The story tells about the process of a couple reuniting for divorce after breaking up. I was reminded that day and found that the film had a funny Chinese translation called "Iranian Divorce". The unsuitability might be that although the husband Ahmad is from Iran, this setting did not have any substantial influence on the development of the story. Influence; in essence, the story discusses how people face themselves and the past.
Others are hell, Sartre said. But in the process of watching "The Past", I can't help but feel that the more terrifying hell is actually built by ourselves.
The idea of his wife Marie is simple: to improve the relationship with the eldest daughter, we must marry the owner of the dry cleaner as soon as possible. When the two conflicts, she doesn't want to solve the problem, but objectively she doesn't understand the eldest daughter's thinking, and she only hopes that Ahmad, who has a good relationship with her eldest daughter, will help her "clear the obstacles." After her daughter’s "secret" was finally revealed, her first reaction was not to reflect on the harm she had done to her eldest daughter (and the wife of the dry cleaners owner), but to roar and ask the eldest daughter why she hurt herself so much and put her Drive out of the house. Although she later calmed down slowly, found her elder daughter, and communicated frankly with the owner of the dry cleaner on the matter, the little affection she had for her disappeared when she smashed the hard object in her hand at the eldest daughter. Exhausted. Marie is not a "bad guy", she has never intentionally hurt anyone; but she seems to be unable to deal with her emotional problems, unable to control her emotions, and not good at communication-this makes her not only hurt her daughter, ex-husband, but also hurt Own. According to the communication between Ahmad and the eldest daughter, Marie’s relationship was not going well. She had already changed several boyfriends before Ahmad. The long-term instability of the family relationship made the eldest daughter very sensitive, and the seeds of disagreement between the two have been planted; After breaking up with Ahmad for unknown reasons, his sloppy (in the eldest daughter's opinion) relationship with the owner of the dry cleaner disrupted the marriage of others and caused him to get pregnant when he was unmarried.
It is not always easy to talk about others, but it is always difficult to admit one's own problems (well, I'm talking about myself). As a bystander, I always wonder if Marie is more cautious in dealing with her relationship problems, and paying more attention to her daughter's emotional and communication needs from the beginning, will everything not come to the present situation. Whenever she raises her voice because of poor communication with others, or when she blames others for making herself unable to be happy, although she can't bear her situation, she can't produce real emotional resonance. Her hell was built by herself. Unable to understand their needs, unable to find a way to achieve their goals, difficult to deal with the relationship with themselves-everyone may make their place into hell.
PS: There are a few details that I paid attention to at first, but later I thought that maybe it really didn't matter: Who did the laundry on earth? If it is not washed out, will everything be different? However, maybe there is no such thing, there will be other things. The seeds of dissatisfaction have been planted, and the thunder that ignited the wire will always be detonated;
PSPS: At the beginning, I didn't understand why the eldest daughter hated Marie so much with the laundrette owner. At the end, I finally understood. I remembered that sentence, saying that all people's anger comes from their own incompetence. In fact, similarly, the source of all kinds of dissatisfaction with others is still in oneself. She couldn't really hate her mother, so she hated this man, thinking that if he were not with her mother, all this would not have happened, she would not have access to this matter herself, and would not cause her wife to become a vegetable. ...After all, blame yourself.
PSPSPS: In fact, I think the last paragraph is a bit "funny". Marie and the two have been exploring who leaked the news to his wife-does it matter who leaked the news? Didn't they leak it and you can continue living with peace of mind as if nothing happened>_
