When the movie was about to be released, I went to the cinema to see Sister Tao. There were many old ladies who came together. As soon as I entered the venue, I heard all kinds of unfamiliar but familiar parents. Then I found that the right side was alone The boys who come here are not only particularly sissy, but also have dyslexia - if there is a word on the screen, he will definitely read it out, even his own thoughts must be read out, 90% of the time. muttering to himself in a low voice. Therefore, my viewing environment can be described as strange... I don't want to go into details about the feelings between the characters in the film. The point of tears is in the last scene where Jian Shu from the old people's home came to offer flowers at Sister Tao's memorial service. For me, who has very low tears, such few tears were not expected. After thinking about it, it may be because I spent 5% of my mind to deal with the dyslexia next to me while watching a movie. ...
The elderly home in the movie is very realistic and cruel. In the most crowded place in Hong Kong, the surrounding environment is chaotic, and the elderly are treated like cramming ducks every day. Sister Tao lived in a single room, but this single room was just a board to separate the others. Sister Tao, who loves cleanliness so much, just stared at the messy corners and the electric fans that broke through the walls, but she couldn't do anything and fell on her luggage.
During the four years of the university, I have been continuously participating in volunteer work in various ways, from the initial participation in activities to the later project leadership, and I have done various types of work. Children, the elderly, various civilized propaganda, environmental protection and many more. The most troublesome part is the elderly.
There are naturally many projects under the name of the school’s volunteer group. Regarding the elderly, some college groups will go to nursing homes. The school’s group basically does the community. Our theme is caring for the lonely and widowed elderly. Empty nester. I want to talk about nursing homes, empty nesters, and volunteers who care for the elderly.
[About two types of elderly people]
Needless to say, the elderly in the nursing home came to the nursing home for reasons such as the death of their wife, the family had no time to take care of them, and they could not take good care of themselves. They don't have to cook by themselves, they have a unified daily life, and they also have some elderly friends of the same age. They may face problems such as getting old and getting sick, as well as poor spirits. When ordinary volunteers come to the nursing home, they will prepare some programs, chat with the elderly, and do homework, so that the elderly can feel the so-called "warmth of family affection".
What is an empty nester? The definition in Baidu Encyclopedia is: "Generally refers to middle-aged and elderly couples after their children leave home. With the deepening of social aging, there are more and more empty nesters, which has become a social problem that cannot be ignored. The psychological disorder symptoms of middle-aged and elderly couples who live alone in the "empty nest" after leaving home for reasons such as , study, marriage, etc., are called family "empty nest" syndrome." - In fact, it has been explained clearly. In addition to doing homework, these elderly people also need the help of some volunteers within their ability, such as accompanying the elderly to buy vegetables, or simply helping the elderly with limited mobility to do some simple housework.
[Realistic Problems]
Volunteers who are very warm-hearted to respect the elderly actually have many practical difficulties. Many people are smug when they first participate in volunteer activities, and feel that they will always find time to do this kind of love work, but who doesn't have their own business? A person can take a weekend or two weekends to participate in activities, but within a month, he always wants to go shopping with friends, stay at home, play games in the suburbs, students need to do homework, and people who work Make up sleep and work overtime. Some people may think that it doesn't matter, I am involved in an organization, so it's fine if I don't go to others to make up for it this week. But the real problem is that the frequent replacement of volunteers will cause great distress to the elderly.
What is our purpose? It is to bring a warm feeling to the elderly, like family-like intimacy. Just imagine, someone comes to you every week and says "Hi, I'll play with you this weekend." For us young people, we may chat about constellations and blood types and other topics, and we'll talk about it next week. When you meet the same person, you may start to chat about interesting things between friends, and then talk about boyfriend and girlfriend together next week. After a month, you will become very good friends. But if from the second week, a new person comes to play with you, you may also chat with him about the constellation blood type, and a new person comes to talk to you about the constellation blood type every week, will you feel warm or not? Tired?
Therefore, volunteers are not fixed, which is a hidden difficulty in the development of respect for the elderly. It cannot be simply understood that as long as someone goes there every week, the purpose of caring for the elderly will be achieved - this is far from enough. For example, some empty-nest elderly may need a fixed child to accompany them to buy vegetables, etc. The elderly have finally established trust in a child and feel caring, but they find that in exchange, the elderly who do not have long-term family companionship think differently It is easy to be pessimistic, but it brings harm to their psychology because of volunteer activities.
During the holidays, nursing homes usually welcome some beaming volunteers. The volunteers carefully prepared programs and some brought gifts. There is a narrative in "Sister Peach", the old people sit together, someone sings and dances, they greet the camera with a smile, and the VCR immediately changes their faces, and even takes back the gifts they brought. ——Respecting the elderly well has become a propaganda that goes through the motions. Such a phenomenon must exist in real life, and people today are too utilitarian. But in reality, a large part of the volunteers are very well-intentioned and do not have the above-mentioned behaviors. But what does everyone's kindness bring?
In the morning, the old people got up early in the morning, started to get dressed and then sat together. The first group of volunteers came in the morning, brought programs for the old people, chatted with the old people, and had no time to take a lunch break after eating at noon. Started to receive the second group of volunteers. There are some well-known nursing homes that can receive four or five groups of volunteers a day during the festival. After the volunteers left their love behind, the elderly have had an exhausting day, and maybe they will leave one. Messy venue. The energy of the old people is not as good as that of the young people. Even if they sit and watch the show and laugh at you, it is very exhausting.
[Volunteers' self-protection] The
above mentioned some of the troubles caused by unfixed volunteers to the elderly. In fact, there are many precautions for volunteers' self-protection. It is easier for everyone to go to the nursing home in an organized way, and there are some clear rules about what to do and what not to do. Therefore, it is simply about some behaviors that should be paid attention to when caring for the empty-nest elderly and lonely and widowed elderly in the community.
First of all, assuming that our volunteers caring for the same elderly are fixed, then each elderly must be equipped with more than two volunteers.
① Elderly people are prone to some emergencies, such as sudden illnesses, etc., two people are less nervous and easier to make up their minds than one person;
② Some elderly people may be involved in activities such as grocery shopping. It is not easy to have misunderstandings about the withdrawal of money;
③ Some elderly people may ask volunteers to do some activities that are not within the scope of volunteers, such as cleaning glass... It is better for two people to refuse. We must make it clear which ones are within our voluntary scope and which ones are not. We do not do dangerous actions. If the elderly treat us as domestic helpers, they will also refuse;
④ Last point, it may look strange to write this way. But don't think old people can't hurt you. We know that 99% of the elderly are good-hearted and kind, but we always have to guard against the 1%. I have participated in a training, and the trainer said something that surprised me, but I still remember it to this day: girls, you can't wear high heels. Once you feel that something is wrong, step on your flat shoes and run! ——When going to an old man’s house, especially a lonely old grandfather’s house, it is best to have more than one boy in a group of volunteers. Is it funny? However, there have been attempts to harm female volunteers by widowed and lonely grandfathers.
So, no matter what the situation is, volunteers, always remember to protect yourself! When encountering a dispute that cannot be handled by oneself, find the person in charge of the volunteer organization, the staff of the nursing home, and the neighborhood committee of the community.
[Appropriate use of love]
We often say that everyone should use their love correctly, and try to do as long as possible when teaching children; environmental protection should start with the children around you; take care of pet medicine from beginning to end and so on.
So how do we care for the elderly? Start by asking yourself questions like:
1) Is the organization I am part of a reliable organization? If I organized spontaneously with my friends, did we find the right path?
2) Am I determined to contact the elderly person who needs care at least once a week, and insist on it for a long time (more than half a year), so that the elderly will not often feel sad when they are taking tea?
3) After making an agreement with the elderly, if it conflicts with my entertainment activities, can I sacrifice the entertainment time?
4) Is the nursing home I care for the elderly full of volunteers? That is, the elderly are tired of hosting different volunteer organizations?
5) Do we have suitable means to protect ourselves?
6) Most importantly, ask yourself, how do we treat the elderly in our own homes?
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