The first to face the consequences is ourselves, because we take responsibility and be a bystander to the pain. When a child faces the consequences of a mistake, it is human instinct to avoid pain. The child was crying and screaming, and it was time to test the parents.
The more difficult time is when we are weighing protecting the child or letting the consequences teach him. How to stay away from danger without preventing them from learning from experience. In Finding Nemo, a dialogue between the clownfish Nemo's father, Marlin, and Dolly "Dasha" is wonderful.
I promised him I`d never let anything happen to him
.
Huh, that`sa funny thing to promise.
Ha, that kind of promise is kind of weird.
What?
What?
Well, you can`t never let anything happen to him
.
Then nothing would ever happen to him
.
Not much fun for little Harpo. In
that case, little Harpo would have no fun.
After reading this dialogue and understanding the anxiety of being a parent, the key point I want to share today is that please respect your child and give him equality. It's a cliché, right? But let's look at our catchphrase when a child recognizes a mistake: "I told you". Whether it's a Hollywood movie, an educator, or just around us, this phrase puts us on the top of the heap, while trampling on our children's self-esteem and destroying our relationship of trust with them.
Where do we stand when children make mistakes? The answer is throughout the child's journey of making mistakes, not just when he's distressed.
Everyone makes mistakes, so mistakes are not meant to humiliate children. Children are learning from mistakes, please don't hinder them, let alone laugh at them. Thanks to a friend of mine for the words "please let me congratulate you on your pain because of your growth".
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