This face is not young anymore, there is patience and hope in his eyes;
This face is full of imprints, so vivid, the imprint of being a parent.
Staring at this face for a long time, I seem to hear her questioning: Why is life so difficult?
On the poster of "Tali", Theron’s face occupies all the pictures. It makes sense to choose a peerless beauty to play such a movie. All the traces of years on her face tell the audience that resistance comes at a price. But we have never given up resistance .
The genre of the film is classified as a comedy, but many people see the horror feelings, and many people call it an "anti-marriage and anti-birth" movie, because the daily life of marriage shown in the movie is too scary: Having three children and being occupied with all the energy, the husband is nothing but hallucinations—yes, the all-around night nanny Tali is just another self illusioned by the heroine Marlow.
And this can’t be regarded as an extreme situation. In the quiet suburbs, in the big white houses, every household, there are such and other quagmire and traps behind Meimei. The various problems encountered by the heroine are but the most common one. The species, named "birth of fertility" and "loneliness in marriage", are so common that people think it is justified, just like the sun rises and the water flows eastward, bearing these silently. It was destined to be a certain gender. Those hard-to-swallow problems turned into silent experiences, quietly spreading under the water.
Now some people choose to present the "elephant in the room", with an extremely gentle perspective, the movie gives the heroine a kind gaze, her predicament, her collapse, her pride, her and self There is no judgment, and everything is shown in detail. Late at night, breastfeeding, husband on business trip, out of shape, unable to find self-worth, people are shocked: It turns out that a woman who is a mother leads a life like this. This is not beautiful, and even a little scary. The child’s innocent attachment eyes are real, and the love that permeates from the body is also real, but the helplessness, self-loathing, all the painful and hurtful pains that can be swallowed when spoken out. It's also true.
So Marlow needs Tully. She has a natural understanding of her. In the movie, she is the heroine with two different personalities. One appears during the day and is responsible for confrontation and support. The other comes from the night and is responsible for repairing and rebuilding. .
Marlowe asked Tully, what are you doing during the day, and Tully gave her a youthful answer, busy saving the world. The conversation between the two is full of wit, including the meaning of the baby to the mother, why the dream is shelved, and "recharging" the man. When you understand that Tali is the one Marlowe misses, you will find out when you come back to these conversations. Isn't the woman asking her own words over and over again in the middle of the night?
I have to mention another work "Juneo" by director Jason Reitman and screenwriter Diablo Coti. Juno is an eccentric female high school student who opened the taboo door for the first time. Unexpected pregnancy, I wanted to find an abortion agency to solve this trouble, but finally couldn't bear it. My girlfriend helped her find a solution: give birth to a family in need for adoption. During this process, everyone, her friends, her parents, and the young couple who adopted the family expressed their support to her in varying degrees. An accident that could have become a disaster was calmly resolved in this way, Juno. She is not forced into adulthood because of this, she can still enjoy her process.
It makes sense to say that Juno is a young version of Marlowe. At that time, she was young, and God would forgive young people who made mistakes. They could also compose their own frustrations into songs and sing them, still full of confidence in the future, and as she entered step by step In middle age, the problems to be faced are more concealed, bigger, and more incomprehensible. She can only summon the once fearless herself in the middle of the night, and draw some courage about life from her.
The title is Tali, named after the role of a babysitter. Tali is not only to unbutton the plot, but also symbolizes the heroine's patron saint, the mermaid who repeatedly appears in dreams. In fairy tales, the mermaid cuts off its tail for love. Becoming a human being and losing the ability to speak since then may be a metaphor for a woman to face her own life for the life of her choice.
Mackenzie Davis, who plays Tully, once played a lesbian in "Black Mirror", who has a desperately pure temperament. Seeing her, you just believe that she will always work hard for what she wants, never give up.
As a woman, many times the pressure comes from being too self-conscious, especially Asian women. It is not your fault to balance family and work. Is it your fault? Family members are sick and emotional, is it your own fault? Is it your own fault for not taking care of everyone's growth?
In the film, Marlowe involuntarily apologized to the passing school worker after her youngest son was frightened, indicating that the pressure had been internalized as a habit of her, making her subconsciously believe that the fierce reaction of her family was causing trouble to passers-by. Immoral, the school worker solemnly said: "No, you don't need to apologize to anyone."
The reason why life is like this is not because you haven't done a good job.
At the end of "Juneo", everyone got what they wanted, and life is still going on. It is a beautiful and upbeat tone. In "Tali", the tired housewife also caused her husband to reflect on her absence in the family life through an accident, and thus participated more actively. There is still a light of hope ahead.
The men in these two films seem to be in a somewhat different situation, from the boy who makes people pregnant by accident, to the composer who is not ready to be a father, to the husband who is still unable to appreciate his wife’s hard work while doing his part. I forgave them and gave them time to grow into a generous and meticulous man like Juno's father.
Persistence itself is touching, what do you think?
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