the film The first picture is a boy's pants, the first line is "fuck" in the mouth of the mother. Although the imaginary scenes in the opening scene feel very soft, the attitude that I really want to express is crude and direct. This is Javier Dolan, the first impression given to me by the post-90s director who is known as a genius. I naturally don't know much about this director who is younger than me. The media commented that this is the warmest, most humane, and least narcissistic work of Dolan so far. But just listening to the name of his first feature-length work-"I Killed My Mom" is enough to shock, and through the movie "Mommy", what I saw was a teenager 1:1 to his mother. Attachment and reverence are completely absent from immature narcissism.
The relationship between the teenager and the mother mentioned here is by no means only about the relationship between the two protagonists of the mother and daughter in the movie, but Dolan's double gratitude for the character mother and the prototype mother.
There are no virtuous mothers or dutiful sons in this movie, but only true mother-child relationships. If this unpleasant problem in the social system of mother and child appears in your real life, you would never be willing to make friends with them as neighbors, but this does not prevent me from the relationship between mother and child shown in Dolan’s movies. Do analysis. On the one hand, it has its own artistic charm as a warm film, and it also aims to provide more mothers and children with some meaningful reference analysis. Even though most of the families whose relationships seem to be harmonious, there are barriers in communication between family members; and even those seemingly unfortunate families actually have indescribable beautiful feelings among them.
The problem teenager and the mother who wipes the ass, but love is unaffected.
Don't ask me why people with personality disorders do things that go against the common sense of social order and morals. I can only say that their law of survival is more derived from their own inner feelings than ordinary people, rather than being restricted by external knowledge and rules
. Therefore, we can only speculate on the reasons behind their behavior, at most only Can protect them when their emotions fluctuate, but cannot predict and control what they will suddenly do after an emotional outburst.
People with personality disorders have a very small range of their own body, and sometimes even their own experiences and feelings are not straightened out, so they seek to escape or even break out. For example, the setting of Steve in the movie is ADHD, accompanied by bad symptoms such as irritability and strong self-centeredness. He is certainly not a mental patient, but his personality flaws prevent him from adapting to society, and unable to communicate and establish relationships with strangers.
A child’s personality problem comes from two aspects. On the one hand, it is a natural brain problem or chromosomal inheritance, which is a neurophysiological congenital developmental disorder, which belongs to the medical category; on the other hand, it is the acquired education and growth environment. The period did not get enough care or instruction to form a wrong cognitive behavior pattern, or lack of comprehensiveness in the ability to see things and feel, this is the category of psychology.
The film did not mention any congenital illnesses of Steve, so we speculate that his personality defects are completely affected by his growth experience. Looking back on the analysis, mothers who smoke and drink in front of their children, struggling with their children's attitudes in the contradiction between pampering and verbal abuse, will naturally cause their children to be irritable and irritable.
Although these character defects disgusted other ordinary people, Steve's feelings for his mother Diana and "teacher" Keira are pure and simple. It can be seen through the film that Steve's attachment to his mother is paranoid, even extreme. The previous article talked about the prototype mother and the role mother. Diana is naturally the prototype mother, and Kayla plays the role mother in Steve's mind.
The role mother is different from the prototype mother in that she needs to satisfy all the child's fantasies, as a child to fully accept all the things that the role of mother can do, such as conservation, education, and even the original sexual fantasies. Kayla was able to enter the family as a "third party" because she fulfilled Diana's role as a mother who could not play in Steve's heart, and provided him with enough encouragement and education to fill in what Diana lacked. The ability to love.
The audience can see that after Kayla entered the family, the previous conflicts between mother and child were significantly reduced. Although Steve was still willful and hyperactive, he was able to calm down and devote himself to learning. Diana was also able to settle down in housekeeping. Provide stable material security for her son, and even once appeared in the movie the happy scene of her dreaming of her son's successful graduation and marriage...
But the reality is that, except for the mother, the child cannot communicate normally with others, and the child continues to be an infant under the overprotection of the prototype mother and the character mother. He couldn't stand his mother being occupied and deceived by other men, even if he was deceived into the treatment center by his mother in the end. After losing his calm verbal abuse, he still wants to return to his mother's embrace. For this reason, he should also understand the importance of growth. What he sees is not the darkness, but the light rushing to the wall, ending this The meaning of the scene of the play couldn't be more obvious.
From the beginning to the end of the film, Diana failed as a mother after all. This is no wonder, this is life, because of my own life and circumstances, coupled with the contradictions of my own growth. In the beginning, there were no good cards (resources and environment of a healthy family), and no good card skills (education level and education level), so the cards became more and more chaotic, and the raised sons had many personality problems. But no matter how many defects in her son, no matter how limited her abilities, she has done what she has done to her son. For her, there is nothing better than loving her own children. This kind of love energy does not require conversion and learning. , Is the mother's instinct-the necessary energy for the prototype mother. It is a pity that Diana does not have the ability to express love, a single mother whose private life is overflowing and her job is unstable-this is also her prototype image. That is, she has enough love energy but has not transformed it into the best form of love to present it.
Because of his improper early education of his children, Steve had already committed a crime when the film began. The escape along the way cannot cover up past mistakes, and she must also bear the losses of others caused by her son's mistakes. And the film portrays the growth of the mother from the experience of this period of time.
In fact, the essence of this movie lies in the self-growth of a mother to remedy her son. The children’s problems all come from their parents. This statement may be too absolute, but the child’s personality development is definitely greatly affected by the original family, so Diana herself does not believe that Steve can buy back a gold necklace. The prototype of the personality has stabilized at a very young age, and the subsequent personal growth is more of a self-replenishment or repair.
In the movie, Steve is already a teenager. In the past so many years, the reason why the mother failed to educate her children is no longer necessary to investigate too much. The key lies in how to deal with it to make up for the mistakes. In the beginning, Diana took Steve everywhere to avoid, thinking that avoiding would get rid of the actual lawsuit, just as he thought that avoiding the crowd would prevent Steve from losing control and suffering in the crowd again.
While loving her son deeply, she is also subject to the violent attacks that his son will break out at any time. She is not the kind of powerful woman who can bear all misfortunes, and can raise a problem young man into the elite of a lifetime on her own. She is a vulgar woman living in the middle and lower classes of society, without good living habits, and without a healthy life guarantee. The only respectable and lovely place in her may be straightforwardness and simplicity, and such a role setting may be more realistic. The true mentality of life and the audience.
Just as all goodness stems from vital humanity, all misfortune also stems from damn humanity. Diana's human instincts are extremely primitive, so the son expresses his emotions unscrupulously. It is these primitive desires that make it difficult to separate the mother and child.
When she thought that finding a helper like Kayla might make her life go smoothly in the future, in fact, no one could help her. Kayla can't, lawyer drunk can't, of course, the child who hasn't matured enough to bring her a stable life.
At least, the mother did not escape the problem in the end, but chose to face it bravely. Kayla finally said that she didn't want to give up her family. In fact, how did Diana give up Steve? She has always been hopeful.
Accepting separation is the same as accepting help. You must start with mutual respect and learn by enduring the pain of rejection and separation. Children must learn to respect the separation of their mothers, Kayla must learn to respect the real relationship between mother and child, and mothers must also learn to respect the punishment of crimes by society and the treatment of patients with personality disorders.
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The most genius design of the film comes from a son's passionate kiss to his mother. This scene instantly achieves the purpose of igniting the audience's emotional climax. Conversely, no matter how afraid of separation, the child will always experience the second separation from the mother. Separation does not mean that you no longer love.
To be able to shoot such a masterpiece, it is Dolan who used his own growth to express the gratitude of every child in life for the mother's hard work and nurturing us.
Emotion drives growth, and growth is the best reward for those who care about you. Therefore, parents who want to see the healthy growth of their children, your own growth cannot stop. As a child, being able to say goodbye to the mother-infant feelings (or Electra plot) is the state of life that allows parents to feel the most assured.
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