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"I was born with my eyes closed, and of course everyone is born with their eyes closed. But my eyes were closed so tightly that they were all wrinkled together. I stayed that way for over two weeks after I was born.
Surprisingly, my mother didn't worry too much about it. She always said that when I'm ready, when I'm willing, I'll open my eyes myself.
And just like that, on day 1 of my life, I understood what free will means. "
That day, when he (Francisco) stared at me, through the thick nursery glass, I couldn't help but open my eyes to meet him. ”—Thomas
Falling in love with you is doomed from the moment when you can't help but open your eyes for you.
In the end, your free will also sets the tone of the film at that moment, respect and tolerance.
"If one day you're willing to tell me...if there's anything you don't understand, you don't have to be ashamed."
When the mother feels that the interaction between the two sons is too close, she does not express her worries and admonish the child, but expresses her love.
I can't help but think about whose position we "love them" when we often say "love them", and in what way are we "loving them".
When Francisco's dad Pedro (mom's ex-husband) saw the two kids being too close, he talked to his mom about it, "Aren't you worried about them developing into a sexual relationship?"
The mother's response was: "I don't know what they're doing, but they're young and it happens a lot at this age. I don't know what they're going to do either, but we can't just tell them, do this. It's not right."
Pedro: "You're not worried at all?"
Mom: "Worry."
This is the tenderness and strength of a mother who tolerates her own worries.
I like the line "We can't just tell them it's not right."
In fact, I can't fully understand this sentence, and I can't fully understand what kind of mood my mother was holding when she said this sentence?
It gives me the feeling that we can't blame the intimacy and liking between them for something that didn't happen or didn't happen. Even if this kind of love may become incest and taboo in the future.
It makes me feel respect inside, respect for free will.
Anxiety allows us to control everything under control, and the real sense of security is not afraid to face it even if we predict that bad things will happen.
I see enough security in this mother.
Love, do you need a reason?
Francisco said: "I love you because you are mine; I love you because you need love; I love you because I feel like a hero when you look at me; I love you because I touch you , I feel more manly than other men."
Thomas: "I love you too."
Francisco: "Then why do you love me too?"
Thomas: "I love you because when I touch you, I make you feel more manly than other men; I love you because no one can blame our love; I love you because understanding our love takes the world upside down ; I love you because you can love other people, but you still love me, only me."
Francisco: "Only you."
Our love needs to subvert the whole world. There are no secular shackles in the whole film, the impact of subverting the world is diluted, and love is highlighted. This way of free expression is itself a kind of subversion.
An interesting discussion comes to mind, can close relatives get married?
No, there will be problems with married children. If there is no problem, do you think it is ok?
No, this is incest, and society doesn't allow it. Assuming we exclude all reasons, you ask yourself is it ok?
Maybe your answer is still no. I just want to say that maybe it's just because we have "attitude" first that we have reasons later.
Behind the attitude lies the unconscious, the collective subconscious.
"You've never been apart, have you?"
When Thomas needed to go abroad to train for three years for the Olympics, it was the first time the two had been separated for such a long time, and the challenge also followed.
Francisco still loves Thomas deeply, and because he loves and misses him too much, he is too painful. After Thomas left, he enriched the nightlife to solve his problems.
It's heart-wrenching to see this. In my opinion, if Francisco really had a relationship with someone else, it would be a betrayal. Fortunately, it was "just a kiss".
Can't help but wonder, will distance really bring a devastating blow to love?
Thomas' biological father: "I understand."
Francisco: "You miss mom too, don't you?"
Thomas' biological father: "Yes."
Francisco's Thomas is still there, but his wife is never seen again, the same person he loves is not around, the same pain has a slightly different taste.
Is it consolation? Maybe there is.
It is a blessing to have such parents.
To be such a parent requires practice.
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