It took me a long time to watch this movie and I cried a few times.
The show features several "weak" mothers whom Abby has commented as unfit to have children at all.
The first mother is the mother of the writer. She covets beautiful appearance more than anything. When her daughter is not pursued, she is not only anxious, but more importantly, disgusted. She is so beautiful, how can her daughter not be beautiful?
So the writer sits alone on a park bench and weeps when no one's dating her, because she's afraid to tell her mother, because people think she's too unattractive to date her. Only the black nanny comforted her, telling her that every day we make decisions about whether we should believe the stupid comments made about us. At the same time, she told her that ugliness is a concept in people's minds, and that meanness and indifference are the real ugliness. These encouragement and support are very important for adolescent girls who are in urgent need of guidance, so she has the courage that her mother does not have.
In the play, when the writer argued with his mother, he said that he was brought up by a nanny for 29 years. According to the mother's performance, she should have been too immersed in her own desires when she was young, and it was impossible to give her children extra care and love. . The nanny also made a profound summary of this. Her mother was pushed by life, so she had no vitality.
This is similar to the women I see in reality. They get married when they are at the age of marriage. If they can’t earn much money from work, they take care of their children and do housework at home. Not only that, but they also need to dress themselves up at all times, and don’t dare to get old and fat, because She only relies on her beauty. They don't know how big the outside world is, they just think that I don't dare to go out, I have to rely on others to live. How can such a woman take on the responsibility of taking care of the next generation? They are not even responsible for themselves.
The second mother is the mistress of Abby's working family. Abby said that she suffered from postpartum depression, and she had a carnival with her best friend every day, and she didn't care about her daughter at all. There is a scene where she is arguing with her husband, but when she sees an outsider, she behaves strangely, not angry, but embarrassed and makes you laugh. It seems that if these are covered up, she is good at handling everything, and the family is harmonious and the husband and wife are loving.
Abby encouraged the little girl to urinate by herself. In the end, the girl learned to urinate. She was very proud of her and hoped that the hostess would also praise her. As a result, the hostess directly carried her daughter to the bed and asked Abby to hurry up and entertain the guests. She was completely indifferent to the little girl.
When the writer was pranking another best friend, he asked people to send the old toilet to the lawn at home. The little girl wanted to pee, so she immediately sat on the toilet to pee. Man's face hits little girl. Abby was in tears, but there was nothing she could do.
How lonely can a child be without a mother? How much courage is needed? Everyone else understands, but my mother doesn't. In the end, the little girl said to Abby that her throat was sore, and her mother did not respond, but Abby had already decided to leave at this time. She could only let the little girl go to the bed and lie down, and asked her to repeat, I am very kind, I am beautiful...
I don't know how long the little girl has to endure in indifference to grow up, but this belongs to her life.
A hint: "I'm kind, I'm beautiful." Maybe Abby also hopes that when the little girl grows up, she can really understand that it's not her fault that her mother doesn't like her. She has always been kind and beautiful, and she should believe in herself.
When watching "Orphan Train" before, the author also wrote several weak mothers from the perspective of little girls. The girl's own mother, unable to bear the poverty of life, made up for the emptiness in her heart by giving birth to one child after another.
But after she gave birth, she was always in bed, always sick. Even if they are in better health, they are not willing to cook a little food for their children. The children take care of themselves. How is this like when many parents turn on their TV and mobile phones and sit by themselves and play Douyin or Kuaishou? An hour, and an hour, and the kids couldn't get their attention.
Another mother is the mother of the little girl's foster family. In the winter, the child does not wear socks. She sits on the floor outside the house to pick up grass to eat. The house is not warm anywhere. It is like an ice cave everywhere. The mother is also lying on the bed. , the bed was stuffed with all kinds of clothes, the child was not allowed to go to bed, and was kicked off as soon as he went to bed. Under such circumstances, the mother was still pregnant with a child.
I once saw a little girl in the park, in winter, in cotton pajamas, sitting on a blanket with tousled hair, with her grandfather on the rocking bed. When we were sitting on our blankets, she came over, and I gave her the hawthorns, and she ate them one after the other, and finally ate all the hawthorns that I took out the door. She said confusedly that she hadn't eaten for a long time. He also said that last night mom and dad quarreled, mom left and dad went to play cards. Grandpa was playing with his mobile phone on the shaker. He didn't bring water or snacks to the child when he went out. He only asked her to sit on the mat and not run around. If it couldn't be done, he showed her the mobile phone.
Seeing us sitting there, grandpa said he went out for a walk, told her not to run, gave her the phone and left. She also showed me Happy Live, a 4/5 year old girl, the biggest entertainment is watching Kuaishou live.
This is not an accidental situation. There is a girl in my downstairs community. She looks like 5 years old. Every time I see her, she is watching Douyin. The same is true for her father. , like two sculptures.
They are all people who cannot afford to live. If so, why should they have children? How many years will it take for a child to grow up in such an indifferent family to heal the emptiness and weakness in his heart?
Just ask, those who cannot afford life, control their desire to reproduce.
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