After watching the warm and peaceful movie "Heidi and Grandpa", my heart also quieted down.
The husband said to me: "Have you found that human beings have some meaning of being self-inflicted, obviously human beings are from nature, but they have put so many shackles on themselves step by step the day after tomorrow."
In the past few years, I have been running around in big cities, and I have gradually found that my heart is getting more and more impetuous, and people are getting more and more anxious. Worrying about the lack of money, melancholy getting older but achieving nothing. Compared with the past, I found out why my needs are more and more, but the things that can satisfy myself are less and less.
The material is gradually enriched, but the human heart is restless. Slowly, I started to ask myself, do I really need that much?
In this city, if you are not careful, consumption becomes the only source of short-term happiness. This thing quietly dominates you, but makes you unaware.
I still remember that when I was a child, I lived in the mountains and had all kinds of fruits and vegetables. Every day I only needed to carry a vegetable basket and hum a little song. After a while, the vegetable basket was already colorful.
After watching the movie Heidi and Grandpa, there are three things that moved me the most.
The first point is that people are born in nature, so they should also be attributed to nature.
For 8-year-old Heidi, when she went to her grandfather's house at the foot of the Alps, although she had never met, she fell in love with the land at first sight and wanted to stay there forever, like an eagle flying freely.
The cold grandfather was finally moved by Heidi's innocence and warmth, accepted Heidi, and wanted to raise her up.
The appearance of Aunt Heidi changed the trajectory of Heidi's life again, and went to a wealthy home to accompany the daughter to study and enjoy the glory.
But Heidi was so unhappy in her heart, she was in a mansion but she was in a cage, she had to sneak out at the risk of being punished, found the tallest tower, wanted to see the steep mountain, and looked around, The buildings of the city are densely connected, and the sky is gray.
I can't see the mountain, and I can't see my grandpa. Heidi has had a heart attack ever since.
Although there is soft bread to eat every day, Heidi still wants to go home, thinking about the day when she can bring the soft bread she has hoarded to her grumpy grandma.
Although he slept on the soft bed every night, his dream was the snow-capped Alps, and his grandfather's grim and loving eyes.
Heidi was fortunate to meet a doctor who could understand children's psychology. Knowing that she was homesick, Clara's father agreed to let Heidi return to her grandfather.
The scene that left the deepest impression on me was when Heidi passed through the village, all the adults who saw the brightly dressed little girl ran over and commented on the expensive dress, while Heidi threw away her boots and ran barefoot. Back at my grandfather's house, while running on the grass, throwing away the aristocratic dress.
Little Heidi was born free, and everything that represented status and money left no trace in her heart. Only the chair specially made by her grandfather, only the sheep in the circle and the flowers and plants on the mountain moved her. inner treasure.
At a young age, she was so pure, like a newborn baby with nothing, she came to this world and felt it curiously.
As people grow up, the distance between people and nature is getting farther and farther, and the connection with the mother body is getting weaker and weaker.
Slowly, our hearts become empty and impetuous, so we need more external things to bring our so-called happiness and pleasure.
We spend our whole life in pursuit of houses, cars, fame, money, status, famous brands, etc. In the end, we have forgotten that the most primitive we are from nature.
I want to be decent all my life, but no amount of add-ons can equal the desolation in my heart. When will we really quietly go for a walk in the mountains and go to the beach to see.
We watched it, we traveled, we took pictures, and to put it simply: we have "punch-in" all the popular places.
How ridiculous, to travel between landscapes, but only for a show on social media. Then? Continue to work hard, get busy with work, save more money, go to more places.
Because there is no such a state of mind that "the house is in a human environment, without the noise of cars and horses", no matter how many places you go, the habitat of the soul still cannot flourish. And we do not have the courage to seek our Baikal.
Writing here, let me understand another revelation brought to me by the movie: people's needs are not many, and most of the time what we buy is anxiety.
There are thousands of shopping platforms and advertisements everywhere. We can buy anything, but it is difficult to get that simple happiness.
When I was a child, my dream was to see all the true feelings in the world, write my feelings, care about the spiritual world, care about the soul, and like Haizi, care about food and vegetables.
Aren't there only a handful of important things that we need to care about?
Where did the troubles come from? From this materialistic world? No, it comes from ourselves. We cannot bring this restless heart into balance with the world.
We shouted: "The struggle is not to change the world, but not to let the world change us."
"The world" felt resentful after hearing this, because the world is there, and whether you can change it or not has little to do with it.
If my spirit is rich enough, even if I don't have Tao Yuanming's Nanshan Mountain, I don't have Thoreau's Lake Baikal, and I can still be at peace in a bustling city. If spiritually rich, then I have everything, even if I have nothing.
I recently read a book about minimalism. The main reason why the author started to live a zero-waste life is to "save money", but when you save, you find a lot of happiness and joy.
Based on the idea that human beings do not need much material support, on the one hand, the implementation of zero waste can greatly reduce their economic burden, and more importantly, more energy and time can be devoted to building a spiritual home. And the fragrance of the spiritual home is an unexpected joy.
I am currently in desperate need of such a method.
I've listed some simple things we can do.
one. zero waste cooking
I still cook quite a lot in the second half of this year, because I really don’t want to eat too much takeout, and I really want to save money.
But in fact, there will still be waste of ingredients. For example, if you buy too many ingredients at one time, you don’t use them up within a few days, and then they break down and can only be thrown away.
According to the author's experience, the key to avoiding food waste is actually two points: First, use up the ingredients you have on hand first, and don't buy in large quantities. The second is to learn to plan meals and buy only what you need.
There is a saying: We are what we eat. Therefore, properly planning the food you eat every day will not only experience the fun of fireworks in life, but also ensure your health.
two. clean up residence
We rented a room in Beijing, a room is not big enough for daily life, not too small, not the legendary "snail dwelling" and "ant dwelling" in those days. Relatively speaking, we are still very happy.
I have never considered myself a drifter. I don't feel like I'm drifting, I define myself as living my life seriously and hard. Only when the heart is unsettled will the heart say to you: "Hey, aren't you tired? Wandering outside."
What others tell you is the life of others, don't scare yourself.
And we don't have a lot of space in this city, what we need to do is to be able to keep our space only what we need to make everything more organized.
It's a bit like my husband's philosophy: Strategies are more powerful than emotions.
In this way, I'm really making progress, and I'm starting to learn strategies instead of struggling with a mess of life.
The best way for me to start by documenting the good ways others experience life and starting a little bit of realizing it, and then making it into my own.
When it comes to cleaning up, the authors of the book divide it into three areas: laundry, household items, and mood.
1. Wardrobe finishing:
Girls like to buy clothes very much. Open the online shopping app to fill up the shopping cart, Double Eleven, Double Twelve, Christmas, Valentine's Day and so on. In fact, as long as we want to buy, which day is not a shopping festival? As a result, the wardrobe was crowded, and more and more pits were stepped on, so I hid these pits as if I had never stepped on them.
In response to this problem, the author mentioned: We need to learn to be interesting, mix and match at will, buy as little as possible, and buy better if we want to.
To put it simply, I spent 2 hours buying 3 clothes online, and found that only one is satisfactory, and the other two may be worn casually, so why not use the funds to buy three clothes to choose a better quality one? . And this one might be enough for you to wear on every occasion.
"Cherish your money: don't spend your money on fast fashion labels, their profits are based on sacrificing the interests of the planet and humanity."
The above is the author's original words. I also have a deep understanding of this point. After we came out to work, we realized that all kinds of things have their own brands. After that, I also bought some so-called brand things. Of course, there is no harm without comparison. It definitely makes sense to get what you pay for.
For example shoes or basic skin care products, when I try a well-known brand, I do get some good experiences.
For my weekly stand-up lectures, a comfortable pair of shoes is so important. But two years ago, I just bought a pair of leather shoes, the price was around 200-300, and I didn't feel too uncomfortable, but at the end of every weekend, after 6 classes, I went home and complained.
In the end, it was my husband who urged me to buy a good pair of shoes. Yes, I have enjoyed the soles of my feet ever since.
One day, I took out the black leather shoes and put them on again. I only taught two classes that day, and my heel hurt again. So this pit was thrown out of my house by me!
Therefore, it is not impossible to consume branded things. If this thing can solve the problems of your life and make your work easier, then we can have it, and of course we don’t need too much.
Just like this kind of soft shoes, two pairs are enough for me to change them. But I never put my money and attention on fashion brands. Keep what you need, keep what is best.
2. Reduce clutter
This is the most simple, direct and effective way to make our small space more tidy. And the process of sorting out the sundries can also allow us to discover what we have, so that we can think twice before we think about "chopping our hands".
The first way to reduce clutter is to keep everything organized and labelled. The second method is to never bring unnecessary things into your home, such as fitness equipment that you will never use at all. (remind)
For example many shopping bags, shopping boxes. But this is the easiest, and everyone can at least keep things clean. I'm still learning some ways to organize things, because things can get messy if you're not careful. I am trying.
3. Clear your mind
I especially need this, because it's really hard to clean up your brain than to clean up your room.
Because I have been a person who thinks a lot since I was a child, my friends in the past can find that I am very sensitive. Of course, this word has a double meaning. On the one hand, I may be glass-hearted, and on the other hand, I maintain a keen sense of smell for everything around me.
So, my source of happiness will also be simple. However, I also have many sources of negative emotions. That's why I read this book, and I'm so glad that someone tried it out, so I can really help myself.
How to clear your emotions?
1. Quit electronics.
The simple thing is to quit your phone. My own method is to delete all the various mobile phone software that I don't need to free my phone.
In this way, when I am bored again, I will find out: mobile phones are not fun at all. Might as well get up and type.
When I find that writing is more fun than playing with my mobile phone, the mobile phone becomes the most primitive communication tool, and the mobile phone should be very gratifying that I don't have to be blamed anymore.
2. Sleep priority.
My sleep quality is not good, the most notable feature is constant dreaming, and I have always had the habit of sleeping in late. And my work rhythm just gives me this opportunity, I have the opportunity to sleep in 20 days a month.
And I'm the kind of person who doesn't feel guilty after sleeping in, and doesn't even think about how much time I've wasted.
I just feel that I am so happy to sleep, and I can be full of energy again today.
Today, I rarely got up at 8 o'clock, and finally wrote my movie-watching experience.
I'm very satisfied, I can't discipline myself to get up at 6 o'clock, but I have to get up at 7 o'clock on weekends. It's also balanced.
Sleeping is too important. If you go to bed late and stay up late, if you go to bed at one or two in the morning the first night, even if you sleep until ten in the morning the next day, this is not a good sleep.
Quality sleep means going to bed early and waking up early. There are two ways to go to bed early for me: one is to put down the phone. Second, talk less.
3. Value experience over owning.
When we put down our electronics, when we have better sleep. Our energy and time can be used to experience everything we want to experience.
My wish is: read freely, write freely, watch movies freely, and live freely.
These have nothing to do with possessing material things, but it has everything to do with me being able to stand on my feet, to wake up with a real joy, and to be able to look up and enjoy the winter sunshine in Beijing, and everything I want to have.
Moving from the film to the book, I will finally mention the third thing I learned from watching the film: the nature of "education".
I have always been teaching children, and to be honest I don't understand education, and I don't know how to guide children. I'm just teaching skills, but I don't know anything about the mental world of children.
The little Heidi in the movie couldn't read until she was 8 years old and couldn't keep up with the lessons when she was studying with Clara. When the teacher asked Little Heidi to read letters, little Heidi would only say that the letter looked like a mountain, but she couldn't spell it. . The teacher has been teaching for several days without any progress, and has become a little pissed off.
When Clara's grandmother found out about this, she didn't blame Heidi, but when she told her child a bedtime story, she stopped abruptly when she said that the child was in a hurry and wanted to continue listening.
Then tell the child: "If you want to know the next story yourself, you can try to read it yourself." Look, Grandma Clara gave Heidi a choice. If you really like it, you have to read it yourself, because it is not There will be someone who will read the story to you all the time, and there will be no one who will accompany you all the time.
The child's curiosity is very heavy. The next story is too tempting for the active Heidi. Naturally, Heidi learned to read and fell in love with reading.
From this point of view, it really proves that the idea of teaching English that I am implementing now is extremely correct.
Because the teacher in the movie taught Heidi letters and words as soon as she came up, but Heidi couldn't learn anything. Grandma read stories to Heidi and led her to read them, and the children also learned the language in the stories.
Heidi finally chose to return to her grandfather and lived at the foot of the Alps. Grandma Clara finally gave Heidi a pen and a notebook instead of a book. She hoped that Heidi could also write her own story. Heidi can not only read stories, but also write stories.
Education is the spring breeze and the rain, the good guidance, not forcing the thoughts of adults, but listening, but helping.
Next time, if you meet a naughty child or a child who disrupts the classroom, don't get angry, but smile and say, "I'll give you a little time, can you finish what you want to say first?"
"There is no such thing as easy in the adult world." According to my observation, there is no such thing as a child's world.
Writing and writing, many things are actually very easy, the important thing is not to find it difficult, to make things simple.
I don't have Heidi's Alps, but I have rolling hills, winding paths, and babbling streams from my childhood memories. These are the medicines that redeem my soul.
Actually, I also have a Heidi in my heart, how about you?
And I finally started writing my own story.
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