Elizabeth I was known as the Virgin Queen and never married. Maybe there is a point of nobility, maybe there are too few men who can get into her law, but in the final analysis, it is because she is too smart: she knows that once she truly falls in love with a man wholeheartedly, then she will lose the courage to be a king. And decisively. We must be clear that even though Elizabeth I was a queen, she was still a patriarchal society in the Elizabethan era. She was recognized by courtiers because she made her female identity masculine. Under her graceful wig, she is really combing a slightly sparse short blond hair, which is a sign of her masculine. There is a saying that is quite right: "Men conquer women by conquering the world, women conquer the world by conquering men." Once a woman wants to conquer the world, she has to unconsciously masculine her gender role. . Therefore, Elizabeth I couldn't be more clear: if she falls in love with a man, she will unconsciously gradually restore the female identity that was suppressed by her, and restore the original gentleness and delicateness of women, becoming sensual and rich. And these female characteristics will become obstacles to her governance. After all, in the seventeenth century, Britain was not a country that Confucius could rule with benevolence, justice and etiquette, nor was it a chicken that could be managed by Lao Tzu’s daydream of inaction. A small country not heard by dogs; it was an era where the weak and the strong, and the political and religious environments were very complicated. The only possibility for Elizabeth is to find a man with more courage and ability than her, Gan descended from the queen to the queen, and looked at her man happily to rule the world. It's just that she has never been able to take that step.
"What kind of woman do you want to be" has always been a proposition that I sometimes don't think about.
"The Book of Songs" said: "Tao Zhiyao, shining its Hua. The son is home, and it is suitable for his family." I once thought that the shining appearance and the virtuous family of Yiqi's family would be a perfect woman.
Later, I watched An Yiru's "Life Is Just Like First Time", and the beginning of the chapter tells the story of Ban Jieyu: Ban Jieyu is a well-known elegant and virtuous woman in the history books, a well-known lady. Emperor Cheng entered the palace in his early years, and he was highly favored for his beauty and virtuousness. Once, Emperor Cheng wanted to travel with her. She said: "Sages and sages have famous ministers at their side, and the last three generations have daughters." She did not dare to retreat. That was when the emperor was in love with Zheng Nong, because she praised her virtuous, the harem also greeted her, and it was passed on as a good talk, as if she was the queen of Fan Ji of the Chuzhuang King and the eldest grandson of Li Shimin. She is also content, thinking that she has inherited the grace of the Lord, and she is not without family precepts, so that they complement each other. Feiyan's entry into the Han Palace was the beginning of her loneliness. Everything is so unexpected. All the affection, favor, followed the dancer who was as light as a swallow into the palace, and stopped abruptly. I sigh that it is not good to meet people, she is Fan Ji, but her husband is by no means the king of Chuzhuang; she has a talented person or not, but her husband has no blockbuster ambition. In fact, she is not weak, she has beauty and talents, she is too constrained in etiquette, she is too regular, does not have the lightness of flying swallows dancing around the imperial curtain, nor the enchanting charm of Hede bathing. She is too serious to lose her identity. Whatever you do, you have to follow ethics. I don’t understand. You are just Jieyu, not a queen. If you are a concubine, you will always be just a concubine. (This paragraph is excerpted from An Yiru's "Life Is Only as First Seen")
So, I felt that "Yaoyao" was simply replaced by "Demon Demon", and the "Book of Songs" was right. He just didn't agree with An Yiru's statement. If Ban Jieyu really learned the tricks of Feiyan Hede's Yinggeyan dance, she would have been wise to say nothing, and she might become a Dongshi imitation, let the Feiyan sisters read the joke for nothing.
I can only sigh to her that she is not good at meeting people. If she is just an ordinary woman and meets a man who really knows how to appreciate her, how should she treat her as a gift like a godsend, just because of that era. Marrying Chengdi hastily, he abused himself in vain.
In fact, there will never be a single correct answer to this proposition for what kind of person or woman behave. I just like a sentence in "The Duchess": Be who you are.
As a human being, you really don’t have to deliberately deliberately try to cater to others. It’s too fake; you don’t have to be too noble to think about the interests of others and the responsibilities of the family. It’s too tiring; in fact, it’s enough to be yourself.
What you have to do is to wait patiently for the person in your life who really knows how to appreciate you, respect you, and pity you. Then when he shows up, please put aside the so-called reservedness and nobility of women that the public opinion tells you, work hard to grasp your own happiness, and cherish it with your heart.
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