I want to talk about "Long Time", a movie that is difficult to calm down after watching it.
This "long story" style movie, many people say is like "Alive". Indeed, it is very similar in some aspects. They are all tragic epics brewed by the torrent of the times and ill-fated.
Of course, this film touches people a lot, but the one that touches me the most is this one: family.
The film focuses on the "families who lost their only child" in the last decade.
What is a family without an only child, some people may hear this word for the first time.
This means that most of them are over 50 years old, but their disease or accident has caused them to suffer the fate of their only child. Empty family.
Family planning has created many such families.
When looking at data on these families, the numbers are startling:
According to the survey, most parents have serious problems with their mental state and family relations after "losing their only child".
More than 60% of people suffer from different degrees of depression, and more than half of them have had suicidal tendencies.
Search for "Letters to the Son of Heaven", and the search results are 6.43 million;
A search for "Letters to Heaven's Daughter" returned 5.72 million.
These 12.15 million letters that will never be sent, how many griefs of parents who lost their only child are behind them?
In this film, the couple lost their children four times. Every loss is a devastating blow. But keep searching. What are you looking for?
In the traditional sense, what a family looks like is what three people look like. This is complete.
They have spent their whole lives in pursuit of the complete happiness of their families.
The English name of the film is "so long my son". Director Wang Xiaoshuai said:
The original English name of the movie was A moment, so long. But it always felt a little less interesting.
Later, an editor casually mentioned that it was called So long, my son, and immediately caught the feeling.
It is true that "my son" is added, and the flavor of this movie comes out.
Just like having a child, the smell of home comes out.
I saw many young netizens commenting, why can't they live by each other and live freely?
It's hard to understand from our current perspective.
The fertility rate is declining year by year, and there are more and more DINK families. We have gradually realized that it is not only families in the traditional sense that marriage can bring happiness.
Begin to pursue more open, free family relationships.
"Take time to see it, everything can be explained." The director said.
Looking back at that era, people's thinking is still very old-fashioned, but the change has begun.
They still have the traditional Chinese concept of happiness in their minds, pursuing the concept of happiness, perfection, longevity, peace, and health.
But "the wave of laid-offs" and "family planning", everything makes these difficult. also more precious.
From a family of three to four generations living in the same house, parents are not traveling far away, this is the happiness of the previous era. The most decent, standard happiness of that era.
They desperately guarded in the torrent of the times and seized such happiness.
But when the child loses again and again, as the film says:
"Actually, time stopped at that time, and all that was left was getting older."
The lines at the back of the movie are also a lot less...
In many scenes, Wang Jingchun and Yongmei, sitting there, with nothing to say, half-smiling, looking at you.
This is just the usual state of orphaned families.
In the previous program "My Girlfriend", the views of several fathers were severely criticized by netizens.
In their hearts, their children will always be the first. ——That's right, this is the one who criticizes Fang, and all the people who attack Fang are children.
It is difficult for young netizens to understand, why can't they put themselves first?
But the dads are plausible, saying things we "don't understand". Observing their expressions, they are proud. Safe.
With children, parents lose themselves. This turned out to be true. We are outraged because, for us, the ego is heaven.
As everyone knows, in their hearts, self-esteem has long been unimportant.
A lost mother once said:
"In medicine, there are ten levels of pain, and the pain of giving birth is the highest level, ten. I endured ten pains to bring my son into this world, and in the end he left before me. Bring him to this I can still bear the pain of the world, but I really can't bear the pain of him leaving this world.
This proves that there are not only ten grades of pain, but also a higher and more unbearable grade than ten grades, but people who have classified ten grades of pain in medicine have not experienced this kind of pain. "
We simply don't know, and don't yet understand, how important we are to them. Perhaps the only pillar.
But after watching this movie, you may understand a little more.
Looking back and thinking about it: in the future, in the future, after we become parents, this kind of love that recklessly loses itself may not exist.
This is the father's love and mother's love that belongs to that era alone, and is spawned by the torrent of change of the times.
From this perspective, we may also be the happiest generation.
In the end, I wish all families a "long life".
In addition, I hope that the box office of such a good film can be higher and higher. In addition to winning awards, good actors also have some financial rewards.
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