I just wish you were treated tenderly by this world

Blanca 2021-12-25 08:01:15

I got confused on Sunday night and regarded Sunday as Saturday. I checked out "The Enchanter" at 11 in the middle of the night. I saw a little bit more and my eyes were swollen like peaches and I went to bed. Two years ago, during the Spring Festival, my father passed away. When I woke up in the morning, my mother called from the hospital and told me that my father was not working. She asked me to go there quickly and take all the clothes, shoes and hats I had prepared. I stumbledly ran into the cabinet to search in the cupboard according to what my mother had told me. This kind of thing happened once in the last three years of my father's life, so this made me still hold a glimmer of hope, maybe - not this time.

But, this is the time, and what should be over is finally over. I ran to the hospital. There were already many people there. They were walking around in the bright room. I was a little dazed and couldn't remember their faces. But I know that my mother is the only one who is sad. I grew up and never had a funeral, and my mother had no experience, so I was somehow led by someone to the life dress shop downstairs to buy the bills covered on the deceased’s body and the copper in my mouth. , There are pads on the feet, the lights in the shouzhuang shop are dim, a few people are playing mahjong, and a person is smoking a cigarette, find a very rough and tacky satin sheet, and other things, say , Eight hundred yuan. I was surprised, but when I thought of my mother who was waiting upstairs, I said, 400 yuan, that person was very upset, saying that this kind of thing can still bargain? I said then I don't want it. I thought my father shouldn't cover this kind of thing. As soon as he heard it, he squeezed all those things into me and grabbed the four hundred dollars in my hand.

When I went upstairs, the doctor in the hospital told my mother that you must pull the person away as soon as possible. You can't put him here. The mother said, my son will come right away, and I want him to see his father here. Later my brother came and my mother cried with him. My brother didn't cry. We were busy contacting the funeral home. I just watched my brother hide by the window and wiped tears when there was no one. When I carried my father down, someone who followed the funeral home told me and my brother to kowtow to the hearse. Both my brother and I kowtow and stood up. They asked us for two hundred dollars, saying that it was because he pointed us. To charge an opening fee. After giving the money, I began to regain a little thinking ability, and suddenly realized that the strangers who went around in my father's ward all did this. Like vultures, they gathered around the dead body, waiting to eat the dead body. While the family members who lost their loved ones are sad, they can make more money if they can make more money. This feeling is more obvious on the way to send his father to the funeral home. On the roadside of the funeral home, people continued to follow our car all the way, talking all kinds of clichés. Later in the funeral home, we sent the father’s body from one place to another to enter the funeral. There were also many such people in front of the hearse. , Murmured a word, and refused to give money, they just refused to leave. The driver told his brother that you had to give them ten yuan and twenty per person. After all, the brother didn't give it. Mother said that at that moment, it felt like those people were surrounding like evil spirits in hell.

But this is only the people outside the funeral home. In fact, the people in the funeral home are not much better. When the father’s body bid farewell, a military band in uniform came in inexplicably, and he was about to play when he came up. When my brother remembered, he suddenly asked him, you Is this charged separately? The leading woman answered vaguely, such as which corpse said goodbye without philharmonic. My brother asked again, we are going to play the tape, do you charge another fee? After asking three or four times, I found out that an additional 2,000 yuan was added. The elder brother suppressed his anger and blasted them away. When he left, the woman said in a deliberately audible voice, "If you can't afford it, you can't afford it..."

He said so many things that are not related to the movie. , But I think that people who have lost their loved ones know what I’m talking about, and people who understand the movie "Encouragement" know what I’m talking about.

Kobayashi-kun, who was cowardly and always timid, was accused of "making money from the dead when he walked into the deceased's house." But when his hands gently held the deceased's hands and stroked their cheeks, Wipe their foreheads, put on stockings for the grandmother, comb the hair for the son, and put on the lipstick for the wife. People who have lost their loved ones know that they have entrusted their favorite people to someone they can trust. My father was ill for seventeen years. In the last three years, he was lying there with pipes all over his body. People moved and turned around. I always hope that people can treat him softly, but you know you can’t do anything. , You are not a doctor or a nurse, you are not a work person in a funeral home, you can’t pick others. In this world, rudeness is the way most ordinary people treat others. We are treated rudely, and then treated others rudely, it seems It has become a cycle, and most people are numb and unaware of it. Therefore, in a world where even the living cannot be treated with tenderness, let alone respect for the dead.

Because of this, Mr. Sasaki saw the gentleness of Kobayashi-kun at a glance. He is as weak as a child, incompetent, but kind and gentle, he can treat every deceased equally, no matter how they die. There is such a gentle person in his heart, what a rare treasure in this cold world. When I was watching the movie, I was crying and thinking, if it were my father, it would be great if Xiao Lin Jun could also be able to help him, holding his hand gently, and walking the last way. There is a sentence on the English poster of "The Entrant" that says-The gift of the last memories. And my last memory of my father is the memory of many rude and greedy faces. It’s not beautiful. So there are few memories. How lucky it is to meet someone like Kobayashi-kun. It illuminates the memories of the living and is indeed a gift from heaven. As a self-destructor deep in my heart, I live in a world where everyone treats each other rudely. I have never extravagantly asked myself to die well. I can be ruthless to myself, but in this life I have never been treated tenderly. Inside, there is still the softest part of my heart, growing in the body of the person I love. People I have loved so much, how I hope you can be treated gently by this world, even when you leave, you can have two hands and hold each other gently.

Kobayashi-san, thank you for treating this world so tenderly. People who can survive in such a world in their own gentle way are amazing people. I know that this world belongs to people who are rude, strong, and cruel. They admire ruthlessness, thinking that this will make them suffer less. However, when I look into my heart, I find that in a deep place, the tenderness is still there. I can still treat the world in my own gentle way. That is a very good thing. It's as good as a flower blooming quietly in the dust.

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Departures quotes

  • Daigo Kobayashi: [to the grieving family] The right of encoffinment is to prepare the deceased for a peaceful departure. Please come closer and watch. I will now wipe the body.

  • Sonezaki: The orchestra is dissolved.