I began to pay attention to this phenomenon very early, and there are differences in the aesthetics of the two genders in China and the West. Below are selected several classic films for comparison.
China: "Red Sorghum" (Zhang Yimou, 1988), "Sweet Honey" (Chen Kexin, 1996), "Sunny Day" (Jiang Wen, 1994)
Europe and the United States: "The Classroom" (Bo Widberg, 1995), "Dream of Paris" (Ninaldo Netorucci, 2003), "The Lover" (Jean-Jacques Arnault, 1992)
Objective differences:
"Goddesses" are looked up to when they are first pursued. However, in relationships, the Chinese goddess must be conquered and admire her partner. Western goddesses are not entirely in love because of male strength and money. Behind this aesthetic difference is the issue of equality between men and women, and behind equality is the issue of gender concepts.
While Western women can appreciate the femininity of men, it is difficult for Chinese women to put aside the qualitative thinking of quality males and strong matches. Men in the West can give up or abandon the desire to conquer in their sexual relations, but it is difficult for men in China to truly distinguish between sex and sexual intercourse.
Heterosexual trends toward equality:
In my opinion, in the three European and American romance films mentioned above (also belong to erotic films), men and women are basically equal in sexual relations, enjoying mutual pleasure and devotion to each other, and both men and women are quite active. This kind of sex scene is what the director is happy and good at shooting. It is a unified intercourse of body and mind, naked but not lewd, full of desire but not venting, quite beautiful, even sacred (a ritualized behavior). Not only that, with these three films as typical representatives, men are content to be wrapped by women - their undulating bodies - like mountains and forests, they appreciate the power of women - as the earth carries everything, and they are happy to dedicate their penis to her .
From a psychoanalytic standpoint, I don't think all men, especially grown men, fear and deny the fantasies of an ex-Oedipus mother and her filthy, phagocytic vagina (Jenny Chaskett. -Smegg, 1988), not all men share this fear and stigmatize the "vagina" and become hostile to it. For example, the well-known Japanese man Junichi Watanabe, the Chinese lover of Duras, they do not have this kind of macho prejudice and fantasy. French Freudian scholars also proposed that girls fantasize about obtaining a penis through Oedipus intercourse, so that they can steal their father's penis, and they assume and emphasize that women like and value the "penis". And Erickson assumes that the little girl experiences her inner space as a presence of abundance rather than scarcity (Stephen A. Mitchell, 2018), which is again a recognition of respect for the female vagina and uterus. Psychoanalysis has overemphasized the importance and status of the "penis" from the perspective of male power, thereby devaluing the vagina, or holding the view of gender equality, beginning to pay attention to the importance of "vagina" or "uterus", affirming its innate advantages.
In an equal sexual relationship, giving a penis and acquiring a penis are a pair of voluntary and mutually beneficial behaviors, and at the same time, providing a vagina and receiving a penis are also a pair of interactive behaviors. It is precisely because Chinese women and men rarely have such an equal and free interaction in film and television works and in real marriage and love relationships. I am particularly concerned about the prominent status of women in sexual relationships (in fact, Europe and the United States present equal relationships). As far as the three representative films mentioned, the Western "goddesses" very recognized and accepted their need for a penis, showed independence and autonomy, and were respected and loved by men who were proud of their penis and Happy to share and crave a vagina, while women are proud of their vaginas and breasts, share and crave a penis. This kind of mutual acceptance and identification between men and women using the penis and vagina as the medium is the psychological condition for equality between men and women in sexual relations.
From a feminist point of view, women certainly have the need and power to acquire a penis. It needs to be emphasized here that active acquisition of a penis and passive penetration are not the same behavior, and the subject consciousness behind the behavior is also different. If this point is ignored or wrongly criticized, it will lead to further tilting of the already unbalanced lever. In addition, the need and appreciation for the other (mainly referring to the "penis") should be premised on the affirmation and love of the self (mainly referring to the "vagina" and "uterus"), which is an important prerequisite for normal psychological development and maturity .
Let's go back to the three Chinese films mentioned above. "Red Sorghum" Jiu'er was "raped" in the sorghum field. Later, he willingly accepted Yu Zhanao, but also because the other party worked hard, he was carried on his shoulder and carried in his back. room. "Sunny Days" Milan is just a fantasy object of Ma Xiaojun, and they will not have substantial progress. "Sweet Honey" Li Qiao and Li Xiaojun's love and relationship based on friendship are relatively equal, but Li Qiao's marriage partner is the boss of the underworld. These stories and the aesthetic differences between the sexes embodied in the West are separated by the times, not only cultural differences, but also the first and the last in development. Just like childhood and adulthood in developmental psychology, we frequently refer to "conquest" and "fantasy" in childhood and adolescence, while in adulthood, we talk about "equality" as an adult or practice equality with actions. .
Starting from an equal sexual relationship, women should not be ashamed of "obtaining a penis", and men should appreciate and respect women's vaginas, breasts and uterus, re-recognize the power of women and live in harmony. In our country, some marginalized groups may be the earliest practitioners of "equality".
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