After reading Tully, I want to write some opinions and thoughts, the language is not well organized, please forgive me
When Marlo had a car accident, the DMV on the car was reviewed in 2016. She was born in 1977, so she was 39 or 40 years old.
Woman 40, married a husband who is not particularly in love, doing a normal job (working as a HR in protein bar company), and she brings 3 children, of which the youngest daughter is just born, and the youngest son has emotional problems and was dismissed by the school. , This pressure can be imagined.
Marlo already had a postpartum depression when she gave birth to her second child.In order to make her easier after giving birth to the third child, her brother hired a night nanny for her.
So Tully appeared. (But Tully is actually a personality born out of her schizophrenia, representing Marlo who was full of free spirit when she was young)
When Tully first arrived at her house, she took off her coat and showed her flat belly. It is not difficult to imagine how envious and jealous Marlo was. After Marlo handed her the child to her, she was going to go upstairs to sleep. "to bed" said goodnight to her, and Marlo, who graduated from English literature, looked dazed.
Tully is very energetic, not only helping her bring the children, but also cleaning the room and even making cupcakes. (Actually, Marlo made it herself. She took the cupcakes to her son's school for the children to eat, and told them that the cake was nut free, not herself. How do you know)
Under Tully's care, Marlo gradually recovered his vitality.At this time, Tully asked her to go to the bar for a drink, and then made the decision to leave.
On their way home after drinking, Marlo had a car accident because of drinking and fatigue. The doctor asked her husband Marlo if she had a history of mental illness, and said that she was severely lacking in sleep. Marlo's husband also found it strange, since there has been nighttime Hasn't her sleep improved a lot after the nanny?
In fact, the heroine didn't sleep much during the day and night after schizophrenia.
Later, when Marlo's husband registered her information, she said that her name was Tully before marriage. It should be that many people realized that the heroine was schizophrenic. But looking back, I think the director did not deliberately hide her schizophrenia. In fact, there are actually traces of this movie from beginning to end.
When people reach middle age, we always think of ourselves when we were young, how good we were, how existent, how weird we were. According to Tully's words, we think about how to conquer the world all day long. We got married and had children (especially after having 3 children). These free spirits, all these vitalities were gone. Every day I repeated the boring days, and gradually forgot the foreign languages and knowledge I learned before, and was all sorts of things every day The trivial matters are overdrawn, and this kind of life is a dead end.
At the end Marlo was lying in the hospital bed, and Tully walked in and said: Obviously, we can't meet again. At this time, Marlo should have understood in his heart that Tully had imagined it. But Marlo still said: I don't want you to go (she I hope to keep that free and energetic self). Tully said that she just accompanies Marlo through the most difficult period, and then she has to rely on herself. Then Tully said the full text of the sentence: "Thank you for giving My life". Marlo said: Me too.
It is not difficult to see that Marlo is an independent woman who wants to be an independent woman who takes care of both career and family, which is in line with the "mainstream" of American society. The mainstream society requires women to have inexhaustible energy, have a career in groups of children, and squeeze time for fitness and makeup. And participate in social activities. Just like Marlo said, Super Mom will organize birthday parties for children and make minions cupcakes, and she is so exhausted that she can’t do these. Women like me It is everywhere. While reading PHD, we take care of several children. We go out of the laboratory and go straight to the vegetable market every day. After coaxing the children to sleep at night, we will continue to catch up with papers. In order to prove that we are not losing to men, we overdraw our physical strength like Marlo. In the end, I was exhausted. I saw many people talking about Marlo's widowed parenting. I think her husband is actually a good husband and dad. He also cooks with his wife and tutors his children with homework. Anyway, my dad has never tutored. I have done my homework, let alone cooking. My mother took our 3 children to work. Even with a babysitter, I think she has always been exhausted.
The real problem is that due to physiological reasons, women often sacrifice more than men in raising children. At this time, if you ignore objective conditions and pursue internal and external considerations, the result will be exhausted. To be honest, this era is for women. Inequality is always under the guise of equality between men and women.
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