After going through some personnel affairs, I revisited Friends again. I didn't graduate before, and what I saw was funny. Now that I have been working for a few years, what I watch is the sadness of each character, just like a Superman movie, my eyes are no longer on the invincible Superman, but all living beings. Perhaps it was because he gradually realized that he had a high probability of only having an ordinary life, the life of all living beings.
The feeling of watching from the first season is still very magical. From the ending, I already know their future lives, know what choices they will make at the juncture of life, and how these choices affect their lives. At that time, they didn't know what their future would be like, they were distressed by the current situation, struggling to make choices in life.
Their lives in the first season were all disappointments. Now I am twenty-six years old, which is the same age as them in the first season. Going to see their stories again, many experiences are similar, and many emotions can resonate .
Refused to enter the marriage, we are all hesitant escape marriage Rachel
The older men are, the more popular they are, and the older women are, the less valuable they are. The whole society binds the value of women to the output of marriage. Those of us who didn't get married after graduation were all Rachels who escaped marriage, either escaping the life arrangements laid out by their families, or rejecting the arrangements of the whole society for women's life plans.
Why Rachel ran away, she couldn't tell. At the age of "marriage", getting married and having children makes oneself "look normal". Love is one thing, living is another. People around us take it for granted, but we "naively" hope that it can be one thing.
Rachel plucked up the courage to escape from the established life, but without relying on the marriage paved under the patriarchy, the road to a new life is not easy, her peers are giving birth to children or getting promoted, and she is serving coffee. And there is no hope in business.
In the two or three years after graduation, this feeling is especially strong. My friends in college suddenly have babies and get married, and I am still working as a small social animal with a monthly income of several thousand. The boring job makes me feel like I can be ready at any time. The replaced screw, the boring life seems to be over, I have the same confusion as Rachel, Rachel still has a good family as a retreat, and I will gradually become the support of my parents.
A little consolation is that I am not alone, my friends of the same age also don't know where they are going, but they don't know what they can do in 360 lines. The frequency of posting on Moments plummets two or three years after graduation . We are all the same, we are all the same, we don’t know what kind of life will come.
Walking into the storms of life alone will inevitably face some violent storms, but life always has its losses and gains, even if you lose more than you gain, you will definitely have new feelings.
Going out of the comfort zone of comfort and not relying on the shelter of parents or marriage, although the road ahead may be lonely without a branch, it may also lead to the grass, full of all unknowns and possibilities.
We all want to make the "most correct" choice, but if we don't get magic beans, we just get ordinary beans. After entering the society, the time seems to be accelerated. It seems that you have to do something at any age. You have to have a car and a house before the age of 30, get married and have children to be successful, otherwise you will be a loser without a life plan.
When I was young, I could also swear that I would not be changed by the world, and that what I insisted on would not change, but life changed us without knowing it. At a certain moment, I looked back with exhaustion, and I didn’t know where the change started. I didn’t think so. In the past, you will be reduced to this point.
This is obviously the most advanced era of science and technology in human history, and it is an era of enlightenment compared to the feudal society, but is it an era that does not allow trial and error? No, this is an era where you can be independent, as long as you dare to open the shackles of your heart.
In the first lesson in college, the teacher gave us a sentence: "Everything is the best arrangement". Then believe that the bean you choose is already the best bean arranged by God for you.
This episode was a very disappointing one, with Rachel, Phoebe and Monica all feeling lost and confused about life.
Ross' eight-year love ended absurdly with his lover cheating on the same sex. He went out to watch football with Chandler and Joey and got hit in the nose. Chandler was in a relationship he was trying to get rid of, and Joey was still doing all kinds of things. Wonderful life to earn some living expenses.
Hey, do you sometimes think that fate is really a bad taste writer, it gives you hope when you feel hopeless, and likes to ruin your dreams when you are full of hope and look forward to the future.
At this time, Monica would not have thought that she would later become the dream chef. She likes children very much, and she did not have her own children in the end. If she knew this, she would not have to worry about giving up Richard so much regret;
Rachel wouldn't have thought that she really went from being a waitress to her dream of fashion step by step, but gave up when she was closest to her dream; if she had known that it was Rose in the end, she wouldn't have to be separated for so many years.
Phoebe never thought that she could find her family back. She experienced several unforgettable feelings, from the GAY who was willing to marry each other, to the scientist who separated the two places. I didn't expect true love to appear in the next two seasons, or Joe A stranger whom Yi accidentally matched.
Revisiting the first season, only to find that the parents' plot has so much heartbreak.
Joey knew that his father cheated and there was a woman outside. He was worried about his mother, but her mother pretended to be calm and didn't care, but the expression after being brave was really heartbroken. When she asked, "Can I fight her?" It's been a complete failure.
After I also experienced cheating and betrayal, it is really heartbreaking to watch this kind of plot. You know it is not her fault, nor your fault, but the man who cheated. Even if you pretend that you don't care, you can't escape the pain and disappointment in your heart. Why can the person who loves you do the same to others.
Joey is very distressed why his parents are like this.
Why did our parents do the wrong thing?
Perhaps, we won't know until we become parents too. And many of my friends are already parents.
The family of two siblings Ross and Monica is also useless. Their parents prefer sons to daughters. Monica has always been puaed by her mother and has no self-confidence. Although Ross is relatively pampered and has no sense of being a tough guy, he is like a big child. From his conversation with his father, it can be seen that the relationship between them is similar to the Chinese-style widowed-style parenting. The mother is in charge of everything at home, and the father is often away from home as long as he gives money.
In the first season of love, it can be said that there is not a trace of beauty, and it can even be said that it is very cruel. They passionately pursue love and believe in love, but they are hurt by real love.
Ross and his ex-wife divorced very sad, or feared the unknown life after the divorce. He was like a child who wanted to hide temporarily, but had nowhere to hide.
This relationship scarred Ross very much. He was the one who was betrayed and abandoned. It was very uncomfortable to put himself in his shoes. Moreover, Ross was a person who attached great importance to family relationships. This failed marriage made him afraid Divorce, no longer self-confidence, so the anxiety caused has always affected his behavior towards love.
Rachel and the dentist had already gone to talk about marriage, but found that the habits of the dentist that she thought could be easily changed for others, not that he couldn't change it, but not to her. Even if he and Rachel got together later, he immediately threw the pot to Rachel to seduce him in front of his wife. Isn't this man's face familiar?
Rachel keeps falling in love, but keeps meeting bad people. Rachel falls in love with Barry and plans to have fun with him, while Barry sexually harasss Phoebe. He meets your expectations and treats you very well, but it doesn't prevent him from looking for flowers and willows outside. Intellectually, you know that this is a bastard, but this bastard is indeed your boyfriend. It's worth it, but it hurts.
The three of them wanted to stop meeting scumbags, but they were still rotten peach blossoms waiting for them. Fate made a little joke, but the people in them tossed and turned. Maybe love is like this, but you pursue it, the less you can get it.
Interestingly, it seems that Monica and Rachel have read books, and they yearn for love and marriage more. Phoebe has not read a book, and wandered all the way. She is more about changing love and not wanting to have a stable marriage. Monica and Rachel's longing for family and their attitude of taking it for granted are very traditional. It is not surprising to say that they are Chinese feudal girls. Monica even said "the day when a girl longed to wear a wedding dress since she was a child", she is also in the play. The acknowledged "longing for a bunch of kids and marriage". I think Monica and Rachel are relatively unloving and passive people, which Phoebe is cool.
Ross was moved first, but the progress was not smooth, and the two seemed to be always misaligned. When Ross was heartbroken, Rachel didn't notice and didn't know that she was being treated so tenderly by a boy. In an episode of the dead brain who never admits defeat, Ross secretly chose to admit defeat in order to make Rachel happy. At that time, Ross was really warmed up.
Although Rachel was often emotionally frustrated at this time, she didn't know that compared with the feelings she experienced later, this time was already the most relaxed and happy time. She was about to miss this time in the second season. At this time, Ross was just a friend, and A week later, she is about to start a fateful entanglement with him.
Rachel is the most insecure among the three girls. She grew up under protection and suddenly walked into the real world full of daze. Monica, who has been bullied since childhood, has a strong heart, and Phoebe is even more in the wind and rain. After honing their tough self, the feelings they experienced followed their own hearts despite setbacks, while Rachel was always passive and did not recognize her own hearts in her relationship.
I think at the beginning of the relationship between Rachel and Ross, Rachel was more moved. There was a person who was so obsessed with himself that he had a crush on him since high school, and gave him a beautiful gem for a word he casually said... let me meet With too many bad loves, she feels the only preference that gives her enough security to believe that this man will never hurt herself. After Ross makes her feel less loyal (the first breakup) and submissive (the second breakup) than she imagined, she'll lose her sense of security and run away. He clearly still loves Ross, but he refuses to admit it, and is secretly hurt.
Ten years have passed, and Rachel has experienced a lot in these ten years. She can give herself a sense of security, and she is no longer obsessed with pure and broken feelings, and their relationship has only started anew. But are they true love? Or are you looking for it because you are already tired? On the basis of ten years of habits, not on the basis of the sense of security brought by moving.
The relationship in Friends, true love seems to be a false proposition. They have each had many romances, some warm and some short, and each relationship is different. It seems that each one is enthusiastically invested, but they can withdraw so quickly. , Don't be sad and lost for too long.
There are three people in Monica's relationship with more roles: Richard, the old man, the rich man, and Chandler who dare not promise. Monica really loved Richard very, very much, whether it was so difficult to come out after a breakup, or what Chandler cared about the most was Richard's existence. When I watched Richard and Monica, I really felt how they paid. He was tall, gentle, considerate, humorous, mature and rich. In front of Richard, Monica was a petite girl who was spoiled. Suitable for the age of children. I also like Chandler a lot, but I also agree with what Phoebe said after Chandler and Monica fell in love, Chandler doesn't deserve Monica. Chandler is a good man, but he is an immature big boy. In the early stage, Monica was guiding the love. Overall, Monica led the relationship. Chandler and Monica got along with each other. A kind of tacit understanding of old husband and wife, but not as passionate and exciting as when he was with Richard.
Phoebe once thought that the man was true love, and even agreed to get a marriage license with him, only to find out later that he was not in love with him. Phoebe has had a lot of relationships. I thought it was a good relationship with that scientist, but in the end, I couldn't make it out of the sky. Of course, Mike, who is also quirky and eccentric, is sweeter.
Chandler, I thought it would be true love with that actress. He prepared birthday gifts with such heart and sincerity. He ran a few streets to say hi to her. It was so sweet to be together after all, but it still ended in a sloppy way. .
Ross, he even had a NNNN relationship. His ex-wife was his first time in the real sense. After eight years of marriage, don't you think that this person is this person in this life, but the NNNN relationship only started after the separation. Ross has always wanted to find a "normal" marriage, no matter who the other party is, it would be good to give him, but he is indeed very masculine, and believes that in marriage, a woman is to compromise like a family, whether it is to ask the second wife to stay away. When the motherland comes to his city, he still hopes that Rachel will stay. I think what he loves most is himself.
At the end of the first season, Rachel's eyes flashed brightly, thinking that sweet love was on the way.
Like me who once believed in my lover, but later I knew that these eyes that trust and look forward to love are about to cry countless times for this love.
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