The groom and cousin work in the same hospital. He is a surgeon and his cousin is a nurse in the operating room. If I remember correctly, they started dating in the second half of my sophomore year of high school.
The 25-year-old cousin has been urged by the elders in the family. In their thinking, the age of 25 has been classified as a leftover girl. And I will always stand firmly on the front of my cousin, and I have repeatedly threatened that I will never get married before the age of 30. Regarding the statement made by me, a 16- or 17-year-old high school student at that time, the adults would only talk about Xiaofengsheng as a joke of a child, and at the same time put more time and energy on my cousin's life-long affairs.
Finally, one day, the old sister couldn't bear it anymore and broke out: "I'll bring one back for you to see tomorrow!"
A few days later, the one who promised to take it home and announced it was my current brother-in-law.
Later, follow all couple-to-partner procedures. Appointments, meet parents. Later, my cousin moved to the neighborhood opposite my brother-in-law's apartment, and the two of them had dinner at my cousin's house after get off work. Without the process of two people living together alone, the brother-in-law sometimes spends the night directly at the cousin's house. A year later, sometimes I stayed at my cousin's house for a few days during the school holidays, and I didn't feel embarrassed to dangle in front of my brother-in-law in pajamas with a disheveled face. Imperceptibly, he was already included in the family's definition. Finally, get the certificate and do the wedding. As soon as the final decision was made, my cousin's life-long event was solved in this way.
It's just that I once questioned whether two years was too hasty.
Let's not talk about how much you know about this man who is about to become the other half, if it is because both parties have common interests, such as liking the same singer, watching movies with the same style and taste, personality conforming to the default standard, and there is no extreme exclusion from each other. There are more than 6 billion people in the world, so why do I insist that the one in front of me is the one?
That night, my mother scolded me for being stupid after hearing my opinion on love.
"No wonder you said that you will never get married before the age of 30. With your hesitant attitude, your future husband will have to wait for all the flowers."
= =.
I was still not convinced, but my mother said seriously that my idea was dangerous and should be killed as soon as possible.
"There are indeed more than 6 billion people in the world, and there must be thousands of people who match your like-minded tastes. But when you meet, you meet. You can't look at the person in front of you and wonder if you don't. Someone else in the place is the most suitable for you. After all, you don't know 'that person', everything is empty talk."
When my mother said this, the middle of [elope to the moon] popped into my mind, "This is Five billion people miss the planet every day, how lucky you are to watch the sky with you and compete for favor." The lyrics
also include Zhang Ailing's widely quoted words, what is in the barren time, there is no one step earlier or one step later .
So I seem to understand something.
Until I saw the movie today and felt it,
I completely understood it.
Cousin's love is to educate me about cherishing the truth in front of me and grasping the existing truth. [500 Days with Summer] is to tell people the stupidity of being obsessed and learn to let go.
Combined with the movie,
for Summer, you smashed the dinner plate with dementia, you worked in a daze, you criticized other people's designs incoherently, you hated the sweet congratulations you wrote in the past, and you wantonly vented this world full of lies.
For Summer, you resigned easily, you ignored the advice of your best friends, and you walked out of the supermarket unkempt and shouted at the couple on the road: "Hurry up and open a room!" The tragic male protagonists overlap.
For the sake of Summer, you can no longer hold other women in your eyes, and
you miss Summer day and night, except for Summer, only Summer.
The funny thing is that you still firmly believe that she will change her mind.
You think it would be fun to sit face to face with her by the window of the train and watch the warm sunset, or dance to the melodious music in the moonlight. ,
you stare at the sleeping face leaning on your shoulder or go to her party full of joy and have a premonition that you will be glued together again.
You kept all the good memories of her so intact.
You are so obsessed.
Because you never dare to convince yourself that Summer doesn't love you anymore.
And Summer - I thought she was just a woman who played love as a game, she declared at the bar that she didn't want a boyfriend, confessed at IKEA that she didn't really want to come, she was even able to casually say in the restaurant after breaking up with relish Taste the pancakes on the plate.
It was Summer with such a distinctive personality. One day, while sitting in a coffee shop reading a book, he met a man who came up to ask about the book. That man became her husband a few months later.
All the stories go back to the origin of fate or destiny or meant to be.
The source of Tom's obsession is his unwavering belief that Summer who appeared in his world on January 8 wearing a white cotton shirt is his fate, his the one, the one he has been looking for. On the other hand, Summer, who had denied fate since childhood, went around in circles, but it was fate that led her into the marriage hall in the end.
"If I went to the movie theater? If I went somewhere else for lunch? If I was ten minutes late?"
"I keep thinking, Tom's right, you're right."
"Just, I'm not . Your person."
In conjunction with the example of the cousin.
If the cousin did not study nursing at the time, the brother-in-law did not study medicine.
If both of them have their own ambitions to go to work in different cities.
The surgery they first met, if the cousin hadn't replaced her friend's night shift.
To put it bluntly, that's what happened.
Mom is right, in addition to whether they are compatible or not, there is also a first-come-first-served problem.
The whole process of the cousin and brother-in-law from acquaintance to acquaintance to marriage was smooth and happy. The plot of the movie is naturally more ups and downs. Tom mistakenly thought that he had met him. In fact, his soulmate was waiting for him on the 501st day. A childhood sweetheart is also a kind of destiny. From childhood to adulthood, it has been in the same school and one class, or two families live close to each other. This kind of fetters is caught in a lot of Japanese anime CPs. It turned out that his first love was He Ye, which was even more eloquent. It's not impossible to fall in love at first sight. Although I still think it's a bit fake, I'm speechless in front of the naked example of Ashin.
In short, no one can guess the invisible and intangible things like fate or destiny or meant to be.
But it is still necessary to believe.
The last thing I want to emphasize is that fate or destiny or meant to be are not used as an excuse for some people to be unable to extricate themselves from deep-rooted obsessions.
"It's impossible for me to fall in love with anyone other than him." Please wait until the day when Yun Po Sun is truly awake before considering whether to say it. After all, very few people really can become another Jin Yuelin.
And, if Jin Yuelin is alive, I really want to push him to watch this movie.
Whoops, just kidding.
I would like to use this document for some people who can’t think of it, forget it, can’t let go Children's shoes and tubes of tableware.
The world is beautiful.
If you are still obsessed, go to [500 Days with Summer].
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