In our culture, the topic of death is taboo. Death has always been considered unlucky, and it is best not to talk about it, not to mention it, and of course not to encounter it, because it is sad, embarrassing, and unspeakable, as if not talking about it will keep us away from death.
But the fact is that everyone has to die, but most people don't believe it, and they don't believe that their death will come so early unexpectedly, because death is indeed a sad and unfortunate thing, so it is inevitable to fear and fear.
If we could realize that we could die at any time, our lives would be different and we wouldn't forget what's most important. Don't forget to see friends, don't miss a meal with your lover, don't forget your dreams, don't have time to be alone with yourself, don't forget to think about why you're so busy. Know that living unhappy is as unfortunate as dying.
The first time I learned about the impermanence of life was in 2002, when I was 20 years old and a sophomore in high school. I still remember that I used a public phone booth to call my home. My mother told me that my next-door neighbor brother died in a car accident on his way to work at night. Only 24 years old. More than ten years have passed, and I clearly remember that when I heard the news, my whole body was shaking. How could it be possible? How could such a young person be gone? He just returned from being a soldier, the girlfriend he just talked to has not yet married, and the last chat under the moon is still in front of him. I can't believe that we grew up together and played together since we were young. The buddy just left. The most regrettable thing is that I didn't do anything for him, I didn't have a chance to say goodbye, I didn't send him the last ride. For many years later, I often dreamed that he was still alive. In my dreams, sometimes he did not encounter a car accident, and sometimes he was only seriously injured after the car accident and was slowly recovering.
Fantasy is beautiful, but after all, we must return to reality and accept death. After that, life was gradually occupied by study, work, and children, and I kept rushing forward with the flow, until I abandoned my dreams, alienated my friends, and forgot what was the most important thing.
I am very fortunate to read "Meet Tuesday" in the Suzhou Pinyue Community Library. After watching the film of the same name, I looked at death again, and lived towards it. Only by knowing what death is, can I know how to live. we must love one anathor or die. Loving and being loved is the greatest meaning of life. When we were babies, we all depended on our parents and relatives to complete our food, drink and Lazard, and depended on their love to survive. We love to touch, hug and kiss, and love to make children grow up fast. When the baby was born, the parents took care of the child with no regrets and full of joy. Children also enjoy being cared for by their parents, kissing and hugging, feeding and peeing.
When we get old, life is a cycle, as if we are back to infancy, people lose their ability to take care of themselves again, and they need to rely on others to complete their food, drink and Lhasa, and they need to rely on others to survive. The difference is: Can children and relatives take care of their elderly parents without any regrets and full of joy? Can you be as caring as a baby when a parent? And the parents who are being cared for, can they get rid of the worldly concepts such as shame and self-blame, accept kisses and hugs calmly, and enjoy feeding and peeing like babies?
And between babies and old age, do we need to rely on others to live? Many times we think that we are not worthy of love, and we are not good at loving. Many times we think that we need to be independent, that we cannot depend on others, that we are afraid to trouble others, and we are afraid and do not know the answer. Professor Murray said that by letting love in our hearts, we will be gentle and love will always win. In life, there are friends who can be trusted, a partner who can share weal and woe, and someone who can share joy and pain together. Only then can we be complete.
If we are destined to lose in the end, should we still start and love each other?
Death can end life, but love does not end.
Hug, love, this feeling, this memory, can support the living people to live a good life.
Homework:
1: Ask yourself: Is my life today what I want?
2: Love as if you have never been hurt, and attach importance to getting along with others.
3: Forgive all people and things.
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