01From identification to rebellion
The hostess Esther was born in a Hasidic Jewish family. Her mother left since childhood, and her father was drunk unreliable. Esther grew up with her grandmother. Like most children, whoever feeds her, she believes in whom.
Esther has always resented her mother for abandoning herself, because her grandma and other family members kept telling her that until she fled, she had no chance to talk to her mother alone. She knew that her mother had experienced multiple difficulties, including being intimidated, and eventually lost custody in the court. Do not leave yourself. The parent who raises the child always has the innate advantage of speaking badly about the other party. In order to vent his resentment and control over the child, he attacks the one who left. The child is easily credulous and resents the other because he depends on the parent.
Hassidi Judaism has many rules and requirements for women. Esther grew up in such a closed environment and naturally agreed. For example, when he was 17, he would no longer be educated. Women’s responsibility is to take care of the family and give birth. Only the children will be honorable, so that after getting married, he voluntarily gave up his beloved piano lessons.
After marriage, Esther is like living in a delicate cage. Life is relatively comfortable but there is no free space. When there is a problem with the husband’s sex life, the husband will tell his mother to listen to it, so that the mother-in-law will come to teach Esther. , Leave a sentence when leaving: "Don't let me down."
The year after marriage broke the beautiful vision of Esther before marriage. When she was uncomfortable, she was unwilling to obey the rules of the sect, which led to all kinds of dissatisfaction with her husband and family. In addition, she had not been pregnant for a year. The husband's family made the decision to divorce. The moment Esther just learned that he was pregnant, the husband formally filed for divorce, which became the last straw for Esther to escape.
02 Hardship and Release of Freedom
Esther escaped from Brooklyn to life in Berlin. Starting from all kinds of out of place, he wanted to order a cup of coffee in the cafe and didn’t know how to choose. At this time, the handsome boy appeared to help Esther relieved, and Esther took the initiative to help the boy bring the packed coffee. When I went back, I had the opportunity to hear the most beautiful music concert in her life.
When going to the beach with a group of new friends, everyone naturally took off their clothes and wore swimsuits to swim. Esther just took off his jacket and slowly walked into the sea in a jacket and skirt. It seemed very restrained, but Esther took off at this moment. She took off the wig that represented her female tradition, revealing her short hair that was shaved after marriage, and she began to get rid of the traditional confinement of many years psychologically.
On the day when she first arrived in Berlin, Esther jumped out of the window to sleep in the conservatory in order to save money and endure hunger. Fortunately, she met a very warm teacher and a group of energetic and lovely friends. These friends had different personalities. One of them was a girl. Speaking very straightforwardly. When Esther’s sect regards women as tools, he was upset when he heard it and retorted on the spot. In fact, when communicating with another girl, Esther heard that her family thought she was very good. Talents put her under a lot of pressure. Esther said that my family only cares about whether I can have children and whether I can be a good wife. She agrees with being a tool in her heart.
Esther went to the nightclub with her friends and told everyone that she had been told that such a place would ruin herself. With the music, Esther went from being stiff at the beginning to happily interacting with the handsome boys he met at the beginning, and finally interacting with the boys. After returning to the residence, he took the initiative to kiss the boy, and the repressed part of Esther's character was gradually being disintegrated and released.
03Reconciliation with mother gives more power to independence
The biggest blow Esther encountered after coming to Berlin was not the hardship of life caused by lack of money, but the disillusionment of hope. She applied for the assistant course of the Conservatory of Music and chose the piano major, which she knew before the exam. These music player friends listened to them, and their outspoken friends said that it is good in ordinary occasions, but it will never meet the requirements of the college.
Esther ran away from the family with a dream of music. Faced with the cruel fact that hope was shattered, she couldn't help calling her grandma, crying in disintegration, and grandma hung up the phone.
When Esther encountered the second blow, it was a family male who came to Berlin with her husband, threatened her with various threats and even gave her a gun. She was frightened and ran to her mother’s residence, and her mother showed that she was with her grandma. With a completely different reaction, she gave Esther strong support and told Esther that she did not abandon her truth.
When Esther was taking the exam, her mother held a gun at the door, blocking the family members who wanted to destroy, and kept protecting Esther from the end of the exam. At a critical time, her mother gave Esther warm and strong support, and her mother had the power to do it. Up to this point, not only because of the love for Esther, but also because my mother has gone through various hardships and gained a free life. The performance of mothers and grandma also reflects the different choices of women in an environment of oppressive women.
04 Love freedom tenaciously, love yourself firmly
From the beginning of the film, I was deeply attracted by the heroine. There is no beauty filter, no makeup, no smooth skin that can be broken by blows, but often dark circles, and the heroine does not have a perfect body. Many shortcomings are It is very obvious that it is so real, and it touches the heart in this way, it is very fresh, and it is involuntarily attracted.
Although Esther has experienced various teachings from childhood to brainwashing, but in real life, she can still respect her own feelings. Although she initially agreed that women should be housewives and have children, they encountered problems during pregnancy and their families. When she interfered with her force, she asked her husband, should I be forced to feel uncomfortable?
She did not abuse herself to cater to the doctrine she had been educated, and did not sacrifice herself to gain self-improvement and moral superiority, but bravely defended and protected herself. After being completely desperate, she decided to escape.
Although it was so difficult after arriving in Berlin, Esther still took the initiative to fight for all kinds of opportunities. When confronted with a blow, he can face the reality bravely. When Esther played the piano and was judged by friends that he would not have a chance, another friend said to comfort Esther, You know she didn't mean that. Esther replied, I know what she meant, and I also think someone needs to tell me this fact.
The person who can face the facts is the strongest person in my opinion. Esther can not only accept this fact, but also ask friends for help to prepare for the exam again. He gave up the piano and changed to singing. Finally, he surprised the judges and was able to face to face. She still has the courage to ask for help in reality, Esther's tenacity is full of flexibility, and she finally got her wish.
In the end, facing her husband's willingness to cut her braids to change, and begging her to go back and live with her, Esther said it was too late and firmly chose to stay in Berlin.
Those who truly love themselves will get the love of the whole world, Esther did.
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