01 Life always disappoints us, and finally makes us live in despair
Recently, a movie with a very innovative name was released - "Dad 102". Before I watched it, I could probably think of it as a comedy based on the name of the movie. Maybe the story of the movie tells the story of how a 102-year-old father lived a wonderful life at such an advanced age. The theme of the movie that I can think of is to tell us the wonderful and infinite possibilities of life. As a result, I still guessed the beginning, but not the end.
At the beginning of the film, the first appearance is the 75-year-old son, Babu. Because I am 75 years old, I feel that I have entered old age and pay great attention to the maintenance of all aspects of the body. Because I will catch a cold if I take a bath for more than 15 minutes, I have to set an alarm clock every 14 minutes to get dressed; I am afraid that I will forget things, so I put a text reminder next to the switch in the house; I am worried about myself I will suffer from geriatric disease, so I make regular appointments with the doctor and measure my blood pressure regularly.…
In turn, his father is 102 years old, wearing a fancy suit, wearing a trendy scarf, and receiving flowers from girls. At first glance, the father looks more like a son. And the story starts from here. Dad brought a Chinese portrait from outside, Wang Chongyang. The father wanted to break the longevity record of Mr. Wang Chongyang, so he planned to send his son to a nursing home.
We have all heard that children send their parents to nursing homes, but we never imagined that fathers send their sons to nursing homes. It is not only the son who is equally astonished, but also our audience. Dad's reason is that his son's living condition is too much like an old man waiting to die. He has no fun all day long. A blanket has been covered for more than 60 years and he refuses to change it. Once it is changed, he can't sleep.
In fact, the father did not necessarily send his son to the nursing home, but just wanted him to change the state of his life. Be happier, be more comfortable, and smile more. He knows that at many moments in his son's life, something happened that made him very disappointed in life. When the disappointment accumulates too much, it will slowly eat into our hearts and make us feel very hopeless.
And the father wants to help his son find the value of life again.
02 I used to pretend I didn't know if I didn't touch it, but I knew it in my heart
In order not to go to the nursing home, the father issued a task to the son. As long as the son completed the task of the father, he could not go to the nursing home. The first task is to get his son to write a love letter to his deceased wife. At the beginning, the son was very disgusted with his father's behavior, and the so-called completion of the task was also to cope, so the love letter turned into an accusation against the father in the end. There were plenty of jokes, and the father understood the dissatisfaction in his son's heart, but said that he had made progress, at least he was very excited by him.
And the second task is to go out for a walk. The first place is an airplane model that he used to play with when he was a child. It is still there. Sitting in that airplane, his son's mind is full of childhood memories. When the director was shooting, he put the camera in the back. At that time, he was thinking, when I was old, was this the same way, and I just stayed like this and looked back on the past.
I also went to the beach, sitting by the sea, my son looked at the surging water, remembered his wife and their past, then went to a cake shop, bought a cake, rented a carriage, and cut the cake on the carriage, This is what they used to do on their wedding anniversary. It's just that the wife has passed away, so the son cut the cake and distributed it to all the passing children and the coachman. Everyone smiled because of his sharing.
He also went to church, where he thought of his son, Amo, who had been absent by his side. Only later did my father mention that Babu’s son never came back after he went to the United States to study. He called back every year, but he never brought his grandson and daughter-in-law back to see them. Therefore, in the eyes of the father, this grandson is equal to whether he has it or not. He just wants to tell his son that if his son changes when he grows up, he just needs to remember what he looked like when he was a child.
On Babu's birthday, he received a flower from Amo early in the morning, but it was hidden by his father. He didn't want to make him unhappy. After that, his grandson called back from the United States and was also pressed by his father. And that night, the son who originally recognized the bed and the sheets fell asleep in the living room for the first time. With a smile, I fell asleep listening to the music played by my father.
It wasn't until he woke up the next day that Dad took the flowers to his son and told him where the flowers came from. Babu was very angry and quickly called back his son in the United States. Dad was very helpless. Amo on the other end of the phone casually said that he would come back to see them in July, which made Babu very happy, but Dad was very worried. He was afraid that his grandson's behavior would make the change that his son finally made disappear.
In fact, Amo, who is far away in the United States, is a hard wound in Babu's heart. Once, Babu did everything he could to send him to study in the United States. Unexpectedly, after Amo went to the United States, he settled there and never came back to see them. I never told my father about settling down, getting married, and having children. I wrote a letter to my father long after the incident happened. The last sentence of the letter was "I hope you understand." Once, my father wanted to go The United States visits his son and grandson, but Amo rejects his father because he is too busy with work. What's more, when their mother died, they made a lot of phone calls from the first day they learned of the illness to the 28 days before the mother's death, but the son didn't come back until the mother's death, because the work was too busy.
In fact, as the 102-year-old father said: "The grandson calls back at a fixed time because he is thinking about this family property." How does the 75-year-old son know? It's just that he has been avoiding this situation, he has become like a beggar, begging for a child to come to see him, but the son has never fulfilled his wish. The son's room is still the same as when he was a child, looking at the things his son once left, as if he was still the child at the beginning. However, when this fact was revealed by his father himself, he became very embarrassed.
In fact, in the matter of love, whether it is family, friendship, or love, if it is just one party's dedication, most of the time it is you who touched the whole world, touched yourself, but never touched the other party. Therefore, the 105-year-old father wants his child to drive out this unworthy descendant, in fact, he wants his son to drive away the humble self in his body and make his life happier.
03 I hope you understand
Babu felt that his father was provoking the relationship between him and his own son. Even though it had been raining outside for a long time, he refused to face it. He even got mad at his own father. In his anger, he only saw his father's unreasonable request, but he never saw his father's gradually tired spirit and coughing appearance.
The 105-year-old father saw that he was so obsessed, and called his grandson in front of him, and the phone went directly to the voicemail. However, when he said that he wanted his grandson to come back to discuss property inheritance, Amo's voice immediately appeared. , said he was online, and told Grandpa that he would be back as soon as possible.
Looking at his father's injured face at the time, he actually understood everything in his heart. He still didn't want to face it. He also went to the real estate bureau to make a relevant real estate identification. Even if his father did not agree, even if he wanted to sue his father, he still planned to pass the real estate rights to his son's name. At this time, his father brought him a CT picture and told him that his time was running out. So there is no time for a lawsuit with my son, and if he still intends to do so, let him.
In fact, this also explains why the 102-year-old father forced his son to change this at the beginning of the movie. Because by chance, he discovered that he had a tumor in his brain, and he was most worried about his son. He knew that his son became very desperate because of the departure of his grandson. All he can do is let his son find himself before leaving, and live a happy life for the rest of his life. The phrase he used to say afterwards was "I won't let your son beat my son."
When the son knew all this, he finally understood the painstaking efforts of his father. When I was picking up the plane at the airport, I saw my son, took the photo album and looked at the old photos with him, just like he said, "I taught you mathematics, and when you grow up, you learn to calculate."
So this time, he and his son planned to do it once, and he brought him the money that his son put in the piggy bank when he was a child, and he didn't even need him to return home. Everything over the years was made clear at the airport. As for the so-called inheritance issue, Babu returned the money in the piggy bank that Amo kept at home when he was a child, and then left.
Just like what his old father said, "I hope you understand." This is the world has Amo, a son who is related by blood but never fulfills his son's obligations, and there are young people who are not blood related but have always been by their two elders' side. Live well when you are alive, don't live your life in despair because you are too disappointed with others. In the relationship between people, there are equal contributions. If one party always pays without limit, then the other party will become an emotional beggar over time. And when there is no chance to save everything, it is time to cut off the relationship. Too much involvement will only make yourself trapped in this vortex and lose your value.
Just like in the end, before my father passed away, he came to the conclusion of his life. He said that his life was wonderful and he had no regrets. So I hope that when I am about to leave the world, my son can whistle loudly beside him. At the end of the movie, I am very fortunate that the 75-year-old son has found the value of his life and has become confident, cheerful and energetic.
One of the reasons I admire Indian movies is that, for a small problem in life, they always dig deep into the things behind them, and then make them into movies, invisibly telling us what is right and what is wrong. And this movie also reflects a problem - the old age of empty nesters. For us, the younger generation should spend more time to accompany the elderly at home, and often go home to see, even if it is helping mother to wash the dishes, and talking to father at home. Let their old age live happily. As life approaches its twilight years, there should not be only helplessness, loneliness and disappointment left. For the elderly, if possible, don't accept the old age, and don't pin your joys, sorrows and joys on others. Everyone can keep exploring the possibilities of life.
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