In life, there are many friends like Yuan Rui who are willing to forgive you unconditionally when you make a mistake. We were born into this world, and the most common sentence we say is: "I'm sorry." "Thank you." I'm sorry for my mistake I've hurt you, thank you for forgiving me. It seems that we have to act as a person who knows how to correct mistakes or bow down to get forgiveness from others. In fact, we have all misunderstood friendship, thinking that this is respect and equality, but it is actually the opposite. Friendship without apology is true equality, true friendship, because in equality, no conditions are required.
I have always been confused about friendship, what is friendship? Friendship is happy, friendship is sad, friendship is painful, friendship is growth. Mayakovsky said: "Let those who are moldy in joy die quickly, so that the children who should grow up can grow up..." Happiness is what many people want for friendship, having fun together, saying things like Decent words. These, I do not call friendship. Friends are a truth. In front of friends, you don't have to act or think about how to speak. Even if you hurt, you will forgive. Because he understands you, loves you, and cherishes you. Friendship, love, and family affection are all facts that revolve around love. Any purpose of leaving it is not the truth, and the second is sophistry. The truth is often accompanied by hurt, unpleasant words, and naked pain.
What exactly is between Yuan Rui and Dong Su? They had an unequal relationship from the very beginning. At the beginning, Dongsu had a relationship of following and being followed to Yuanrui. After that, Dongsu had been trying to obtain equal treatment from Yuanrui as a friend. The last kind of competition. Some people say that there is no real friendship between them, because from the very beginning, their friendship was unequal. In order to improve this unequal relationship, both of them hurt each other, so much that they fought to the death. In the end, the two were confused...
One of the questions that "Friends" has been trying to explore is, what is friendship? I have always felt that the friendship between Dongsu and Yuanrui is a very sad friendship. There is love in this friendship, but also a lot of hurt. Friends from childhood to adulthood, that is, a process of continuous transformation from naive to mature. Yuan Rui has always treated Dong Su like his sidekick, but this attitude changed after Yuan Rui's father died. At this time, he began to appreciate what Dong Su did for him. After his father died, Yuan Rui had nothing and no support. Because of loneliness, he got help from Dong Su in this loneliness, just like sending charcoal in the snow. In the end, he broke with Dong Su. In fact, he himself did not know whether he and Dong Su were friends or enemies.
Yuan Rui treats Dong Su like a lackey, just because Dong Su is the one he hates. Or, Dongsu is the closest person around Yuanrui, he regards him as himself, and he also treats Dongsu with "no apology between friends." He thinks that whatever he does to Dongsu , do not need to apologize, I am willing to use this explanation to understand the friendship between them.
Sadly, even the best of friends can misunderstand and hurt because people are lonely and unable to communicate. So, they are all confused. Confused about the truth, confused about each other.
Why did Yuanrui introduce Zhenshu to Shantai instead of Yuanrui, and why would Dongsu want to give it to him as long as Shantai wanted. Just because Shantai is the self that Dongsu can never become. Shan Tai is a good student, he will go to university, has a decent job, and has a bright future. Yuan Rui is not. He is a gangster. He looks down on gangsters. When he was always teaching him that his own father was a gangster, Yuan Rui said, "What's so good about gangsters." Since he didn't want to be a gangster, he did. Gangs, just because this is his fate and predicament. Born into a gangster family, what I was taught from childhood was not how to be the person I wanted to be, but the person I would become. When he did something wrong, no one taught him a lesson and told him what to do, so that he would become what he is today. Although after he was dropped out of the school, he had the opportunity to change his ways, but he didn't. He thought it was impossible because he couldn't do anything else, and he didn't know how to do it. Isn't this the same dilemma that many of us have, we only do what we understand, and dare not imagine what we don't understand. The ultimate tragedy, but we're in our own cocoon.
In the end, every time I watch it, I am moved by the high-fives of Yuan Rui and Shan Tai at the end. It's really fucking sensational. I'm confused about what friendship is. It hurts. Friends who are willing to forgive and accept after hurt are friendship.
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