Finally grew up

Marcos 2022-04-23 07:01:05

I have always felt that I will not catch a cold with this kind of growth-themed movies. After all, I have watched too much. After all, as I grow older, I still have resistance. Now watching movies, it is easy to find the feeling of heartbeat.

This kind of thinking even persists until halfway through the movie, so embarrassing, embarrassing from the very beginning - a letter to a "friend" who may not exist at all, the collective life that has to be dealt with in days, not Classmates on a channel, awkward interpersonal relationships, double expectations for solitude and friends, and a physique that is easier to get together with people older than me, desperately trying to push myself out but always pulling myself back at the last step Contradictions...even hobbies like reading and writing are both embarrassing. After all, who wants to see in a movie a past that he desperately abandoned but followed like a shadow?

If I had watched the movie in the year it was just released, I might have had a strong sense of substitution, and I would have seen every minute carefully, hoping that the director would give an answer to each question, and point out Charlie, who was in and out of the movie. A clear road. But now, after crossing a certain invisible threshold, after the saddest days have passed, seeing such a character, such a setting, such a plot, I only feel tired, tired for the actors, and awkward. Tired of the past.

Moreover, no matter how such a story develops, the ending is the same - the protagonist will eventually grow up, whether it is a way of falling into hell through a rebellious drug addiction or a way of being healed, warmed, accepted and redeemed. About an hour into the film, a conflict suddenly appeared. It seemed that after waiting for too long, a bunch of burdens were shaken out. Charlie ended his relationship with Mary in the worst way possible. Patrick's boyfriend was arrested. Father finds out that he is gay, and to protect himself, he chooses to betray Patrick, which hurts Patrick deeply; Shan is still with the unlovable playboy, but she kisses Charlie and says she loves him; The shadows of childhood that have been haunting Charlie are beginning to surface... This series of dramatic conflicts is a bit hard for me to digest, and my worry is, how will this mess end?

But after watching it, I realized that my worries were unnecessary. The director probably didn't plan to give the movie an ending from the beginning. In other words, he didn't plan to give growth a way out at all. In the first half of the film, it was the childhood of many people. We traveled on the same train, but as we walked, the railway branched into different roads. The second half of the film became the growth trajectory of Charlie alone. He got rid of his inner demon, he didn't fall, he still loves to read and write, he opened his arms in the tunnel to meet the embrace of the wind, he wrote to his "friend" that I won't write so many letters in the future, Because I also have to learn to fit in. He didn't say anything about integration, I think, it's life. He hasn't graduated from high school, his road is still long, and it's far from the end, but I think he has found the key to growth, he decided to integrate, he said We sing. We dance. We steal things. I really want to say to him, congratulations, you have also crossed that threshold.

Looking at the rest of the film, Shan and Charlie's sisters both broke up with the scumbag, and they no longer think that's the love they deserve. Patrick didn't explain, but the smile on his face was not clouded at all, which was good.

We, who started from the same place but took different fork in the road, also grew up in different ways along the paths we chose. The happy thing is that they all grew up in the end; or it can be said that it is a pity that they all grew up in the end.

The place where the story stops is just right. I remember watching "Boyhood" yesterday, Mason pointed to the group of sorority girls and said to Sheena that it was you in four years, and then pointed to a middle-aged man who was dancing and spitting in front of the dining table and said that it was four years. later self. Thankfully neither movie got this far. Maybe one day we will become the most hated person we used to be, but at least before that, we have worked hard to be the self we like, at least in the process of the train moving forward, there is a moment, even if it is just a moment, we accept self.

Those who used to be lonely, embarrassed, awkward, helpless and hesitant will all be ground into powder by time. The only negative effect is that it will make you feel embarrassed when watching a movie, but after parting ways with Charlie, walking down that road by yourself will be rubbish. Becoming a history that belongs to one person alone. But, that's another story.

[After watching this movie, I seem to know why I don't like "Boyhood", probably because the boyhood said too much, facing a stranger, if he said too much about yourself, he would always It will make people uncomfortable because it is too insecure; and "The Perks of Being a Wallflower" does not have this problem, because the director said that your story is only half, and then it is only Charlie, and the remaining half, if You can tell it to anyone you want, but the point is you tell it yourself. It's always more fun and safer to listen to other people's stories than your own, isn't it? 】

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The Perks of Being a Wallflower quotes

  • Patrick: Why can't you save anybody?

    Charlie: I don't know.

  • Sam: You can't just sit there and put everybody's life ahead of yours and think that count as love.