The younger brother Kang blamed his brother's death on himself and could not let go. He had a serious psychological problem, which was serious enough to seek relief by suicide. After entering the psychotherapy field, after leaving the hospital, you are still immersed in a human world, keeping a distance from this world: with friends and your own hobbies; you regard all this as your own fault, and you are under tremendous psychological pressure.
In this process, the father, as the backbone of the family, carefully cared for and cared for his son, but the mother seemed to restrain her emotions and made her son feel the sense of distance. The family was filled with an atmosphere of disharmony, and the hearts of the three people were suffering from each other. The unbearable weight, only adults, can have greater psychological endurance.
The father thought that his son's psychological knot had not been solved, and saw that he had been depressed, so he had an appointment with a psychologist. The intervention of the psychologist gradually opened up the psychological defense of the younger brother, and also grasped the roots of several key psychological problems.
Regarding his brother's death, the psychologist believed that his brother had always been a perfect image in the eyes of his father and other people. My brother messed up with sailing out to sea, and took on an unbearable burden. After the sailboat capsized, let him give up his desire to survive. He and his younger brother blamed all of this on their improper operation, thinking that they had killed his brother. The doctor believes that the elder brother gave up on his own, and it has nothing to do with the younger brother. Because the sailboat capsized, it was not the cause of the brother’s death, because the younger brother has always been thinner than the older brother, and the younger brother’s persistence allowed him to survive, and the older brother gave up on his own. life.
This analysis made Kang relieved.
Kang's mother always keeps a sense of distance, which makes Kang think that her mother does not love herself. During the conversation with the psychologist, the younger brother found that it was not his mother who did not forgive him, but the line of defense and entanglement in his heart that prevented him from letting go and forgiving his mother. . The negative emotions in the heart made the mother and child feel divided and restrained, and both of them were very uncomfortable. Therefore, the way Kang took the initiative to embrace his mother, the mother was also deeply shocked.
Kang's father also found that he had psychological pressure and problems that he could not let go of during this incident.
He felt that his wife did not shed tears at his son's funeral and the details of asking him to change the funeral dress before the funeral made it difficult for him to find a reasonable explanation, and he has always been worried about it.
The troubled youth, under the beautiful stimulus of love, stimulated vitality.
All of this is due to the ability to open up, release, analyze, and communicate the inner pressure and doubts, and let the warmth of home and family warm people's hearts, everything begins to resolve and become better...
from a psychological perspective, it also gives We bring thinking:
1. Small things that seem inadvertent can often produce unforgettable emotional experiences, especially when people are most vulnerable;
2. Communication, in-depth conversation, especially discussing each other’s feelings, is the basis for enhancing understanding , This process enhances feelings.
The communication process of the psychologist also allows us to understand the communication skills:
1. Don’t ask the bottom line, no matter which person reveals the most vulnerable side of his heart, the other person must not investigate the bottom line, but try to be considerate of the other person, otherwise it will appear too much. Too aggressive, domineering and rigid;
2. When the topic is too sharp or painful, we should stop in time and talk about it later until the person is willing to speak again.
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