Thus, the separation of sex and love becomes a possible and desirable thing.
In the film, the male and female protagonists played by Justin and Kunis are examples of trying to completely separate sex and love. While maintaining a relationship with each other, they can still have a one-night stand or seek love between men and women. This kind of character setting is very in line with the emotional needs of the rapid development of the current society-sex separation. At first, the two only regarded each other as a healthy and hygienic libido object and a life relationship exchange object. With the frank communication, the two developed a unique love model of "sex and love".
The marriage system and the concept of sex are related to a specific mode of production. At the current stage of social production and development, human beings still cannot get rid of the family structure dominated by monogamy. But in fairy tale love movies, one-night stands cannot be held after all, and the return of the protagonists to the ideal state of the unity of sex and love is the kingly way to attract the audience's attention. However, with the changes in production methods brought about by new technologies, the human marriage system and concept of sex may undergo subversive changes, but what will happen in the future, who knows? Maybe "friends with guns" will become the norm?
On Weibo, I once met a fan friend who sent a private message to find a gun friend. The content of the friend’s private message was sincere and candid, and fully expressed his understanding of the relationship between the gun friends – the boyfriend and girlfriend who are purely sexual relations frequently , Continuous one-night stand without power and money transactions, only talk about sex, not love, but you can still discuss life, gossip about trivial matters, and share joys and sorrows. The friend said: In today's society, material desires are rampant, power and money are the first, and true love is difficult to find and maintain. However, the loneliness and hesitation brought by living make people extremely eager to communicate with others' spiritual desires. It also gave people the strength to move on.
I don't advocate the emotional model of sex separation, nor do I think that gangsters can be popular in the current social environment, but I really appreciate the sincerity and frankness in the "spirit of gangbangers". Although the entanglement of sex and love is contradictory, this simple entanglement of inner will beyond economic interests, compared with the material measurement of houses, cars, and bills, may be on the road of seeking love. Simpler and more real.
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