I do not comment on the filming, plot and other issues of the work itself, but it gave me some thinking, and it also made me understand a lot of truth, and understand the practice and meaning of the so-called "pure" itself.
Does anyone really love the inside of you? What is the essence of love? What is pure life?
I finished reading it on the evening of February 16, but I was not in a hurry to express my thoughts, and only now slowly think about writing something.
The story is about a man who sleeps every day and wakes up every day to become a man whose age, nationality, and gender are completely different from the previous day. At first, I saw this Amway on Douyin and thought it would be a comedy.
The first part is indeed more humorous. When the protagonist becomes a beautiful woman, his basic friend even suggested...
After all, every day’s experience is different, and what appears in the eyes of others is also different. Think about what it would be like to appear in the eyes of others, it must be cool, and you can experience other people’s lives.
But this movie is about love. After encountering love, the style of the movie changed. Some netizens did not give it a high evaluation. Of course, I don't praise this movie, and I don't do movie reviews. I just say own feelings.
What touched me the most was not the part of love, but the purity it brought me, or the key elements of love that it gave me for a moment.
This article will not give too many spoilers. Everything starts from the male protagonist meeting the female protagonist. The Korean filmmaking level is really good, and it reflects a lot of details.
The female protagonist is naturally beautiful, but he obviously also took a fancy to her inner side, which is a foreshadowing.
He would go to her every day, and one day he became a handsome guy, and he decided to invite her to dinner.
They met, had a good chat, everything was natural, and they were together a few days later. But he also paid a lot, such as staying up late for several days in order not to become another person.
Later, he still fell asleep accidentally and failed to make the appointment. Because of his deep love for the heroine, he confessed to the heroine when he was a daughter.
Next, the heroine experienced several stages of heartbeat, contradiction, and finally relief. They are together.
Just when I thought they would be fine, the problem still occurred.
Just as I expected before, do you like someone, do you like that person on the outside or on the inside? Or the so-called "beginning with appearance, falling into talent, and finally character"?
She started taking medicine, fell into gossip, and was depressed. Even when the male protagonist proposed to her, she was thinking about the real problems of her future life.
And what the male protagonist considers is to be with her all the time.
In exchange, it was: "Why do you always think about yourself?"
The male protagonist's inner narration is: "I thought we had the same idea, maybe we love each other in different ways."
At this time, my interpretation is like this, it is normal for two people to have different ideas. The male protagonist wants to be understood and loved; the female protagonist wants normal love. And the male protagonist did not know that the female protagonist was taking medicine at that time.
Seeing this, I am more and more convinced that although love can warm people's hearts, make you yourself, and make you brave, love still cannot escape reality.
The male protagonist who felt distressed for the female protagonist still chose to break up. He must be in pain, and sometimes I wonder what if I were him, what would I do?
If no one loves you, should you fall or feel sorry for yourself? Should I give up the heroine completely, to give up this love that "doesn't belong to him"?
Or just break the jar and do some illegal things while you can change your face every day?
He didn't have any. He chose to go abroad and continue to follow the heroine in another way.
When I saw this, I was actually shocked, and of course I wasn't surprised at all. Life abroad is simple and comfortable, and it even made me yearn for it. Excluding the plot deliberately, in fact, I am more relieved.
In "The Road Less Traveled", the author once said precisely: "Attention is the best form of love."
That is, although I can't be with you, although there are various practical factors, I still love you, and I will continue to pay attention to you. I can't let this relationship deteriorate just because I am not with you.
The male protagonist has a pure heart, pure life, and pure love. This is what I lack and what I want.
He could have gone to other girls, to someone who could "always understand him".
He could have forgotten about this relationship, so he wouldn't repeat this pain over and over again.
He could have broken the jar and simply took revenge on the society, after all, he was not understood by the society.
But he didn't have any, none of them, just the same simple and pure life.
After that, the heroine found the hero and confessed to him, "It makes me more uncomfortable to lose you than to get sick."
At this point, the whole film has reached its climax. What I understand is that, in fact, the heroine here is truly in love with the hero.
She doesn't even care that the male protagonist is replaced by someone else every day, even an 80-year-old uncle.
But how much love is there?
Fromm said in "The Art of Love" that every attempt to love will fail without the effort to develop one's entire personality and thereby achieve a creative disposition ; without the ability to love others, without true humility Love others bravely, sincerely, and disciplined, and people will never be satisfied in their own love lives.
Everyone loves the other in their own form, and everyone is more or less hurt by the other's form.
We all need love too much, but we always need others to give us love first, and then we will give and feel it is worth giving.
When people are passionately in love, they often give up and even lose themselves, but when their passion subsides and they get married, they start to pay attention to reality. Gradually, love entered the misunderstanding, went to exhaustion, went to decline.
There is a sentence in "The Art of Love" that impressed me deeply. Love can only arise between two people who both jump out of the circle of their existence and combine with each other, and at the same time, each of them can break away from self-centeredness. to experience yourself.
Only this "central experience" is the reality of man, life, and the foundation of love. The love so experienced is a constant challenge, a love that is not a haven, but a shared effort, growth and labor.
"Love is not a safe haven", everyone seems to be talking about this problem, but it seems that everyone can't escape this problem.
When you come home from get off work, TA gives you a hug, you think this is love.
If you are angry and ignore others, TA patiently coaxes you and cooks for you, you think this is love.
You lose the game and ignore others, TA comforts and hugs you, you think this is love.
If you lack love, TA asks you for warmth every day, gives you sunshine and smiles, and accompanies you to do what you want to do. You think this is love.
...
It is understandable that at least the good part of the relationship has been discovered by you, but obviously this is only a small part.
Fromm also said that if two people can start from the essence of their own life and experience oneness with each other through agreement with themselves, instead of escaping from themselves, then in the face of such basic facts, even harmony and conflict , such things as joy and sadness will have to take a back seat. "
There is only one proof that love exists: the depth of the bond and the vitality and vitality in each loved one. It is also the only fruit of love that we can see.
Here I start to reflect on myself, am I happy and serious about being myself? Have I realized that there is something more important than life? Am I putting myself in the other person's shoes?
I have been thinking a lot and crying, I have been noticed, understood, liked, what I want to be understood, loved, and paid attention to, in fact, it is not worth mentioning in the long river of love.
Does anyone really love the inside of you? If you talk about love every day, can you get the love of others?
I have tried every way to lose weight, to make money, and to think of every way to be good.
It was later discovered that it was just a transaction. If in any relationship, including friendship, family, and love, only interchangeable, equal, and opposing feelings seem to be "right," then it's not really love.
In line with the words in the book, love through hard work often makes people feel painfully: I am loved because I make the other person happy, not because of my own will - after all, I am not loved. People love, but they are needed.
If you say you love flowers but forget to water them, people won't believe you; if you love someone purely on the lips, it's not love, it's just an emotion.
2020 is indeed not peaceful. Kobe's death, the epidemic, regional conflicts, everything will make me depressed. Even if I deliberately avoid these things, negative emotions will still come.
The ever-increasing number of confirmed diagnoses has raised my reverence for life. Either I try my best to donate to others, or I try my best to protect myself.
Looking at this year's black swan events, in fact, people have long known what they should pay attention to in this world, but they are overwhelmed by the so-called righteousness, complex, success, and interests, and the darkness of human nature is fully presented in this epidemic. , but ignoring that love is the essence of this world.
Including Einstein also said that love is the source of energy in the universe, even if he can't calculate it with mathematics, we should not ignore it.
but,
People today are no longer pure.
Today's love is no longer pure.
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