When you watch it, you can feel that many scene changes in the first perspective are not coherent. This is exactly the kind of helplessness of patients with dementia. Please continue to experience the pain it brings to the patients themselves and their families. This movie is meaningful.
Don’t call it a thriller anymore. It’s because it restores the symptoms of Alzheimer’s (hereinafter referred to as dementia) elderly people themselves in confusion. You must know that this is even more true in reality. A "long event" that is difficult to control.
When you watch it, you can feel that many scene changes in the first perspective are not coherent. This is exactly the kind of helplessness experienced by patients with dementia. Please continue to experience the pain it brings to the patients and their families. This movie is meaningful.
Scenes in the movie with a high degree of completeness in restoring disease symptoms:
(Don’t worry about spoilers, only when you really face the existence of this disease, you won’t think he is very remote and weird)
1. From the delusion of being victimized (the father suspected that the caregiver had stolen his watch, in fact the patient would hide the important items by himself)
2. Loss in space (the end of the film tells us that the elderly lived in nursing homes from the beginning, and the scenes of constantly switching from apartment-clinic-nursing home-home or daughter's home are always incomprehensible in the minds of the elderly)
3. Hallucinations (the old man in the film imagined two characters, one is Laura, a young caregiver girl who looks a lot like his little daughter. It should be because she missed her little daughter because of accidents, she always mentioned her painting and occupation. In the conversation with the imaginary character Laura in my mind, I also selectively forget the accident of the little daughter)
The second person I imagined (actually the doctor I can see every day in the hospital) is the eldest daughter’s ex-husband, perhaps because he no longer remembers what the son-in-law looks like, but because the son-in-law is dissatisfied with his father’s home that affects his daily life, there has been a heated conversation. , Leaving pressure and grievances on the father, some of the former fathers imagined a dialogue with the indifferent ex-husband.
4. A big change in personality (in the beginning, he was friendly to the imaginary caregiver, and then immediately attacked the other person in a blink of an eye)
The goodwill in the first part shows that his father was a humorous and attractive man before he fell ill. After he fell ill, he could retain some of his character background, but he would indeed change completely when he fell ill.
5. Time confusion and confusion (the scene before dinner in the third place after the movie reappears repeatedly with the time when the nursing staff comes) The patient can’t tell what time, where and who he’s with, which may also be Because I really feel the pressure of being rejected by my son-in-law to live together)
6. The eldest daughter is going to settle in Paris and is confused, so she repeatedly repeats, questioned, and asked about it with hallucinating characters in her own structured memory.
7. Obstacles and confusion in character recognition (the caregiver imagined by the father is a young girl, but the caregiver who appears at home at the end of the movie is the daughter that the old man did not recognize in his imagination at the beginning). The caregiver of is a staff member of the nursing home where the elderly is located, not a girl who provides home services. Patients will imagine multiple characters for themselves.
We should be considerate:
The relatives caring for family members with dementia have always faced this cyclical pattern, and I and my family members are even more difficult.
Other real daily restorations in the film:
-The mentally exhausted life state of the direct caregiver (daughter), which is mixed with surprises about the changes of the sick father (unacceptable process when the father cannot recognize himself),
-Always deal with the unreasonable process of the patient (caused by the disease) in daily life...
-Of course, occasionally, the patient also has a awake moment (the father will thank his daughter). This is really like a short and clear moment in the mist.
-When there are dementia family members in a family, the conflicts between husband and wife (the son-in-law tried to let his father-in-law live in a nursing home) are also particularly true. In real life, the situation will definitely be more complicated and worse.
Take up the courage to accept the truest appearance of your parents
In the past two years, I have continued to read books and movies related to dementia, although the progress has been slower than before.
When watching "Father Trapped in Time", because I know too much about the symptoms of the disease it interprets, I always stop to wonder, what stage is the elderly's illness? What is he thinking now? How to deal with it if you change yourself.
There are two effective suggestions that I most want to review. They have been mentioned by many family members who take care of themselves before, and I think they are particularly right:
1. "Abandon the image of ideal parents who can do everything in the past"
If children cannot reset their parents' appearance, they always look at their current parents with the impression of omnipotence in the past. They will inevitably suffer from the constant deduction of points and they will not be able to establish a good relationship. When we take care of our parents, one of the things we can do is to let go of our ideal parents' image. If the other party cannot distinguish the past from the present, there is no need to deliberately correct it. It is possible to be determined to accept the irreplaceable him.
2. Take good care of your heart to take care of your parents
The chaotic first-person perspective in the film is enough to make people feel the pressure of suffering from dementia and the degree of family tension. If you have a small partner who is undergoing this long period of care, please understand more about the situation he is facing. And tell him that this is a life stage, think of it as the most difficult level in the game, stop insisting on perfect care, continue the "things that parents can do" at the moment, caring for parents requires a serious attitude, but don’t A heavy heart. Staying around is a kind of support.
mutual encouragement.
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