Don't be the one you hate

Tressie 2021-12-21 08:01:37

"At the end of the writing, it was a little messy, it is really vivid. After I entered society, I can tolerate almost anyone, because no matter how selfish and domineering this person is, I will tell myself-this person is not your father, you Don’t worry, you won’t live with him forever.”

The plot is thin, the story is boring, and the characters are ordinary, but it just shows its truth.

Mother is not a strong type. She keeps encountering men at the bottom of the society, looking for a support, but happiness is so easy. The child is not a young man with aspirations, his academic performance is average, and his years of humiliating life have not taught him how to strengthen himself.

This is the state of most ordinary people, and I want to talk about this Dwight:

1. Hypocrisy. Before getting married, he diligently lit a cigarette for the lady. On the first day of the wedding, the hostess sat at the table, picked up the cigarette, and waited for a while, only to wipe the match by himself.

2. Domineering. The rules were set on the first night of the wedding-this is my home, I have the final say. The hostess was lying on the bed with doubts in her eyes. In the middle of the night, she went to see her son. The most important thing was to return to the room and lay beside the man with a dull expression.

3. Tyranny. At the sink, I deliberately found faults to fix the male lead. I watched him push the male lead over and over again. I really recalled the bad experience. The sadness in my heart slowly rose. Later, the male lead ran out and was humiliated. I think I was like this before.

4. Selfishness. Not seeing the closeness of the family, mother and daughter are very happy playing puzzles, Dwight deliberately made a loud voice. Hearing his mother cared about his son's meal, Dwight became angry and tossed the speaker. Everyone must be around him, all the money, all the delicious food, can only be enjoyed by him.

My mother has barely smiled since she got married. Dinner is when everyone eats expressionlessly, watching Dwight's performance in silence, watching him talk about horse dung, talk about his pride, and say that he can play a musical instrument. The saxophone is like a hacksaw.

At the end, the emperor who said one thing is the same, he even asked—who would think about Dwight?

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The male protagonist is not a scumbag, he has a mediocre learning, there is no counterattack in the whole film, and no A in general subjects. He is just a degenerate person who has learned to live as real as possible.

At the beginning, the hero and Dwight were in the car. He humiliatedly admitted that he lied. When he was educated, I yelled in my heart, why not leave?

Later, I felt that the male lead was not decisive enough or had wolf blood time after time. Faced with the humiliation, I took it again and again, and then forgot. Facing control, back down one at a time, and then complain.

But after seeing the back and seeing the whole picture of Dwight, I realized that this person is my dad, and this home is my home—a cage. When I was a child, I wanted to run away 10,000 times, but I would go home after dark. Did I study hard for the university entrance examination, ambitious, and fly far away? I am also a petty thief, I also lie, I also wasted my years, I am addicted to games, I have to pass it, I also tolerate it.

I suddenly understood the male protagonist. This was almost a portrayal of the first half of my life. Even the family confiscated the hundreds of dollars I earned every summer during the summer vacation, but didn't buy me an umbrella or exercise book.

People, always in humiliation after humiliation, learn to stand up slowly, then stumble forward, and finally dash for their lives, leaving the place where you were born-purgatory.

Like a male lead, I hate those people, but I find that I am more and more like them, the same gloomy, the same tyrannical, the same tone, the same meanness, the same selfishness, and the same weirdness.

I kept telling myself afterwards, don't be the person you resent, don't do it, remind yourself time and time again, you are yourself, you should be a lovely and gentle person.

For this, I think I will use my whole life to remind myself.

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This Boy's Life quotes

  • Caroline Wolff Hansen: What did he do?

    Principal Shippy: He violated school property and he flouted the law.

    Caroline Wolff Hansen: Can you say that in English, please?

    Principal Shippy: He wrote obscene words on the wall.

    Caroline Wolff Hansen: Did you do it?

    Tobias 'Toby' Wolff: [shakes his head]

    Caroline Wolff Hansen: He didn't do it.

    Principal Shippy: He wrote obscene words on the wall.

    Caroline Wolff Hansen: What obscene words?

    Principal Shippy: "Fuck You."

    Caroline Wolff Hansen: That's one obscene word.

  • Tobias 'Toby' Wolff: I'm not going!

    Dwight Hansen: The hell you say.