The criterion for judging a woman is definitely not marriage, appearance, and whether the husband is cheating

Vincenzo 2021-12-27 08:01:56

"I'm very fortunate to live in an era when women have a say. I have always heard that men can defeat wolves and men can conquer the sea. It's time to show the power of women. They can overcome any obstacles in life."

I watched this movie last weekend. After the movie was over, the emotion and shock in my heart could not be dissipated for a long time. I couldn’t help but send a circle of friends. I feel that after watching this movie, you will love your lover more and cherish it more. Every day he was together.

If the emotion at that time is more from the love and waiting for the disaster, life and death between the male and female protagonists in the film, and the hot topics in the circle of friends that have been frequently screened recently, it reminds me of this film again and has more Many thoughts and emotions.

Mi Meng, even if she writes the top official account in the country, even if she can earn tens of millions a year, as long as she is divorced, she will still be regarded as a loser, and will be questioned and ridiculed-look, write so Poisonous chicken soup, it's not that no one wants it in the end!

The milk tea sister, married Liu Qiangdong, who is worthy and has a business empire upon graduation from Tsinghua University. When her peers were still struggling to find a job, she gave birth to an early son and was once touted by the media as a winner in life. As a result, as soon as Liu Qiangdong's sex scandal in the United States was exposed in the first two days, the milk tea immediately turned into green tea, which was ridiculed by the entire network.

Recently I set up a matchmaker account to write a friend essay for single friends around me. A male senior said to me: "Introducing women, education, income, position, experience, is not necessarily a bonus item for men, gentle, gentle, Beautiful and sexy are extra points. The better a woman is, the harder it is to find someone."

After hearing this passage from the predecessors, the first reaction was: What is the significance of women's self-improvement?

The times are advancing, but many people's criteria for judging women still seem to stay in the old society. No, I added one: Independence-a woman must not only be virtuous and virtuous, honor her in-laws, take care of children, but also earn the same money as her husband. To support a family, not only must it be financially independent, but it must also remain attractive to the husband forever.

The housewife is a failure. No matter how much she contributes to the family, she has no self. Once the marriage breaks up, there is no way out.

Old age is a failure. Even if the big star Carina Lau is over 50, once the makeup photos are released, the media will still comment on her: "Disillusionment! Old age is like a passerby", and will always be willing to discuss whether her marriage with her husband Tony Leung Looks like a godly divorce.

Is the destiny of a woman and the criteria for judging a woman's success or failure merely the loyalty of her marriage, appearance, and husband?

So, I thought of the movie I saw a few days ago-"Hurricane Waves".

Although it is a film depicting disasters, it is more like a literary film. Taking the hurricane and shipwreck as an opportunity, it shows the shocking vitality and willpower of women, and makes people have more potential and strength for women. Understanding and thinking.

"Hurricane Waves" is adapted from the 1983 Pacific Hurricane Shipwreck, which is one of the top ten real disasters in the United States. The impact of this event is still the number one shipwreck survivor in the world.

The film tells the story of amateur sailor Tammy Oldham and his fiance sailing across the Pacific Ocean. They encountered a top hurricane on the way. They were struggling to save themselves in the absence of food, destruction of the sailing boat, and no rescue.

"Hurricane Waves" is directed by Batasa Komaku, who has won three Icelandic Ida Awards for Best Director, and the heroine Tammy is played by Hollywood actor Shailene Woodley, who was nominated for the Golden Globe Award for Best Actress. The photography of the film was shot by Robert Richardson, who won the Oscar for best photographer three times. The film was shot in multiple locations. There are many scenes in ocean and deep diving. When shooting in Fiji, it was surrounded by 50 bull sharks—whether it is in terms of storyline, actor expressiveness or visual presentation. A movie you can't miss. But these are not the only reasons why I recommend this film to you. What shocked me the most about this movie was its respect for women and the display of their tenacious vitality.

"Hurricane Waves" is adapted from real events. In 1983, a 24-year-old Californian girl, Tammy Oldham, drifted alone in the Pacific for 41 days. After a life and death separation, long wait and despair, she was finally rescued.

After the shipwreck, Tammy felt depressed and felt that she would never fall in love again. Later, she realized that writing this story was the only way to get rid of the darkness. Fifteen years after the shipwreck, Tammy wrote his story in the memoir "Red Sky."

This movie is her true experience.

Shipwreck survivor, prototype of the film: Tammy Oldham

Different from the narrative techniques that used time as the clue in the past disaster films, "Stormy Seas" adopts a cross-editing method, interspersed with two parallel story lines to tell the whole process of the hero and heroine Richard and Tammy surviving on the shipwreck and falling in love.

The film intersperses and switches between disasters and romances, not only letting the audience know about the insignificance and helplessness of individuals under natural disasters, but also deeply immersing in the love and affection between the hero and the heroine, to survive the Tammy disaster. The belief and persistence of the company do the best traceability and explanation.

When the audience was worried about whether the male and female protagonist was seriously injured and the food and water were in danger, as the film ended, Tammy sat up next to her husband, his eyes were extremely sad but firmly said: "Richard, I'm sorry. , I must let you go"

It turned out that all the mutual encouragement and companionship between Tammy and his fiance in a desperate situation is just a phantom. The lover has already been killed in a shipwreck, and only Tammy is the only one who wanders repeatedly in hope and despair.

And all the romantic memories and flashbacks in the film may be the only belief and motivation that she can use to support her life when she wanders alone. Unlike previous disaster movies, "Stormy Seas" does not show the portraits of people under disaster. More than 80% of the pictures and plots of the entire movie consist of two people and one ship, but it fully shows how two souls who love freedom know each other. Fall in love, waiting after the end of the disaster, and being strong alone.

The fiancé’s companionship to Tammy has gone from plucking up the courage to accompany her into the deep cliff, to accompany her through life and death, and encourage her not to give up the hope of life.

The reason why love is great is that it can make a dry soul full

The reason why love is great is that it allows lonely hearts to depend on each other.

The reason why love is great is that it can bridge distance and life and death, and convey faith and hope for each other in love.

And not just because it will create a marriage that everyone praises for you, attract a valuable husband for you, and it will not make you feel anxious and fearful of old age and loss of independence.

The heroes and heroines in the film and the real experiencers of the event Tammy and Richard have very similar temperaments and appearances

As the heroes and heroines experience hurricanes and long wanderings in the film, as a viewer, I am a bystander who silently follows their changing circumstances. After the hostess was rescued, she returned to the cabin where she had known each other and saw the familiar photos again. The two smiled brightly like flowers. The sun flower petals worn on the temples were still placed on the corners of the table, but they were already withered and withered...

Everything is right and wrong, but they are all unforgettable proofs, and I can't help feeling sad, and silently accompany the hostess to weep together.

At the end of the film, the real image and life experience of the story prototype, Tammy Oldham, are played.

"Tami has not stopped sailing after being rescued"-the plain words made my heart full of moving and shock after witnessing the whole shipwreck and being rescued, and the words explaining her marriage and childbirth also gave me more think.

What is the best remembrance for a lost partner?

When the lover leaves, how should the one who stays face the rest of his life?

Even if he lost his lover and experienced a desperate rebirth, Tammy didn’t lose his unforgettable love and retreat. Instead, he fell in love with sailing and became a true sailor. He inherited Richard’s legacy and continued to sail in the vast expanse. Above the sea.

She did not bury her emotions because of the loss of her beloved love, but to reinvigorate herself after a long period of pain and depression, to meet her beloved, marry and have children, and enjoy life in the rest of her life-this is different from our mainstream values ​​of being loyal to our partner. , But let us see another interpretation of life and emotions.

Women seem to be soft, but they have a strong heart. Once they encounter hardship, their vitality is even stronger than that of men. This movie interprets this again through the perspective of navigation and storm disasters.

The hostess Tammy is a vegetarian. In order to survive, she has to go against her beliefs and pick up a spear to dive and fish.

In order to live, she imagined that her long-dead fiance was still with her

In the long and desperate wandering, she obtained a moment of inner peace through meditation

Tammy was hovering between despair and hope. The encouragement of her lover allowed her to rekindle her hope of survival time and time again, and she burst out with strong willpower and courage in desperation.

In front of life, being alive is the most important thing-she has realized the cruelest survival law in this world in desperation.

"To live, live to live up to this life" has also become the norm for her to practice in the rest of her life.

The film’s prototype, Tammy, was only 24 years old at the time of the shipwreck. Shelen Woodley, the actor who played her in "Stormy Seas," was born in 1991 and was only 27 years old.

In order to play Tammy's feeling of emaciation and despair after the shipwreck, Xie Lin only consumes 350 calories a day for two consecutive weeks and shoots in the water for 12-14 hours a day.

Tammy before and after the shipwreck in the film

If we also come to shoot movies of the same subject, can any female artist of the same age be competent?

Forgive me for not being able to think of it

Most of our actresses are more keen on P pictures and face changes.

Our media are often keen on chasing the private lives of celebrities. Our film and television works are more willing to show "the domineering president falls in love with me" and the endless inner palace battles-N women are constantly strangling in order to snatch the favor of a man. Do your best and fight hard, and the audience loves to see it.

I don’t know when, our values ​​and judging standards for women seem to have regressed. In many online large-scale pushes, the reason why women need to be independent is more because they can leave themselves a way out when their husbands cheat.

If women work hard to live a better self, with the goal of a safer marriage and a better-controlled husband, I will feel somewhat dull.

"I'm very fortunate to live in an era where women have a say. I have always heard that men can defeat wolves and men can conquer the sea. It's time to show the power of women. They can overcome any obstacles in life." -Tammy She said so in her personal biography.

When the whole circle of friends is discussing "Mi Meng divorce" and "Milk tea turns matcha", you might as well watch this movie. Maybe it will make you think more about the value and power of women.

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Adrift quotes

  • [from trailer]

    Tami Oldham: What's it like sailing out there on your own?

    Richard Sharp: Miserable.

  • [from trailer]

    Richard Sharp: Come sail with me.