Mitch is now a sports columnist, tracking sports, interviewing athletes, and writing columns every day. His girlfriend, Jenning, was next to him. He was working like a workaholic. He picked up the timer and said to Jenning: Give me two more minutes, honey. Jenny felt left out and decided painfully that she no longer wanted to continue with him. When I saw this place, I was very anxious for Mickey. What Jenning needs is company, love, and caring, but Mickey has to rush drafts and work, and he doesn't notice that at all. The fast-paced and overloaded work every day has made Mickey tossed enough. Where are these thoughts! ?
When he first arrived at Morrie's house, his heart was still at work. The first lesson Morrie taught Mickey was learning to live and learning to die.
time. Mickey looked at the time and said he was leaving. Morrie asked him if he was coming next week, and Mitch said he was in Detroit and the time might not be available. It seems a lot like an outright rejection. Morrie raised his hand for Mickey to put his ear to his mouth. He started to count by himself, and stopped after more than ten counts. He told Mitch that he could have counted more last week, and now fewer and fewer. Morrie draws the theme of time from here: When you're busy at work, stopping occasionally to count your breath can get you out of business quickly. Feel the existence of time, feel the passage of time.
Embrace. The first time Mickey came, Morrie opened his arms for a hug. Mickey was a little embarrassed, and also because he was guilty of breaking his word, so he looked embarrassed. But Morrie didn't care, knowing that the student he liked came to see him. A simple hug can quickly become relaxed and soft.
silence. Mickey didn't know what to say to Morrie at first. Silence is not easy, Morrie said, and maintaining inner peace is not easy.
die. When he hears that Morrie wants to give him one last lesson, Mickey asks if he wants to talk about death. "It's not about dying, it's about living. Once you learn to die, you learn to live." (17:20) Morrie said. "I know I'm dying, but this is not the time to talk about death. Those who live unhappily are no different from death."
To be loved. "It's ridiculous that some people don't like being touched, I think that's weird. When we were babies, we were touched all day, held by our mothers, cuddled, soothed. We always felt like it wasn't enough, we Such a need to be touched." (31:58) Morrie was particularly emotional when he said this. My mother passed away at an early age, and my mother's love has been lacking. Although the stepmother's goodness in the back gives him some compensation. But he still couldn't forget how scared he was when he first lost his mother. Every day Dad stood in the street reading the newspaper and didn't come home until he fell asleep. How he longed for a hug from his father. Longing to be touched to make up for the lack of love slightly. But his father was a man who didn't know how to love. After his mother died, he was devastated. He didn't mention his mother a word, and he wasn't even allowed to mention it.
teacher. Mitch asked Morrie why he became a teacher in the first place. Morrie said his dad wanted him to be a teacher. When his dad took him to a sweatshop, he was so scared that he had asthma. He didn't want to go to work in that place, he didn't want to hurt anyone. And his dad would do just that. "Hunger makes people have no choice." (9:00) Mitch asked why it would be more profitable not to be a lawyer or a doctor. Morrie replied that he hated lawyers, he was more afraid of blood. "Do you think there's only one reason people do things?" Morrie asked rhetorically. "Life pushes you away and pulls back like a rubber band, pushing you to one side to do what you want to do. Pushing you to the other side to do what you need to do." (10:42)
the ability to love. He snubbed Jenning, prioritizing work over company. Jenning felt that she couldn't go on like this. Women wanted more love and companionship than other foreign objects. Before that, Mickey had not dared to give Jenning the engagement ring in person. Because his expression of love was actually cowardly, he dared not put down his face and kneel down at her car door to propose marriage.
rely. Our culture discourages dependence. Dependency itself is not shameful. When we were babies, we depended on others to take care of us. When the old man is dying, he also needs to rely on others.
Learn. We learn as much from the things that hurt us as from the things that love us.
Later Morrie began to reminisce about his life and wanted to tell Mickey a lot of things. After getting along two or three times, Mickey would be reluctant to leave every time he parted. He was worried that when he came next Tuesday, the old man would be gone.
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