First of all, I have to state that I am American Beauty after watching the finale of Parents Love. . I was just moved by the old love in my parents' love, and then I was slapped by the middle-aged marriage crisis. .
Speaking of American Beauty, the reason why I watched this movie is because I saw it in the Top 100 of the world's best movie rankings. Seeing the title of the movie reminded me of Gone with the Wind and Gone with the Wind, it should be a very good one. , just download it. As a result, after watching the film, the whole process is relatively depressing. The whole film is full of suppressed love, family affection, homosexuality, sex, and even ethical issues. Basically, there is nothing beautiful in the whole film.
The plot is mainly that the male protagonist is a loser who has failed in his career. He is also indifferent to his wife and children at home, while his wife is a real estate salesman, materialistic and excited. The relationship between husband and wife has long been in name only under the passage of time. It can be seen that the male protagonist would rather jerk off while showering than do it with his wife. Although this is a bit extreme, it can also represent some middle-aged couples.
Of course, there is also a neighbor veteran family who moved in, a paranoid and savage macho father, a mother who only obeys his promises, and a son who has been in a mental hospital for two years. , these branches are also very touching. But what I want to talk about is why in parental love and American beauty, two couples have different endings.
After thinking about it again and again, I think it may be the following two points:
1. Differences in spiritual life set off by differences in material living conditions.
Jiang Defu and Mei Ting, who were in their parents' love, experienced the Great Leap Forward in the 1950s and 1960s and the Cultural Revolution in the 1970s. Moreover, Mei Ting was still a bourgeois lady with poor composition. It can be said that the material living conditions were relatively difficult, and she often faced external impact. The male protagonist and his wife in American Beauty were in the United States in 1999, and their material life was very rich. His family had two cars and a house with a yard. The material life was relatively rich, so he didn't have to worry about eating and drinking. The difference in material living conditions also has a great impact on their lives. The so-called satiety, warm and lustful, American couples can maintain a good standard of living as long as they maintain the same job, and the richness of material life, coupled with the dullness of ten years of work, sets off their spiritual life. of scarcity. The lack of spirit is mainly manifested in two points:
1) The company family is two points and one line, and there is not much extra communication and friends.
2) No hobbies
Under the erosion of time, the original love gradually faded, and the lack of spiritual life made the marriage between the two become more and more nominal.
2. The number of children.
Children are not only the crystallization of love, but also the lubricant of married life, which can well maintain and enrich married life. In a child's family, due to the generation gap between parents and children, as long as the parents neglect the children because of work for a period of time, it may cause estrangement, and the children have no object to talk to, it is easy to be rebellious and eventually develop into a family relationship among American beauties. When there are two or more children, as peers, they can communicate with each other, avoid character isolation and estrangement, and cultivate cooperation, responsibility, trust and other characteristics between them.
So, here are my ways to avoid a midlife marital crisis ten years from now:
1. Avoid two points and one line between work and family, and have your own life circle and social circle. This can prevent couples from being alone for a long time and losing their freshness.
2. Cultivate hobbies, hobbies can expand the social circle, and can also pass a lot of leisure time such as weekends and holidays
3. Combined with the current cost of living, it is best to have two children. For children, having a partner of the same age is more suitable for the healthy growth of the child's character, body and mind. For parents, double the lubricant can escort the marriage life, and now the economic cost brought by two children is also It will reduce the material life and reduce the dullness of the spiritual life.
Personal thoughts, tap~
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