"Attached Beauty" tells the story of Howard, a father who lost his child, slowly walked out of the sad story through art (mainly drama) with the help of his friends for "selfish gain". In each scene, the dialogue between the people involved in it is getting deeper and deeper, which seems to be for themselves, but in fact it is for others. What seems to be someone else's actions unintentionally also affects oneself.
In this dramatic storm, everyone participated and deeply influenced each other. No one was isolated and alone.
2020 is not an easy year for many people. The epidemic has drawn us closer to death, disease, and aging.
Contemporary social culture often requires people to "get well" quickly, but there is little room for everyone to grieve. In some classic psychological counseling orientations, grief is often placed from a personal perspective, and it is basically advocated to help visitors restore their "sense of reality" and tell them that someone is no longer there.
However, it ignores other multicultural perspectives:
1. People instinctively need relationships, and relationships are part of us.
Letting go of an important relationship requires a lot of effort and is painful. Emphasizing too fast to look forward is actually forcing a person to return to a state of being alone and responsible for oneself alone.
In response to the inability to fulfill and fulfill the expectations imposed by society, it will bring a lot of shame to people, and limit a person to have enough space to express and sort out their complex emotions, and then produce symptoms.
We can also use different ways to understand the lost experience.
2. A person’s grief is never just his own grief, but the grief of a group of people.
Humans are social animals, and humans define themselves in relationships. We cannot grieve alone (Valentine, 2006), and we cannot construct the meaning of death in isolation. We construct meaning in the relationship between social groups and others.
3. Grief is actually a way to become yourself.
To some extent, life is a journey towards death. And everyone in this journey uses their own way to mourn the past, the past self, the past relationship, and become a different self.
We are affected by the loss of the one we love, and then we are no longer the same as before.
We tend to pay attention to the pain, and forget to pay attention to the laughter and precious beauty obtained in it.
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Author: Robin | Luo Binbin
The main creator of space-time art psychology, the second-level psychologist, the member of the group psychologist club, the part-time psychologist and lecturer of Qing Ai Health, the psychology lecturer of Xingfu Space Art
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