3.5/5
Went to see this standard Mother’s Day movie on Mother’s Day, but the audience was full of elderly people. The young people celebrated Mother’s Day. It seems that young men and women on the streets and shopping centers holding flowers holding bouquets and pockets of sundries. Shopping malls began to mail major Mother’s Day gift advertising brochures two weeks in advance. The supermarket also replaced a lot of Mother’s Day ads slogan and decorative color strips "show your mother the love" a few days in advance. For my birthday, I was also reminded to buy a cake from a domestic cake internet celebrity shop and send it to my parents.
Compared to Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, people have more enthusiasm to buy gifts to express emotions. It seems to confirm that most of us are closer to our mothers and that emotional exchanges in this relationship with mothers are more acquiesced and encouraged because Women's natural soft, sensitive and caring characteristics and a certain degree of tolerance
I seem to have been slowly pushed to such a conclusion by some of the movies I watched recently. It started with Hong Sang-soo’s "Women Are the Future of Men", followed by Andrei Zulaski’s "Obsessed" by Michel A. Zanavicius’s "Awe" and finally Emile Kusturica’s "Underground". The women in these movies are all tolerant of men’s divergence and the naivety that is always inconsistent with their age. They try to use a broader love. To tolerate and tolerate lovers, although they are often defeated by the fact that men cannot introspect and repent, Xuanhua is finally abandoned by two "dedicated" predecessors, and Anna has a mental breakdown and can only turn to the devil to seek comfort, and Annie cannot bear it. Leaving in a posture of preserving dignity but still shattered the girl’s dream, Vera Vera lost her life indirectly because of her husband clinging to her mistress. The only comfort she got from her son was that she named him and declared that the mother’s sovereignty is indelible.
"Tully" is the same. Marlo in his 30s sacrificed his freedom and the 20-generation lifestyle, sacrificed the right to indulge and enjoyment, sacrificed gender identity and all the sexual characteristics of women as objects of desire (slim waist, breasts and hip makeup) so as to be The husband completely lost his sex life and relied on the late-night gogoboy show to fill up his desire and dissatisfaction. These things were exchanged for a standard nuclear family, a pair of children, a newborn baby who was waiting to be fed, and a considerate husband who earned money to support the family. She and Tully were sitting in the truck. It was talked that the current husband is not the person she most wants to marry, but this choice may be the most correct, but the 26-year-old Tully can't understand why a woman would havetily marry a man who is not so soulmate for the purpose of getting married. For Tully to come. It is said that life should be a crop tank that cannot be changed every day. You must show your thin waist. You can hang over whenever you want. You can live uninhibited in the moment and live with your mother. "I have the right to be with me." People who are interested go to bed "Have unremitting disputes to declare their independence is to do what you say you don’t need to worry about whether your body is still sexually attractive.
This is an ingenious confrontation between a woman/mother, but it looks like a combination. 26-year-old Tully is reckless and courageous. Actually, she has no plans for the future. The Italians she meets today are actually unable to work out at all, but this class is only for those who already know the ending. Marlo can tell that the 30-year-old Marlo needs the self-confidence and energetic energy that will never give up at the age of 26, while the 26-year-old Tully needs to learn reconciliation, tolerance and calmness from Marlo (to her husband who is not very effective in life. (Bumping against the wicked and controlling mother) Marlo is 30 years old. She describes her life as a garbage truck at 5 in the morning. People who have watched movies have remembered this sentence. It is mean and funny, but it is the meaning behind this sentence. Is it really just a garbage truck?
I only think that the garbage truck is a simple but large-capacity car with strong endurance. It is bulky but capable of everything. Before I moved, I was still in bed on Tuesday morning when I was fighting with the little angel when I got up. He was already at my house. The cramped cul de sac turned around awkwardly to collect the garbage and left. The garbage trucks are still very reliable, even if it suddenly visits you at 7 o'clock in the morning, you lie in bed. Looking back on the night before, you forgot to push the garbage can to the side of the street and rushed downstairs. I found that it has gone away and sometimes it's 3 o'clock in the afternoon. You go home and lift the lid to see. Oh, it's still full, but in general you can trust them to return you an empty trash can on a fixed day of the week. So as to carry all the waste you will create for society in the next week
Does the 26-year-old Tully have this kind of reliability and responsibility? She will be late because of breaking up with her boyfriend, she will suddenly feel emotionally upset, and drag a mother to leave the baby and drive to Brooklyn to drink and eventually even drunk driving until the car crashes. Give up when the bridge is dead
In that case, I actually think that the potential of "greatest mom" that Marlo is pursuing is actually a product of 26-year-old energy and impulse + 30-year-old's own calm and wise formula and she has always had it if it hadn’t been set after 30-year-old pregnancy. Determined to break with her 20th generation, Marlo’s motherhood may be better. Maybe she can become one of the "great moms" who "invite a bunch of children and classmates to play at home or just open a casino theme party" in her own words.
The best solution to balance the mother/self relationship is probably social support and financial support. Social support includes the understanding and change of her husband, Drew, and the support of her rich brother (this can also be regarded as financial support) What is not mentioned in the film includes the help of her parents Drew's parents and relatives and friends. Asking these people for help when she is about to burn out should be a major self-care method. Unfortunately, Marlo created a super mom costume for herself. In order to be worthy of this outfit, He Mask firmly believes that she can only do everything by herself. In the case of insufficient social support, if there is sufficient financial conditions to raise two babies, it is so easy to refer specifically to the life of her younger brother's family.
Therefore, those arguments that denounce fertility in the name of losing freedom and one’s own life are difficult to convince me. It’s like going from an extreme that promotes childbirth to another extreme, because if you can maintain mental and personality independence after childbirth, a mother’s life shouldn’t be a movie. It looks like this in the movie, and what is necessary for personality independence is sufficient social resources and economic strength. Otherwise, the first major premise is really difficult to complete. Eventually, it will unknowingly slip into the situation of Marlo in the film, but in the voice of opposition. All women seem to be treated the same (economic situation, family status). It seems that no matter what the situation is, the active choice of childbearing is a serious retrogression in the progressive era of feminism. It is the surrender of voluntarily entrusting oneself to men to rule. In my opinion, this is biased. General
As for whether I will have children in the future, I just want to say it doesn't matter at all
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