If this is the last day of your life, but it is not, it is just the repetition of countless today, and then you hang up in the superposition of time, learn various skills, and achieve the most perfect version of yourself.
But is this what I meant to say? Of course not. This movie seems to fit the theme of "American Beauty" I watched yesterday. In "American Beauty", Lester didn't know that the last day of his life came quietly one night, but he didn't know it. Until the last day of his life, he lived his happiest life, knowing that the person he loved was all right, and that he had done everything that he should have done that day, and that he had not done what he should not have done, and then he was free, Finally had time to look back on everything that made him feel so warm and sweet in the past.
But what "Groundhog Day" wanted to show, the kind I didn't even agree with at the beginning, was also the belief and identification with love that I had long lacked. Phil knew from the beginning that he would not die, that he would live like When he was like a god, he began to pamper himself and drink for pleasure. This is what he said when he first started drinking and driving:
-What if there were no tomorrow? -No tomorrow? That would mean there would be no consequences. There would be no hangovers. We could do whatever we wanted! -That's true. We could do whatever we want. -It's the same thing your whole life. "Clean up your room." "Stand up straight." "Pick up your feet." "Take it like a man." "Be nice to your sister." "Don't mix beer and wine, ever ." "Don't drive on the railroad tracks."
-I don't know, Gus. Sometimes I think you just have to take the big chances. -I'm not gonna live by their rules anymore.
- What if there is no tomorrow? -there is no tomorrow? That is, there is no result. There will be no hangovers and we can do whatever we want! - yes, do what you want - that's what life is about, "clean the room", "stand up", "raise your feet", "be responsible like a man" "be nice to your sister" "don't put the beer Mixed with wine" "Don't drive on the rails"
- I don't know, Jas. I think sometimes it's time to gamble. -I don't want to live by other people's rules anymore.
But after playing with beautiful women, he began to wake up after being slapped again and again by his female colleague Rita. This lack of access also made him lose confidence in his own life, and the only woman he couldn't get rejected him again and again. , He chose to commit suicide again and again, but he would still get out of bed unharmed at 6 o'clock every morning. When you know that you can't even die by yourself, you really have to start thinking about how to live, and when you start to live with enthusiasm, you are full of concern for colleagues who usually turn a blind eye to the homeless. Helping others without expecting anything in return, and even serious about learning a new musical instrument. It's just that your gratitude and praise to others, and your multi-talented life are full of peace of mind, because others don't know it, but you know in your own heart, how many repetitions it took to become broken day and night. Make yourself more confident, generous, excellent, helpful, and make yourself happy and peaceful.
It's important because you don't do it all for yourself anymore, you become humble and optimistic from the inside, because you know that good things take time, when Rita chooses to believe in you and wants to be with you until 6am , Phil's words to himself made me really see a sincere change in a heart, that love can make a person appreciate, respect and humble from the bottom of his heart:
I think you're the kindest, sweetest, prettiest person I've erver met in my life. I've never seen anymore that's nicer to people than you are. The first time I saw you, something happened to me. I never told you, but I knew that I wanted to hold you as hard as I could. I don't deserve someone like you. But if I ever could, I swear I would love you for the rest of my life.
What I want to say is that you are the kindest, thoughtful and most beautiful person I have ever met in my life. I've never met anyone better than you. The first time I saw you, I had a wonderful feeling, I didn't tell you, but I knew I was going to hug you tightly. I don't deserve you. But if I can, I swear I will love you forever.
That night at the bachelor's charity party, when Rita, who was somewhat reserved and aloof, used all the money in her wallet to buy Phil's one night, when she held up her wallet and smiled at Phil, my tears started to spin, and then when Phil was no longer It was the old way of building a snowman and playing snowball fights with children. When he turned the vividly carved head of Rita to face her, my tears fell instantly. When each other feels that each other is worth having, when each other only wants to give everything for each other.
We look back at the time when he asked Rita if he had a match, and he just wanted to date her, so his focus was I know, and he felt like he fit every one of them:
-What are you looking for? Who is your perfect guy? -First of all, he's too humble to know he's perfect. -It's me. -He's intelligent, supportive, funny. -Me, me, me. -He's romantic and courageous . -Me also. -He's got a good body, but doesn't look in the mirror every two minutes. -I have a great body, and sometimes I go months without looking. -He's kind, sensitive and gentle. He's not afraid to cry in front of me. -This is a man, right? -He likes animals and children, and he'll change poopy diapers. -Does he have to use the word ”poopy”? -And he plays an instrument, and he loves his mother. -I am really close to this one. Really really close.
- what are you looking for? What is your ideal person? -First of all, he will be humble and understand that he is not perfect. - that's me - he's smart, supportive, humorous - me, me, me - romantic and brave - me too - he's in great shape but doesn't look in the mirror when he's okay - I'm in great shape and sometimes don't look for months Mirror - he is kind, delicate and gentle, not afraid to cry in front of me - is he a man? - He likes animals and children, and changes diapers with shit - does he have to use the word "poo"? - he plays an instrument and loves his mother - I'm really close to this guy, very, very close
Only later when he took the time to know who the person he loves the most and who is worthy of love, he stopped talking about it, stopped picking girls, stopped falling, and stopped committing suicide, but lived as their common The beautiful look we want, so love happened unexpectedly in expectation. Beautiful relationships require deep understanding and change, because beautiful people also require us to take time to take them seriously, right?
So at the end of this movie, it is no longer about being the best version of myself I wanted to say before (of course, this is also part of it), but it proves another kind of love model, which is different from the one I met you in "New York, New York" What it says: true love that allows you to be yourself.
It is said on the Internet that there are 4 levels of love, have you heard of it? The first level is to get love from others The second level is to love others The third level is to love yourself The fourth level is to love yourself and others (knock on the blackboard, the fourth level really requires a lot of energy and courage what)
Also, how far does your man love you? The first layer, like the second layer, rely on the third layer, love the fourth layer, respect the fifth layer, harmony
I have seen a thoughtful and wise quote about love from Sadhguru: Someone asked: Love seems to be the driving force of my life. I think I'm a little confused between being with someone and having unconditional love for someone. Sadhguru: Is it really unconditional love? The man said: I don't know. Well, maybe not.
Sadhguru: There are some conditions, isn't it? All the conditions you put on each other, if tomorrow they are broken, the same love will turn into anger and hatred. Therefore, if we must maintain your love, we must control this person to do only what you expect him to do. Otherwise, this wonderful love will turn into nasty anger. (Love is the fragile side of life) But if you base your life on the fragile side of your life, you will naturally be anxious all the time because you are sitting on such a fragile flower. There is a whole science behind marriage in India. When two people get married, it's not just family and physical compatibility, but also energy. What you do physically, mentally and emotionally will end with death. But what you're doing at the energy level is still there. Love is not the goal, and today when people talk about the love part, they only talk about the emotional part of it. The emotional part will say one thing today and another thing tomorrow. When you're in a relationship for the first time, you're like, "It's forever," but within three months, you're like, "Oh, why am I with this guy?" "Because things will come up. What you like, what you don't." In this relationship, you only suffer, and the concept of love is not to create suffering, although many poems about suffering have been written. You fall in love because it brings you happiness. Love is not the goal, happiness is the goal. Love is just a currency of happiness. Right now, this is the only way most people know how to be happy. But there is a way to make your nature happy. If you are happy, love is not a problem, you will love no matter what. Only when you seek happiness through love will you be very picky about whom you love. But when you are happy, you can love whatever you see, because there is no fear of entanglement. Only then will you know how to engage in life when there are no entangled fears.
So it's not that we no longer believe in love, nor that we have lost the ability to love. Many problems now are that we don't know how to live happily and to water the flowers of our love in this happiness.
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