I remember when "The Bridge of Last Dream" was released in the United States, I was a kid. When I watched the film mentioned in the domestic media, I was afraid of being misled by this film that "beautifies extramarital affairs". At that time, I had received similar education for many years. Whenever I saw extramarital affairs in literary works, I deeply sympathized with the hated and hated the stealer. Gradually, suspicion began. With the change of social consciousness, I also realized that extramarital affairs is not that simple. As I look at it today, due to the moral judgment of the media, I simply disdain the "Land Bridge Last Dream". "It feels even more unusual.
It is vulgar to regard "The Bridge of Last Dream" as a movie that "beautifies extramarital affairs", and it is superficial to regard "The Bridge of Last Dream" as a movie of "a harmonious society and returning to the family". It is more expressive. It is a choice, a struggle under the shackles of personal happiness and morality. In my growing years, I feel more and more that marriage is not meant to make people happy. Its function is to maintain social organization. It is a product of the development of human society. It can even be said that it is anti-human. In fact, society must cooperate, and some human things must be controlled. Therefore, the marriage system and its supporting moral system are coming. I need it to combine (bundle) couples of men and women in the name of law. It is of great benefit to the normal functioning of society. Therefore, marriage is not sacred. If it is sacred, why should it be recognized by law? If we move in together, we can’t get there anymore. It’s because of the social demonstration that we all have a "name". Fortunately, on the basis of free love in the current marriage, there are more possibilities of happiness, but the problem also comes. When two people set foot on the marriage palace, they are often in the stage of love and happiness, and they are in harmony and sweetness. However, people are always changing. If two people want to maintain such a sense of happiness, they will undoubtedly have to change at a suitable rhythm, so as to maintain the sense of happiness. We know that the probability of this has begun to decrease greatly. What's more, at any stage, there is always a socially customary "standard age" for marriage. For example, in the current Chinese cities, 25 to 30 years old is the most common. How can you say that it is such a coincidence, but it is the one that can make you happy for life. At that age does the person who accompanies you to change and stay happy? Well, the probability of a happy marriage is further reduced. It seems that I am a pessimistic treatise on marriage, yes, it is true, but pessimism is not necessarily a negative emotion. It is precisely under pessimism that we need to think about each other with a pessimistic heart, understand that the other party may be changing, and communicate. To understand, to find a suitable rhythm. In "Covered Bridge Last Dream", we see that the heroine Francesca recalled that when she promised her husband’s love, she was also happy. She went to a friendly town with the longing for a dull life, but she gradually became a woman. A housewife who is troubled by trivial matters, she feels boring, boring, and helpless, but she cannot share it with her husband, because it is difficult to tell, because marriage "isn’t that the way it should be?", at this time she has already begun to change, and her husband may already I noticed it, but due to the inertia of their marriage, they could only live silently like this. At this time, Francesca was only waiting for another change to ignite. The appearance of the photographer Robert, to say something to Francesca, is that the dry material meets the fire, originally,
We often try to beautify and praise love, but if this love has a precondition outside of marriage, we change our attitude, even if it is sincere and strong. Therefore, in marriage, from the spirit to the body, to the entire emotional phase. There must be a lot of people who cheat, but there are always very few people who really take a crucial step, and it is even more difficult to step out in such a decisive way as an elopement. As Francesca said, even if she has no feelings with her husband, she can't bear to hurt her kind-hearted husband, and she can't bear to abandon her children, can't bear to watch her leave, and make her family humiliated. When sensibility meets rationality, passion meets morality, painful struggle is always inevitable. Therefore, the film progresses to the back under a slow rhythm and a touch of emotion, and finally begins a climax full of tension. If you don’t go, it’s even more difficult for a woman, because in the world, a man who cheats may be condemned, but it is often accompanied by subtle "envious" and recognition of his "ability" from other people, while women are different. It is often a complete contempt, not to mention that there is already a "demonstration" of a cheating woman in the town. Frances did not want her family to rest, and her children to suffer. She chose to stay, even if it was only a moment, even if she hesitated for a moment, but she could no longer catch up with the car mark that Robert was far away from. This trace was taken away. An opportunity for her to change her life, a possibility for happiness. Is Francesca's decision correct? No one can answer. Maybe, even if she takes that step, even if she can stabilize a man who wanders around the world, but as mentioned earlier, the uncertainty of love is doomed to the uncertainty of happiness between the two, Robert showed The happiness of her future life is just like the small town life her husband once dreamed of, and it was so desirable. Therefore, for people in marriage, it is always difficult to simply judge another possible choice of happiness. To go or not to go may harm oneself and others. The mainstream morality tends to make the marriage stable. Therefore, when a longing new couple enters the palace of marriage, do not take the marriage conventions for granted. It may be worth maintaining a sense of pessimism, but an optimistic response, more understanding of your partner, and more communication, just like After the death of their mother, Francesca’s children learned about the painful decision of their mother, and began to communicate sincerely with their partners who had already created gaps. It was not too late. It was late on the eve of the collapse of the marriage. We just felt that marriage It’s just a matter of looking, and just knowing how immoral the other person is, and it’s always difficult for people who blame themselves to be happy. At the same time, in marriage, when you see someone making an "immoral" choice, please don't start to despise it first. Later, there are stories that you don't know. Besides, you are also changing. Perhaps one day, someone breaks into your life and provides you with another possibility of happiness. How should you deal with it? This is always a matter of self-knowledge. Welcome to pay attention to the official account: two or three things about movies, ID: aboutfilms
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