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"Super-Large Beauty" is an American movie released in 2018. In fact, the original English name "IFeelPretty" is more suitable for the content of the film. The literal translation is "I think I am beautiful".
This is a comedy movie, the storyline is rather old-fashioned, how do fat girls with low self-esteem find a confident story. But the point of this movie is that it explains the magical function of cognition like a textbook.
Cognition, in layman's terms, is our view of things and our interpretation of things. Things do not affect people, what affects us is our view of things.
There are two turning points in the film. Before and after these two turning points, the heroine's cognition is completely different, and in both turning points, the heroine falls and hurts her head.
The first turning point was when the heroine fell while practicing spinning. After waking up, she looked at herself in the mirror in disbelief, and said in surprise, look at me, look at my chest, look at my ass . The last expression was amazing and came to a conclusion, I am so beautiful. Behind her was a stunned gym worker.
All the characters in the movie, except the heroine herself; the audience outside the movie, still see the same person, without any change in appearance. What changed was the heroine's eyes.
The most critical factor in the cognitive structure is core beliefs. Core beliefs are the most fundamental views of individuals about themselves, others, and the world. These views are deeply ingrained, and most people don’t realize what their core beliefs are, but it allows us to generate Some automatic thoughts affect our emotions and then manifest as external behaviors.
The core belief of the heroine is that pretty decides everything. Pretty enough, all the doors in the world will open to her, on the contrary, no door will open to her.
Before the first fall, she was influenced by her negative core belief that "beauty decides everything, and I am not pretty".
A friend invited her to take a photo together and upload it to the Internet for a three-person date. She said she shouldn't participate in such activities, men only look at appearance. Sitting in the center of fashion is her dream. The company’s recruitment front desk, she feels that only pretty girls can sit in that position, and the company won’t want her.
In the face of anything, her automatic thoughts are, because I am not beautiful enough, so I can't, forget it, and feel depressed after forgetting it, and naturally won't take any action.
The most typical is a small fragment at the beginning of the movie. The hostess went to the gym to take a spinning class, and when she came in to see the hot beauties around her, she cautiously and coweringly said to the front desk that she was going to class. The front desk hadn't spoken yet, so she immediately said, shouldn't I come?
The front desk asked what size shoes she needed, she said, size 8; after speaking, immediately looked around and said size 7; looked at her at the front desk and asked without confirmation, size 7? Then she whispered dodgingly, 9 yards, widened. The patience at the front desk was gone. She shouted to the colleague next to her, do we have size 9 shoes? It needs to be widened, like a boat...At this time, the hostess does not want to widen by 9 yards, and said 8 yards in a hurry. Take the shoes and leave quickly.
In fact, the front desk did not intend to intentionally humiliate the hostess at the beginning. After the hostess asked, shouldn't I come? The answer from the front desk is that of course you should come. The first two times the hostess repeatedly changed the shoe size, it can be seen that the front desk was planning to find her shoes, and there was no extra words or expressions. These messages were automatically ignored and filtered out by the heroine.
In her heart, she felt that only beautiful women would come to spin bikes, she shouldn't come, it's embarrassing to wear size 9 shoes. Her expression and behavior fully express her inner thoughts. After the front desk was made impatient and humiliated her loudly, she finally confirmed her idea that she really shouldn't come.
Negative core beliefs: an individual’s irrational and dysfunctional core beliefs about self, others, and the world. When negative core beliefs dominate thinking, when people tolerate and accept these negative beliefs, they will naturally reject the opposing and incompatible information, which will make people fall into the constant self of negative core beliefs. In the misunderstanding of verifying, unceasing self-identification, and unceasing self-reinforcing.
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After the first fall, her core belief changed to "beauty decides everything, I am pretty enough", and "beauty decides everything" has not changed. What has changed is the understanding of oneself.
She thinks that a series of changes have taken place after she became pretty. She took the initiative to apply for the coveted front desk job; boldly expressed her ideas for the company’s new products; took the initiative to call and date the men she met in the laundry; and even attracted the founder’s Grandson, really rich and handsome.
Be sure to put this picture, the back and the profile are handsome, so go to the movies.
Get the job you want, have a boyfriend you associate with, and win the trust of the company. She attributed all this to her "beautiful".
What kind of figure of the devil, the face of an angel, only the heroine herself can see. Others saw her still. Where is the attraction of the heroine? The boyfriend told the truth: " Most people are constantly self-doubt, stuck in what they are not good at. Those people can't see the shining points they have. You know who you are, and you don’t even care. What do others think of you. "
The boyfriend’s words were meant for the hostess, but it was actually what the director wanted to say to the audience. This passage is not in the core beliefs of the heroine, so it is still ignored. It can be seen from the performance behind.
Gao Fushuai is also attracted by the heroine. When he is about to develop further with the heroine, the heroine boyfriend calls. The hostess recovered. Ran to the bathroom and asked in the mirror, who are you? Then he slipped and fell down a second time. After waking up, she was beaten back to her original form in her eyes.
Just look at the expression of the hostess, how hard it is for her to face her true self.
After she was beaten back to her original form, she temporarily escaped from work; she didn't believe that the perfect girlfriend in her boyfriend's mouth was the real herself, and broke up painfully; all her former friends were alienated because of estrangement after she consciously became beautiful... life seems to be back again In the track of "beauty decides everything, but I am not pretty".
The hostess returned to the gym to find another miracle. This time, the miracle of falling down and becoming pretty did not appear again. But her perception of who she really is has changed a little.
In the gym lounge area, the perfect goddess in the eyes of the hostess was crying because of the breakup and being dumped. The heroine couldn't believe it. In her cognition, with such a figure and such a face, it should be a goddess who smashed others. The goddess said that not only did they break up with me, they also said that I was a terrible person. This fact conflicted with the heroine's previous cognition. She finally realized that she would be dumped too, and she didn't decide everything. She felt that she was actually not that bad.
At the end of the movie, the heroine finally found out at the product launch that her appearance had never changed. Regarding the difference between before and after, she gave a wonderful speech with deep experience. The core beliefs are completely changed.
"When we were children, we had all the confidence in the world. We played without scruples, and then we didn’t know what happened. Maybe some people said something ridiculous and vicious, and we began to question ourselves. When we grow up, we doubt over and over again. Myself. Until I lose my confidence, I lose all my self-esteem, and all the beliefs you had in the beginning..."
The core beliefs begin in childhood, and things happen for a reason, believing that they are true, firm and stable, and not easy to be discovered.
The hostess realized how her beliefs had been changed, and discovered the true self, a healthy, strong, and funny little girl. She possessed the strength and wisdom, and was originally a great existence... She realized the real After himself, the concept of friends also changed completely.
There are always people in life who like to say vicious words, like which pot is not opened or lift which pot, and use their own ideas to evaluate others, their appearance, and the things they have experienced without any hesitation.
If we encounter such people, we need to know that no matter what they say or show disdain for us, they have nothing to do with us. That is their own life is boring, trivial and mediocre. They need to evaluate others to get some sense of emptiness and use it to fill their own desert-like barren and dry hearts.
Never doubt yourself because of the psychological needs of others.
We often say that technology changes life, and technology changes the convenience of life; while cognition changes life, it changes the entire world in front of the individual.
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