No one's fate is destined in a lifetime.
There are often such parents who have high hopes for their children. If the children do not act according to their high expectations, it is the child's or not. It is intolerable. It seems that they have children for their own selfish desires and do not think about what the child thinks. .
This is an extremely scary thing to think about.
Perhaps at the beginning, children will only follow their parents and follow their parents as an example. They do not hesitate to do what parents do, what they learn, and what parents ask them to do, but children will always grow up, and children will always have One day I can think independently, have my own preferences, and have the ability to distinguish right from wrong. At this time, if you blindly force your child to follow behind you, it is the parents' arrogance, ignorance, and ignorance.
The American movie "Leave No Traces" speaks such a truth.
Father Will is a very unsocial person. He refuses the possession of all normal people, such as work, house, car, TV, and mobile phone. He likes to live in the mountains, immersed in cobwebs, ferns, mosses, and clover. In the world, he escaped from the crowd. Except for his daughter close to him, he could not wait for all the people on the earth to disappear. If he lives alone like this, he just wants to take his daughter Tom, and the two are inseparable and share weal and woe.
In his eyes, Tom is very good and obedient, at least before they lived in Portland Forest Park. A lot of things happened after that. They were arrested by the police. The charity found them a country where Christmas trees were planted. They fled from there and went to a huge forest in Washington. They almost died of starvation and cold. Later, Will went out to supply food in an accident and was rescued by a good man in a small village.
In the country where the Christmas tree is planted, the agency wants Will and his daughter to live a normal life, give them a house, let Will go to work, let them go to church, and apply to Tom for school. We saw that Will did try, but he couldn't adapt. He felt violent. When the agency staff handed over more and more documents to him, he was messed up and couldn't accept it. But as for Tom, she has made friends and has been to the rabbit-raising club. She is curious about all new things, that is, everything that a child of normal people will experience. This is the nature of a child and it is inevitable. When Will took Tom out of the place overnight without any explanation, Tom said, I liked it there.
In the small village where Will recuperates, Tom feels the happiness and warmth of the people who live there. Have you seen the inside of the hive? To feel them with your hands, this is a kind of trust. Tom said to his father again, I like it here. Tom decided to rent the RV that Dell provided them for a long time, but his father, whose legs improved slightly, decided to leave. Tom came back from outside and saw his father packing things again. Tom said, I don’t want to leave. Father said that they are very good to us, but we..., Tom immediately interrupted him and said loudly, it’s you, it’s what you need. It’s not me, the same, that’s your problem, not mine.
Yes, that is your problem, not mine. You have the life you want to live, and I also have mine. You think that there is a future in becoming a doctor and teacher. I just want to be a farmer. You think that marriage and having children is life. I advocate the freedom of one person. There is no right or wrong, just different choices.
Tom finally uttered the inner voice that had been brewing for a long time. This was a turning point and a sublimation of the whole film. Like a thunderstorm, the theme of the film was suddenly highlighted.
Tom, who said these thunderous words, still packed up, following her father, she would never give in again, but wanted to look at his father's back for the last time, watch him go away, and say goodbye forever.
Dad, Tom stopped his father. Will turned around and looked at his daughter affectionately. He was about to cry. He was afraid that this moment would come. He already knew his daughter’s decision. He sincerely hoped that his daughter could continue to walk with him. , But he understood that it was impossible, everything was over, his daughter grew up, he could not interfere with her choice.
I know you have to leave, Tom said.
The two embraced, the father shed tears, and the daughter's jaw quivered, and she squeezed out a goodbye, so soft that she didn't even hear it.
The daughter respected his father's choice and let him go into hermit. The father respected his daughter's choice and became a normal person. Isn't this great?
In fact, the same is true for Ms. Dell, who took in their father and daughter. She hangs the bag with food on the hook in the forest for a person who lives in the forest.
This is an understanding and respect for the lifestyle of others.
Similar to this film, "Captain Fantastic" also talks about a father who put his children in the woods to train them. He also faces the problem of human sociality, but some children do like the woods, such as the New Zealand movie "The Hunt for the Barbarians" The little fat man in "People".
Therefore, there is no absolute in everything, and it varies from person to person. We must respect this difference and respect different choices.
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