The last words my father said point to the essence of life. If we do not encounter misfortune, we may be happy forever, but whether the family can continue to be happy after encountering misfortune depends on how we face each other.
The mother in the play seemed very unflattering, I thought it was a stepmother at one time. But after watching the movie, think about it carefully, most of the ordinary people's unfortunate handling may be the same as the mother in the play. We need to blame a person, otherwise how to explain the advent of misfortune, who must be at fault, and what must be wrong? People will instinctively make causal explanations for everything that happens in the world, otherwise they will feel uneasy. We cannot accept "It just happens". My mother is especially concerned about other people's opinions, hoping to create an illusion of a happy life of "the years are quiet and good", as if there are really no problems as long as everything looks orderly. In front of outsiders, she is unwilling to talk about the past and the embarrassment of reality. She always talks about "private", maybe she is closed to herself, everything is privacy, family affairs are not spoken to outsiders, her own feelings Don’t speak to your family, and don’t speak to yourself. She refuses to admit the status quo, refuses to communicate, refuses to confess her heart, she chose to escape, seemingly cold-blooded, but in fact she is just not strong, she is the weakest person in the whole show.
I think Karen, a good friend of Conrad, is a bit similar to his mother. When Conrad went to find her, she was obviously not good, but said that I was fine and I was getting better. I participated in clubs and performed shows like ordinary people. I was very busy. Everything is fine with me. She is unwilling to go to the psychiatrist, unwilling to recall the time in the hospital, and even unwilling to face Conrad until she can no longer pretend and choose to leave.
Father is a person with a strong sense of responsibility. He cares about every family member. He is struggling to find balance. He was cautious when getting along with his son (I have to say that the psychologist is very powerful). It wasn't until a fierce quarrel that the son vented his inner thoughts through hysterical roars, and he discovered that there was such a huge gap between his wife and son. . It turns out that the younger son has not been able to get better because the wife blamed the younger son for the death of the older son, and it was the wife who was alienating the younger son. My wife said over and over again that we should spend a little more time with each other. Conrad may always feel sad when you are always led by the nose. He was finally relieved when he saw that the youngest son overcame himself so hard and took the initiative to give his mother a hug. In the end, the little son who got better finally opened up his father's heart. No matter how powerful a person is, he cannot bear all the responsibilities. To realize his limitations is not inconsistent with being a person worthy of love.
Finally, I want to talk about the protagonist Conrad. My father said that he is very similar to his mother. Obviously he is not. He and his father are similar. All bad things must be attributed to him. I did something wrong, so bark died; my mother doesn’t love me. Because I don't deserve to be loved; my mother left because I was not good. But he was actually the strongest and bravest person. Knowing that he was not good, he took the initiative to contact a psychiatrist for help. Several scenes with a psychologist were great. In the previous few times, he repeatedly showed resistance and impatience. He also repeatedly expressed that seeing a psychologist was a waste of time and money. He disliked it very much. However, he still went to twice a week and even asked for leave. Go, no one is forcing him to go. He is closing himself most of the time, but once he has the opportunity, he wants to share his feelings, and he has been working hard to seek outside understanding and guidance. He was moved by the people who were connected with bark or in the environment with bark, so he chose to face his own feelings and left that environment. He took the initiative to contact his old friend Karen and made a new friend Pratt. He was clumsy, but he was always trying to find hope. Until Karen's death, he fell into infinite self-blame once again. He finally faced Bark's departure, he did nothing wrong, he just be the stronger one, he just stay with the boat. He forgave himself, his mother, and his father. In the end, he became the understanding person, and the conversation was very interesting. Pratt felt sorry for what happened on the first date, but Conrad was angry and not understood. Conrad, who can escape the renunciation, said that they were just playing pranks. At this time, the hearts of the audience finally became clear. Conrad was no longer so sensitive and fragile and looked at the world from his own perspective. Conrad turned out to be so flattering. .
In the end, Canon listens really well, I can listen to it ten thousand times.
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