Life is always changing, and we are powerless to change and can only accept it calmly.
This finally let out a long breath.
During yesterday's viewing process, I was always guessing the director's intentions, but it was completely different until the end. The love triangle at the beginning made me fall into a moral hearing. The different fates of the protagonists from 1999 to 2015 made me angry that I must be successful (rich) in life; but it didn’t last long, Jinsheng and Dale in 2025 Opposition once again smashed the lie that material things can bring happiness; just as Le returned to Fenyang to defend the few remaining beliefs in life with family affection, the movie stopped abruptly when Tao Er was dancing in a barren snow field. Following the dance of the year, I left a large piece of blank space to the dazed me(s) in the audience.
Looking back, I have to say that I am too directional thinking. Jia Zhangke is not Hollywood. At the end of the play, we don't need all the bad guys to die and the good guys to live alone. And in fact, he has secretly made a point. The artistic poster of "Old Men of the Mountains and Rivers" has a large line of characters: Everyone can only walk with you for a while. So the final point is not whether Dale goes home to eat the dumplings made by Tao'er, but Tao'er, the protagonist who represents us, will eventually face the vast world and the vast life alone.
Because the relationship failed, Liang Zi left; because of the divorce, Jin Sheng left; because the sentence was pronounced, the son left; because the time came, the father "left". Tao'er, who was affected by all this, silently picked up the key thrown by Liangzi, ripped off the silk scarf from his son's neck, and sat at the station where his father died for a short while, and he couldn't change the way these people were from the beginning to the end. Leave. The longer we live, the more we realize that this inability to change is the fate of most of us. I once thought that I could use tears to call back a heart that didn't love, I thought that I could use money to delay the countdown of life, but in the end I found that everything was in vain, and we couldn't change anything.
We can't change anything and we have two choices - either to be emotionally correct, or to accept it calmly. Emotions are like those protagonists of social news, who are killed because of love, and angry because of hatred (Jinsheng who buys guns and explosives is a typical example), and driven by emotions, they go to the devil and become stupid. Accept Ru Tao’er calmly, I will pick up the keys you lost, and I will always wrap your favorite dumplings. If you have to leave, I will take the slow train to see you off. Because of this peace, she always smiles in her life. With a smile, he received guests who didn't buy anything, smiled at the two men who liked him at the same time, smiled at Liang Zi's house with broken roofs, and repaired the old sweaters in his mansion with a smile.
Accepting calmly does not mean that there are no emotions, but smart people understand that emotions do not help. Getting caught up in emotional intensity can only hurt yourself, and the sooner you accept it, the faster you will be able to go to the sky.
The truth may be understood by everyone, but it is equally difficult for everyone to do it. Perhaps there is an idea that can help us reduce the difficulty. Let’s first imagine such a scene. In the movie, there is no direct account of Tao’er and Jinsheng’s divorce, but it is conceivable that Tao’er will have two kinds of psychology in the face of Jinsheng’s divorce (it should be his request to leave):
one is regret At the beginning, we should not have chosen Jin Sheng, but Liang Zi. Liang Zi is definitely not someone who got divorced halfway through. Although he is poor, there are people who are happy. The choice back then was too stupid
. It's obvious that he is begging and chasing after him. Now that he has only been married for more than ten years, he is going to divorce, take his son away, and have a new lover. He is simply scum, and it is all his fault.
The responsibility of the first kind of psychology lies with Tao’er himself, and the responsibility of the second kind of psychology lies with Jinsheng, but have you found out that no matter what kind of psychology seems to have found the culprit, the truth is that Jinsheng is going to divorce and leave. A little help. Jin Sheng knew that Chen Shimei was fine, and he believed that Fenyang Taixiaolong was stranded on the beach. He had already made up his mind to leave, and he would always leave. Life is not a debate arena or a courtroom, and judging right and wrong is often meaningless. We are accustomed to finding someone to convict first when something goes wrong, but we don’t think much about the fact that conviction can’t shake the ending.
Like the English title of the movie, Mountains May Depart, if a mountain is going to go, who will ask if a mountain is your fault or mine. If the mountain wants to go, let him go.
A few years ago, when I was in love, a friend said a great thing to my crying: Don't get stuck in one emotion for too long. At that time, I couldn't understand and even thought she was ruthless and heartless. It's a big thing to lose her love. ! After a few months, I finally stopped crying late at night, and I deeply realized the true meaning of her words, but the time that was wasted in the past few months has passed forever. Since then, I no longer get caught in the emotions of why there are only three big characters in my mind. It feels very good to turn my head and walk on the track to enrich myself. Up to now, I already have some elements of gratitude for that incident. No matter how painful it was at the beginning, the credits I took in a breakup class are my own.
Just happened to see a friend come out yesterday. As a full-time wife, she gave birth to a son after a lot of ups and downs, and because of this, she had more interactions with her in-laws; because she did not have a job income, her in-laws had quite a few opinions on her, and one day she even shouted to her because of her carelessness. I bought the house, get out of here!". Of course she couldn't get out when her son was still young, she could only swallow her anger, but she had been in a lot of pain all the time (it's not just the pain for me, maybe even the son didn't care about it and got out right away). We all felt that she was too difficult but did not have much energy, until yesterday she posted such a circle of friends:
I have been in the mood of self-pity for too long, and suddenly repented tonight. No matter what they do, look down on me or let me go, I just need to take good care of my baby, honor my parents, and trust my lover, that's enough. And love yourself! Always love yourself. tomorrow is a new day.
I think every word she said was absolutely right!
When things happen, it is inevitable that we, as human beings, have emotions, but whether we are facing parting or other pain and grievance, we must remember that calm acceptance is the best way to fight all changes and coercion. It doesn't matter if we and others are right or wrong, it's just that we can live better in this way.
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