"Who Do You Think I Am", do you love appearance or soul? To answer such an ancient, profound and realistic question, the French really can't bear it.
When I was 30 years old, I once talked to a colleague about marriage. The words of a female colleague of mine made a deep impression on me. The female colleague was about to turn 40. She said that she must pay attention to her husband. If divorced, her husband can Find someone in their early 20s, and she can only find an old man in his 50s or 60s. I was speechless at the time, unable to refute. I am also about to turn 40 this year. At the age of 30-40, I observe myself and the women around me. Women in this age group may have unprecedented fear when facing age. These years are also the era when the media vigorously advocates "girly feeling". The first generation of female stars in the entertainment industry in mainland China have also entered their 30s and 40s, so these years Perhaps it is also the most significant year for middle-aged actresses to face career breakage. Female stars are desperately trying to lose weight, trying their best to dress as girls, and promoting in the announcements that they are still young and beautiful, and ordinary women are also trying their best to look tender. Therefore, in recent years, people feel that the whole society is particularly age-discriminatory against women.
So I saw a brief introduction that this movie talks about middle-aged women chasing love, and whether appearance or soul are more important in love, which is full of expectations. But after reading it, very disappointed.
First of all, it's very uncomfortable to look at.
Aging skin, scary? This film uses a lot of close-up shots of the heroine's slack and wrinkled face, which is really terrifying. What does the director want to express? Brave the wrinkles? Bravely accepting aging? But even young skin, most of them can't stand close-up shooting with such a high pixel and extremely magnification. The result is that people see the sad reality. It turns out that aging is so terrible, you can't fall in love with such skin and those wrinkles.
If the film wants to explore that the aging of appearance is not terrible, it is undoubtedly a failure, and it only makes people more frightening. If the film wants to say that middle-aged and elderly women are not worthy of respect and only have an empty heart, it is undoubtedly a success. Well, let's look at this film, let's look at a film that only deepens age discrimination! !
But the heroine is obviously a talented, graceful, elegant woman with a certain social status. In some parts of the camera, this middle-aged woman is obviously still a very beautiful and attractive woman. She still has a great figure and a bright smile. The appearance is still beautiful, the figure is still brisk, and the elegant and mature temperament that belongs to middle-aged women, the director seems to be unwilling to pay too much attention to it. Even in the long-term view, most of the heroines are unkempt.
Secondly, since the aging of appearance cannot be controlled, does the director explore the soul? no.
As a university literature professor, I understand the constraints of society on various labels of women, so does the heroine really practice resistance to these labels?
Facing divorce, indulging in feelings of abandonment, hating young women. In the face of the departure of the little lover, he is entangled and wants to monitor each other. In the face of online dating, it is easy to fall into deep depression and deceive yourself with falsehood. Facing the fact that the young lover turned away and quickly got married and had children, he picked up the phone and started another entanglement. Is she asking whether appearance is more important than soul? No, this is a superficial woman. In the face of young women, she has neither the advantage of appearance, nor the superiority of the soul, neither the interesting soul, nor the wisdom accumulated over the years.
So the film wants to express the journey of middle-aged women in finding themselves? no. The end of the film picks up the phone and begins to entangle, which is simply thrilling.
Would anyone love such a superficial middle-aged woman? Can't love. The general feeling of the film is that women are still addicted to emotional pursuits in middle age, and there is no IQ, no rational thinking, and no wisdom. It's so frustrating.
I know that there are actually many such women in reality, especially in the current media discrimination against women's age, advocacy of girlishness, and many women who have been brainwashed and lost themselves in this society. If this film is to expose the superficiality of women, well, fuck it, this is obviously the brainwashing of our women’s life by patriarchal culture. Instead of revealing the root cause, I just want to put the superficial label on women again. , what a piece of crap, fuck this movie.
Of course, many film critics said that the director portrayed the love state of middle-aged women who are addicted to online dating in a meticulous and realistic manner, but the performance of the film was not so good. People are fascinated, but the picture of the film has turned into a hypocritical and slightly scary picture. Imitating the provocative gestures of young women, talking loudly in the library in complete disregard of public rules, forgetting motherhood and disregarding the needs of the children, it's really creepy Well, hell, when did women become so superficial! ! I believe that middle-aged women will be coquettish, flirtatious and panting in love, but they are definitely not so superficial.
A middle-aged divorced woman is full of low self-esteem and resentment, fear of age, longing for love, longing for affirmation, longing for herself, and as a result, these questions raised in the first half were completely abandoned later. Throughout the whole film, the ending of the first half, the little lover dies, this is the ending given by the former little lover, how well this young man knows the heroine, and knows that only by letting the little lover die, the heroine will give up torturing each other. The second half is the ending that the heroine gave herself in the novel, making herself feel inferior and die, WHY? At the end of the film, as an audience, I think the heroine should be free from guilt, know how to grow up, understand that he doesn't like you that much, and understand that this is just an affair of the other party on the Internet. As a result, the heroine picked up the phone and returned to the beginning of the movie, not letting go of her little lover's departure. What the hell.
In fact, age is the same for aging, whether it is a man or a woman. If you zoom in on the skin of middle-aged and elderly men with a close-up view, it will be equally uncomfortable and will not make people fall in love. And the liking of young bodies is the same for both men and women, and women also like young bodies. It's not shameful, it's very normal human nature. The films of old couples and young wives can nakedly reveal their fascination with young women's bodies and show the hungry eyes of old men. And why are the films of old wives and young husbands still exposing women's bodies? Shouldn't it be more appropriate to show the hungry eyes of old women?
Going back to the beginning, my observation of myself, the observation of women around me, is there any fear of age? Yes, of course. But at the same time, I also found that many middle-aged and elderly women have their own charm, that kind of graceful insight into the world, that kind of calm and methodical attitude to deal with life, that kind of face that is sometimes cute, sometimes smart, sometimes humorous and sometimes calm, and has young women of their own. Incomparable charm. In addition to the occasional anxiety about wrinkles, most of the time, they control their own life and work very powerfully, are confident and free, understand life, understand human nature, gentle wisdom, and most of them are wiser than men of the same age. The childish illusoryness of middle-aged and elderly men is terrible.
So do middle-aged and elderly women have the right to pursue love? Of course! But I believe that after years of baptism and growth in life, their understanding of love will not be so superficial, and they are very clear about their needs. Perhaps the current social status quo really makes women very depressed, but women are so wise, they have long understood what love is.
So, this movie, I really don't like it, I give one star to the heroine.
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