Marriage is a besieged city. People inside want to come out and people outside want to get in, but it is always difficult to cross that wall.
They are all envious of the mutual support of others, and can't see that they used to be overgrown with thorns;
They are all looking forward to growing old with their son in the future, but at that time they were reluctant to hold the hand of their son;
So, marriage may be the biggest school, all-inclusive and all-encompassing, and it may not be difficult to graduate, but there are very few people who can get excellent grades.
Greed arises, desire arises, all phenomena have cause and effect, and more people are trapped by desire.
South Korean director Hong Sang-soo, "On the Beach Alone at Night", tells the causal cycle of desire in an advanced way. (Okay, we don’t make comments on entertainment circles, but we are talking about movies, so don’t carry it with Miss Xiao)
The film's heroine, Kim Min-hee, won the Silver Bear for Best Actress in 2017, when her acceptance speech was: Director, thank you, love you.
In just six words, another high-profile announcement was made. This film is also based on real events between them. Director Hong Shangxiu tells the story of an actress falling in love with a married male director in a new artistic performance form.
The heroine Yingxi is a well-known actress who fell in love with the director. When the relationship was exposed and the director returned to her family, she encountered the greatest malice to a third party, so she fled to a small seaside town abroad to heal her wounds.
In the cold winter, the desolate seaside was gray everywhere, just like Yingxi's mood, she asked her sister over and over again, he said he would come to see me, and he would definitely come. In fact, she knew the answer in her heart, but she was swaying in her heart, trying to make herself give up through the answers of the people around her.
At this moment, she looks weak and pitiful. The mispayment of her feelings makes her embarrassed, like an injured bird who just wants to hide and heal herself. The physical injury may heal, but her heart is like a sleepy In a black hole, you can never get out.
Young Yingxi gave her feelings and sacrificed her career in this relationship, just wanting to exchange for a promise, wait, wait, wait, wait, after all, she did not wait for that illusory promise.
What men want is actually the same thing, that is, the body of a young woman. If you care too much about feelings, you will not see the lustful desire in your heart. When she wanted to understand this, she decided to end the life of escape, return to China to start anew, and be herself again.
She returned to Gangneung, which is a small seaside town in South Korea. There are her good friends here and her sister who cares about her. When everyone carefully asked her about her current situation, she said freely and easily, in fact, she wanted to understand a lot. Some people are qualified To love, some people are not qualified to love, and many people are not even qualified to be loved.
In fact, her heart is still trapped in the past and has not come out. She feels that she does not deserve to be loved, and the reason why she is still alive is because she cannot fully love and fully own, and she has been waiting for this opportunity.
When her sister Junxi found her a place to live, the large floor-to-ceiling windows in the living room could just see the sea.
This just-right little plot indicates that no matter where Yingxi is, or how long it has passed, she will not be able to wipe away the scars in her heart by simply wiping, making herself look new, and the stains will always follow her. Because he owes her a decent explanation, and that's where the knot in her heart lies.
She wandered alone by the seaside countless times, spent countless times in a daze by the seaside, and met many people back and forth by the seaside countless times, but none of them was the person she met, the person who disappeared for a long time.
One day, Young-hee drew a portrait of the man on the beach by the sea, and she fell asleep beside the portrait. She met a group of people, the director's staff. The staff invited her to dinner, and the director also came. .
Young-hee, who had been drinking some alcohol, lost control and asked the director aloud why she was doing this to her. The director's pale explanation was completely blasphemous to Young-hee, until the director took out a book and said, "There is a paragraph in it." Want to say:
Let go of the love that binds people, let go of the full of thoughts in a dashing manner, can't see each other, stomped my feet in a hurry, met, but the pain is even more heart-wrenching, I want to forget without nostalgia, and I also want to let go in a dashing manner But the regret, pain, and sweetness in it are devouring himself all the time, and he is about to be suffocated.
Hearing this sentence, Yingxi seemed to have found the answer she was looking for, the explanation she had been waiting for. She was startled and woke up. It turned out to be a dream. The moment she woke up from the dream, she smiled and decided to let herself go and meet her. Reconciliation of own obsessions.
Jiang Fangzhou in "The Round Table School" once said that this drama really shows the status quo of extramarital affairs, which is unbearable, malicious, desire, etc., but people can't hate it.
There is a hot topic about marriage on Zhihu: What if you meet true love after marriage?
There are various answers, and each has its own opinion. It is nothing more than two choices of divorce or not leaving, but no one can see the suffering suffered by these two choices.
Young-hee's love affair with the director made her suffer from the malice of the world, and it also made her heart suffer, and what was even more terrifying was the torment of love.
She firmly believed that it was love, she also thought it was love, she never wanted to admit that the person she loved only loved her body, which was a shame to herself, until finally she heard the part in her dream that she wanted to hear If so, it turned out that he loved her too, and finally decided to let him go.
In a relationship that is not optimistic, there is only oneself trapped and fighting, whether it is worth it or not, no one knows, only that this relationship is like a dull knife, constantly sawing blood marks on one's flesh.
So, marriage is like shoes. Only you know if they fit your feet. If you fit your feet, you will pay attention to them.
Of course, Miss Xiao does not encourage cheating, nor does she whitewash the cheating person, but some people choose to let go, and some people choose to entangle, and the pain of entanglement must be doubled.
The Buddha said that suffering must come from obsession.
Therefore, Yingxi finally chose to let go of his obsessions and reconcile with himself, walk out of the shadow of a third party, and put an end to this relationship from the heart.
In reality, people are often unable to understand, persistent, entangled, hysterical, and rolling in the world.
In this way, letting go is the best choice. Whether it is the shackles of marriage or the temptation of love, everyone has the right to pursue happiness. If you are stuck in a quagmire, please learn to choose and let go.
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