If you are interested in Korean movies, the movie "Friends" should not need too much introduction. It was released in 2001 and broke the historical record of the Korean box office held by "Life and Death"; the most popular movie at the 22nd Korea Blue Dragon Film Awards. A string of such titles may not be anything but dazzling, but it does provide an opportunity to re-examine and rethink our understanding of the all-too-familiar relationship of friends.
The story takes place in Busan in 1978. San Tae, who is always at the top of the list, Jun Shuo, the son of the gang leader, Dong Soo, a poor family, and Rong He, who is good at speaking, are inseparable friends. In middle school, Junshuo and Dongzhu were expelled from the school for being Shantae and joined the gang, while Junshuo and Rongha were admitted to university. In 1984, two college students searched for their former friends, but one was detoxing and the other was in prison. Jun-seok, who lost his parents, gets back on his feet, but Dong-soo is no longer with his gang. A series of contradictions and misunderstandings gradually turned the two against each other and became enemies. In 1990, Shan Tai, who was studying in the United States, went back to his hometown for a vacation and witnessed all kinds of grievances such as interests and feelings mixed in friendship. In the face of former friends, everyone's heart has undergone a severe test.
In his letter to San Tae, Jun Suk wrote: "Dong Soo and I were at home all day after we turned against each other, thinking about the true meaning of friends. I didn't know the true meaning of friends until the teacher wrote it on the blackboard, it was 'long time' Intimate partner'. Dad said that people should live righteously, but I am very confused now, and I can't tell what is righteous and unrighteous." The scene at the end of "Old Pao'er", which caused a lot of controversy a few days ago, will also make We pondered the question: what is a "long-term and intimate partner"? Those brothers who shared a bowl of instant noodles with you, slept in a bed, and let you stab you with a single word in the past, after years of refinement, do they still retain a trace of unshakable affection for each other in the softest part of their hearts? , or become intriguing because of who pays the bill, scrambling for hundreds of dollars in gifts, just barely maintaining face and courtesy, and forcing a smile?
Time can change a lot of things ruthlessly. We used to be partners who shared misfortune and good fortune, the same tablemates who talked about everything, and the friends who once promised to be forever and ever. With the change of age and experience, each has a different direction of life. Some have become leaders and managers, with infinite glory; some have small businesses and barely make a living; some are moral models, and some are imprisoned. If friends are too different from their own identities, or even opposed, can a person still treat each other as sincerely as in the past? Junshuo often said to Shantai: There is no need to apologize between friends. The word sorry is actually paying off a psychological debt. A true friend doesn't need an apologetic way to express emotion because he doesn't feel owed. Likewise, true friends do not treat their peers differently because they are in different situations. When Junshuo was drugged and imprisoned, Shantai did not despise his former friends because he had obtained a good social status, and still treated each other sincerely. When Junshuo was in power, Shantai expressed his dissatisfaction frankly to him, and really explained what a friend is and what a friend should do.
"I'm confused, Dong-soo and I are both gangsters, we shouldn't be confused". When asked by Shantae why he admitted that he instigated the killing of Dongzhu, Junshuo gave such an answer. With wealth, status and an enviable wife, Junshuo could have chosen to live like a father. But he develops a sense of shame while going about the gang's day-to-day affairs, which can be fatal to the gang. Junshuo, who was on the run, pondered over the meaning of friends. He could escape the punishment of the law, but he couldn't escape his own heart, and this thing that brought him a sense of shame. Confused by decades of friends, why did they come to the stage of killing each other today? Confused about the right and wrong and meaning of what you have done in the past. In fact, why didn't Dong-soo, who went to the airport, not be confused by this? We tend to become interested in people whose personalities are very different from our own, while ignoring friends who are similar to us. Junshuo is like this to Dongzhu, the gangster and the doctor can be friends, but it is difficult to be with the gangster, not to mention the relationship between the boss and the employee. People who can be friends must think that they are equal to each other in their hearts, Junshuo forgot this, but Dongzhu remembers. In addition, a common language is also necessary. Those who study and work abroad, who have been isolated from different environments for several years, return to their hometown to see their childhood friends who have families and children, and may still be friends who can be trusted in their hearts. But in psychology and cognition, there is a barrier that cannot be erased. There are all kinds of feelings, and those heavy things can no longer be expressed, but there are only a few words of greetings left.
Most of our past friends and classmates passed by in a hurry in our life. No matter how deep the impression and the wonderful memories we have left, we lost the key to open their hearts again due to some irresistible reasons. So I can only wander outside the door, speculating about what's going on inside the door. Sometimes it's better to see each other than not to see each other, and the encounter here is nothing but embarrassment; some people are different, they have existed in our lives and memories for a long time, occupying a place firmly, time flies, and years rush. Even if we are temporarily blinded by worldly interests, it will continue to tug at our heartstrings and torture our conscience. Whether you see them or not, you always want to know their current situation, but not to find out the psychological balance between knowing the quality of the other party and comparing yourself with yourself. We must have confidence in the existence of such feelings. Sometimes, the person who is close at hand and who gets along with each other every day may not have a higher position in the heart than the person who is far away and has no news.
Friends, brothers, small children, girlfriends, buddies, we use many words to define different relationships, define the importance of different people to us, and their position in our hearts. But "friends" are too broad, sometimes they look at each other with a smile, sometimes they clasp hands, some are as indifferent as water, and some are as deep as the sea. Sometimes we are in a state of survival or some emergencies that make us feel powerless, and we are too lazy to think about who and what is to us. Society and reality try to cover up something with endless examples, but only by experiencing it can we understand that some things may not be buried. Perhaps these experiences are only to make the real things worth cherishing in the heart realize its value. And maybe no longer confused.
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