Love and friendship do not conflict

Katelyn 2022-12-13 23:27:13

Of all the "new wave" directors, Godard is one of those young and promising directors, who made a blockbuster when he was under 30 with his controversial "Exhausted", while Rohmer is one of those late bloomers. 's director. "My Girlfriend's Boyfriend" is the sixth in Rohmer's "Comedy and Proverbs" series, inspired by the proverb "My friend's friend is also my friend". Although this is not a work from the "Six Moral Tales" series, the moral consciousness hidden in the film is still extremely sharp.
Girlfriend's boyfriend? This is the Chinese translation of the film. When I saw the title of the film, that strong moral connotation came to my face. Before we watch the movie, we have every reason to guess the plot of the movie based on our personal moral consciousness. This is a film in which love and friendship are intertwined, and which is more important depends entirely on each person's moral tastes. I think this is also Rohmer's usual "open structure". The ethical field is inherently an open space where everyone has a say.
What kind of fascinating story is this? During lunch time, Blaisha, who works in the government department, met Leah, who was about to graduate from college. After talking, the two became close friends. Later, while Brytha goes on vacation, Leah starts dating Brytha's boyfriend, Fabin. In fact, we can all feel that Brytha is gradually falling in love with Fabin, but she is under moral pressure (because she should not fall in love with her best friend's boyfriend), so "love" is difficult to say. Cleverly, Fabin felt that Brasha was not the ideal lover in his mind, and he fell in love with Leah. The physical urge inevitably occurs, and Leah can accept Fabin with peace of mind without the moral pressure of "snatching her girlfriend's boyfriend" on her back. To complicate matters, Leah has always had a crush on engineer Alexander.
Blaisha is back from vacation, which can already pose a threat to the relationship between "Lea and Fabin". Even more deadly, she told Leah that she didn't realize that she loved Fabin until she was separated from Fabin. Leah's feeling was tantamount to being suddenly stabbed by Blaisha. In the film, Leah cried out of control more than once, and we can fully understand that she was crying because of the moral condemnation in her heart. She still cherishes Brasha, her best friend, but blind lust can easily destroy everything, and morality is often the first to bear the brunt. And Alexander was always courting Brytha, and sarcastically satirized Leah in front of Bleisha, because Leah was not his type.
The screenplay of this film is brilliant. When Leah fell in love with Fabin, Brytha, who was her ex-girlfriend, just didn't love him anymore. In this way, Leah is freed from the embarrassing status of "third party" without having to live in the shadow of immorality. I think this is the most comical part of the movie. In the face of love, both men and women are often driven by lust and at a loss, so at this time traditional morality often suffers a violent impact and loses its balance. Rohmer, however, subtly adjusts this moral imbalance in a comic way.
I noticed an interesting phenomenon near the end of the movie, I think it was the director's arrangement, or maybe some kind of coincidence. At the end, Blaisha and Fabin are both in blue, while Leah and Alexander are both in green, like a couple. At this time, Blaisha's lover is Alexander, and Leah's other half is Fabin. Judging by the color of the clothes, Rohmer seems to be implying that Brasha and Fabin, who is also wearing blue, were once a couple, and that Leah was supposed to be with Alexander. The results were mixed. The two different colors blue and green actually suggest two different personalities. Rohmer probably felt that "two people of the same color" would be mutually exclusive when they were together, because the same sex repelled each other. And he just subtly adjusted the moral imbalance again from the perspective of color science.
The film only begins with a sketchy account of Brasha's workplace, which she "never went back to" afterwards. The entire film is narrated around the emotional lives of Brytha and Leah, Bleisha and Fabin, and Leah and Alexander. Rohmer is very good at discussing morality in terms of the emotions and relationships between the sexes, so it is difficult to detect the kind of "moral anxiety" similar to Kiestorowski in his films. His moral stories all take place in an atmosphere of grace and ease. If Kiestorowski's moral thinking puts people on a tightrope, then Rohmer's moral thinking puts people on a seesaw. Rohmer can definitely be called a profound director, and his outstanding talent is reflected in this ability to see the big from the small.
Rohmer's writing on moral issues can be called to the point, especially the novel and bizarre "The Marquise of O" that I have never forgotten. I even think that movie benefits from Kafka's classic The Metamorphosis. In Kafka's novel, the protagonist K turns into a beetle after waking up, and his relatives gradually alienate him. And in Rohmer's "The Marchioness of O", the marquise is "unexpectedly pregnant" during a war, and his relatives loathe her for her guilt in the flesh. Of course, Rohmer's moral musings in "My Girlfriend's Boyfriend" are entirely in a relaxed atmosphere, not as absurdly alienated as "The Marchioness of O."
Rohmer was always in a state of thinking. Finally, at the end of the film, it tells us a simple but often controversial truth, that love and friendship are not in conflict.

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  • Alexandre: If you must know, I like slender, rather tall girls.

    Lea: Blondes or brunettes?

    Alexandre: Brunettes. With smooth, light, slightly tanned skin. They really attract me. Especially when they have big eyes and silky lashes.

    Lea: Cut it out. You promised not to lay it on!

    Alexandre: I'm not laying it on! You asked what my type was! You're much closer than Adrienne to my ideal. You've always attracted me. But fate was against it.

    Lea: Fate! You control yours, don't be modest!

    Alexandre: You're wrong! I don't like to push. I'm no Romeo. The fact is, girls like me! It's given me bad habits. It can be a disadvantage. They seek me out, so I just relax. Means I don't always wind up with the best. If I like a girl, I'll meet her sooner or later... Better later then too soon. Take us... I'm glad I met you now, not 6 months ago. We're both available...

    Lea: Stop it! What's available mean? And I don't like your kind of guy. I like to be wooed!

    Alexandre: You were with Fabien!

    Lea: You should have been insanely jealous.

    Alexandre: Who says I wasn't?

    Lea: Actions talk! You should've done something wild!

    Alexandre: Let's run away. I'll kidnap you!

    Lea: That's not so wild. And I said no!

    Alexandre: I heard yes.

    Lea: It meant no.

    Alexandre: I'll think of something wilder... Come live with me! You've even got your bags! My place's too big for me alone.

    Lea: When you're alone!

    Alexandre: I'm alone now.

    Lea: I'm going to my folks'. They're expecting me.

    Alexandre: Call them back!

    Lea: They're asleep.

    Alexandre: So they're not waiting up!

    Lea: I might move in with you, but not now. We've known each other 6 months, so wait 6 more months. During that period, you mustn't date anyone else. Then maybe I'll let myself be wooed!

    Alexandre: I accept. But you mustn't date anyone, either.

    Lea: That suits me fine!

    Alexandre: 6 months is a bit long. How about 6 days?

  • Adrienne: It's funny, I can't see you a bureaucrat. That's what you are though. You should be in the arts. You never wanted to paint, or write?

    Blanche: I've no talent. Even if I did... I'm not sure I'd want to do it for a living. Art for me is pure pleasure. Contemplating... it is enough.

    Adrienne: I can understand that. It's just that... In your office, they're all bureaucrats, Real ones! It's a bad environment. All they think about is rank... climbing the ladder... spending their lives... stepping over people. They don't even think about work... much less love! I know what I'm talking about!