We have lost our children, should we lose each other?

Kaylie 2021-12-24 08:01:52

This may be the accident in life. No one is wrong. Becca and her husband are right. The perpetrator who killed their child was right. Even the dog that caused the child's car accident was right. But life changed like this, full of contradictions, gradually irreconcilable, and even difficult to have sex.

Honesty is mutual, understanding is mutual, and comfort is mutual, but everything seems to be ineffective, and what is lost can never be returned. In the end, no one can comfort anyone, and happiness is difficult to restore. This is how Beka and her husband lived during the eight months they lost their son.

But the amazing thing is the couple's efforts to get rid of the pain and the way they choose. At first, it was to get rid of symbols such as houses, dogs, and toys that my son had played with, trying to cut the memory apart, but this may be the most stupid way.

After that, the husband and wife tried to get rid of each other again. Becca found the boy who caused the accident, and the husband found an Asian lady from the mutual aid agency who had a similar experience and smoked marijuana.

But what do they want from the outside? Did Becca just want to hear the sound of apology more than once from the boy who caused the accident? Or get more knowledge about parallel universes from him for her to imagine that the current self is just a tragic version of many selves in many universes? And does the husband want to get a new relationship from outside marriage?

In fact, they are not, and these are far from enough. In the end, they found that in the face of the pain of losing a child, there is almost no power to comfort the soul and live with symbols, just like guarding a rabbit hole without hope. There is always a subtext that lingers in my ears: "We have lost our children, do we still lose each other?"

They must face the reality, even if the reality around them tries to avoid pain points and create peace in front of them, they must also create conditions to face it and expose the wounds bloody, so that they can really heal.

The film opens up a vast field to the heart, so that the solar energy rises from the horizon unquestionably. The film also provides more possible solutions for life, telling people that all effective healing processes may be simple Direct or even rude, only escape is a dead end, but the path to find it is extremely long and tortuous, and the patience required is sometimes just like guarding a rabbit hole.

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Rabbit Hole quotes

  • [last lines]

    Becca: [voice-over] And then what?

    Howie: [voice-over] I don't know... Something though.

  • Nat: You know, Becca, when your brother died, I found the church very helpful.

    Becca: I know. I know you did, but that's you. That's not me, and Danny... Danny isn't Arthur.

    Nat: You know, I brought you to church every Sunday.

    Becca: Let's not start this again, okay, Mom? I'm just... I'm just calling about the cake.

    Nat: You're not right about everything, you know? What if there is a God?

    Becca: Then I'd say he's a sadistic prick.

    Nat: All right, Becca, that's enough.

    Becca: "Worship me and I'll treat you like shit." No wonder you like him. He sounds just like Dad.