However, the construction in the film is not as much as the deconstruction, and the irony is no less than the lyric. This is where I later found it intriguing. The sixth master blamed the child for no big or small, but let his son call him by his first name. It's more sad than funny here. Having said that, the people who know how to raise children the most often do not have children. Not to mention that each person's own theory has limitations, nor does it say that life is impermanent, such as the separation of father and son into the situation, that is, in the so-called "normal family" (if it exists), there are also problems posed by contradictions between adults . Everyone may not be able to work together, and the goals may not be the same. No matter how correct a personal theory is, it is difficult to achieve 100%. Children are independent individuals who are influenced by others in the larger environment. I thought I was ignorant and pretended to be confused, I couldn't go and let it go, and I was not reconciled, so I hoped that my own ideas would play a role in others, and I would not waste my previous efforts. In the film, Lao Paoer teaches ignorant children on behalf of other parents, or I write some articles every now and then. It can't be said that it is useless. It is only for children and children to teach. The Chinese are more open-minded than Americans in this regard. Americans, you accuse them of not educating their children, they have to fight with you. Why are you so arrogant? After all, people have shortcomings, and it is not easy to take two steps back and three steps.
Where is the conflict between Lao Pao'er and Nen Pao'er? It's the word rule. Old cannon rules. The rules of the rivers and lakes. Alley rules. The rules of the second generation of officials, or "no rules". But the most unreliable thing in the world is the rules. It is too influenced by soil everywhere.
Went out the other day and had breakfast at the hotel. Watch a young mother teach two children a lesson. The little ones want something from the big ones, but the big ones don't give them, and the little ones grab it. The mother loudly taught the little child how to "share" with the big request. "You should learn to share!" She taught children to ask instead of grabbing, and to share without dominating. There was a room full of people, and my mother was speaking and sharing. Her words carried a strong sense of ritual, which was very interesting in the surrounding culture. What she conveys is the rules of this society, which can be accepted and even appreciated by other families eating doner rings and milk-soaked cereals. She put more effort into teaching the little ones. Anyway, whoever is unreasonable teaches whoever, no matter how big or small. As a bystander from China, I couldn't help thinking of Kong Rong Rangli. Why not educate the big and let the small? But how can we imagine that I will teach that young American mother a lesson with Kong Rong's rules? Of course, over time, I have understood the rules recognized by this mother, and even questioned Kong Rong's appointment. The rules that this mother upholds have also become clear rules through years of publicity by parenting experts. Clear rules are better than dark rules. Most people have some understanding, which will reduce the misjudgment caused by misjudgment.
Lao Paoer pays attention to the elders and the younger, and when clinking glasses, his son's glasses should be shorter. These senses of superiority and inferiority are too culturally influenced and far from iron laws. I have seen that among American children, some people actually call their uncles, aunts, and aunts by their first names. The concept of "no big or small" is not as particular as we are. Your seniority can only mean that you were born first, or maybe not even born first. In English, brother and brother are the same word. Sister sister is also a word. At first glance, it seems that everyone has the same goal: in the end, everyone wants to be valued: some people win respect by qualifications, some people rely on looks, some people rely on seniority, and some people rely on ability. But in fact there is a difference, is the difference between congenital and acquired. They believe that respect is earned by a person, not inborn. If you want to be respected by others, you need to be worthy of the respect of others. Everything is related to personal efforts, and it has nothing to do with the order derived from natural factors such as region, age, and gender. These things are all by chance or given to you by your parents. , you didn't get it on your own.
Whether it is a generation gap or a cultural conflict, in the final analysis, everyone does not understand each other's "rules". Or collide in a small space, the rules have changed, and the people inside are at different paces. One side has adapted, and the other side is still carving a boat and seeking a sword. Someone in Beijing told me that the elders were called "you" instead of "you", and they were so humiliated that they hanged themselves. This is a wrongful death, and others may not mean to offend. The rules are often hidden and invisible, and they are mines rather than bunkers. Sometimes we accidentally step on it and get bombed before we know it exists. When people go to a new place, if they are under the control of people (this should be most people), it is best not to make too much noise first, and then to clear the mines. For those who follow the rules, it is important to recognize that the rules are ever-changing with cultural differences, to tolerate the unintentional offense of others, and to respect everyone, including the descendants, and everyone who does not call you "you" - like this Only middle-aged people like us who can't go up or down can talk about it.
After staying in the hutong for a long time, everything around you can play smoothly, and everyone around you knows this is the way to play. Whether it is true or disguised, everyone plays with it. This creates the comfort zone. Breaking someone else's comfort zone, or being broken by your own comfort zone, is heartwarming. The elders are pretentious, relying on the old to sell the old, and the younger generation is not pleasing to the eye, so they usually don't talk about it and let them play. If you want to be stunned and say things you are not used to seeing, you have to prepare first: the other party may have seen a lot of feedback from the surrounding environment, and he has been aggrieved for a long time. on whom to pour. Maybe it's better for them to get out of the alley on their own. Let "society" pop the bubble that surrounds it, usually not as risky as in the movies. The awareness that comes from hitting a wall is called growth. The sixth master's adventure is essentially the same thing, but he has already lost his strength, and all of a sudden he is desperate, even if his mind grows, there is no way to benefit.
So what to do? You should know some sophistication before getting old. People who are restless, don't wait until life is decadent before thinking about walking out of their alleys. Any choice has a price: going out and leaving your hometown, you have to get used to your own rules being broken along the way, and learn new rules or rules along the way. Otherwise, continue to stay in the alley, carry the bird cage and hold the uncle all day long, and be an ostrich for as long as possible. No one says that everyone has to work hard. Work hard and don't work hard, the result is sometimes not as big as people advocate. Really, some people just slap their face and pretend to be a fat person to live their whole life, not how well they live. And living in the same place, guarding the ecology of that one side, being humbler, less self-inflated, and finding peace instead. The benefits of success are too overrated.
Lao Pao'er sticks to his own rules and goes to fight against Binghu in a heroic and righteous manner. The movie is very good, but he can't be fooled to learn. This is wrong on the premise of fighting violence against violence. I also happen to watch the legendary films of the Hatfields and McCoys, two families in West Virginia and Kentucky, these days. The two families fought and killed, but they killed a thousand enemies and injured themselves eight hundred in exchange. Fortunately, later generations realized that the grievances were endless, and they no longer continued the feud. No matter how cool and dramatic the movie is, there is always something more worth worrying about in reality. Don't encounter anything, just rush up with a saber. In the many battles in front of you in life, you have to pick and choose to see which battle is worth fighting. This is the reality of you and me. It can also be said that this is the world of mortals.
View more about Mr. Six reviews
