Before becoming artists, philosophers, psychologists, and scientists, as all living beings, our perspective and attitude towards things are only about our experience, memories and personality. This truth is rarely denied, but in life, When placed in the emotions we are trapped in, all kinds of illusions and self-righteousness always knock us into a daze.
My father felt that my mother was too serious and hypocritical, and it was different from the beginning of youth and love. He always regarded himself as a stupid person, always had various assumptions about himself, and expected and forced the people around him to accept it; he felt that his daughter and himself were already Not being able to communicate with each other is very different from the angel's appearance when he was young.
My mother felt that my father did not look like a man. It was not easy for him to make money to support his family, but he lost his job; he felt that his daughter always dressed herself up as ugly, and she did not look like a teenager.
The daughter felt that her father was so lewd and disgusting to her classmates that she never admitted her mistakes; she felt that her mother never understood her.
So, when my father met Angela, his stunner-like daughter and classmate, he seemed to see his first love and a real woman, and when he met Rich, a brave, dashing, self-controlled new neighbor, he seemed to suddenly change from mediocre to mediocre and salted fish. Awakened in his life; when my mother met Buddy, who also said, "We need to maintain our image in this line of business", with first-class performance and handsome appearance, it seemed that he was finally struggling to swim upstream, and finally the big fish who finally swam out of the water and breathed freely; When the daughter meets Rich, a handsome, melancholy, confident and appreciative neighbor, she seems to be able to get away from her parents who are serious but actually perverted, and completely accept her new boyfriend who looks weird.
So the father resigned from his job domineeringly, insisted on fitness, and repeatedly hit back at his mother's bosses; so the mother cheated; so the daughter started a relationship, and even abandoned her own friendship.
But what they didn't know and ignored was the sacrifices they were accustomed to to each other: Dad forced himself to attend his wife's work party and daughter's cheerleading performance; mother worked hard, worked hard to make money, and cared about the relationship between father and daughter; daughter I still love this home, and I have inherited the habits and life from my parents since I was a child.
This middle-class family looks very happy and standard to outsiders: they live in a villa, can afford a sports car, have a decent job, and have a well-behaved daughter. But there are all kinds of undercurrents floating around, everyone is dissatisfied with the status quo, expects more, and hates mediocrity.
Everyone has their own beautiful imaginations about life and others. They go their own way and are deeply immersed in their own world. They don’t listen, don’t read, don’t think, like being soaked in a jar full of water. The ability and motivation that I have taken away is simply envious of the appearance of the outside world, and I believe that I am unfortunate, lonely, and not mediocre.
As everyone knows, the neighbor's house and Angela are also in a mess. Everyone has their own struggles and unbearableness, as well as their unique and irreplaceable.
Why travel, study and work?
I think in addition to the necessary material needs, it is also a very important reason for us to look at life from a different perspective, so as not to be overwhelmed. Those who are always on the way and keep on putting in are happy, lucky and wise.
While watching the movie, I was often surprised that although the age and nationality are completely different, isn't this middle-class family's emotions and troubles exactly what happened in our family? I can imagine that the pain of loneliness that I thought was actually shared by many people, and the predicament that I thought was unsolvable was actually repeated a thousand times by my predecessors. I thought of what Bi Shumin said in "The Female Psychologist" that patients always feel that they are stating How different their experiences are, in the eyes of a psychologist, they are all tapes that have been repeated a thousand times.
Why do some couples, friends, lovers, confidants never tire of each other? I think it's because they have a common pursuit and can find the meaning of communication from each other, and their lives will not get stuck in a certain link, and their personal opinions will become cancerous because they are unwilling to communicate.
From the perspective of the villa area in Leicester's monologue, we can see that every house is the same, objectively speaking, macroscopically speaking, everyone is just the ordinary, even if you become a celebrity or a great person, there are always those in your life. In the darkest hour, there is always an unbearable haze. But life doesn't need to be so macro. For the moment that can be touched, for relatives and friends, everyone is special, isn't it?
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