My family went to see this movie when it was released in the United States. My ten-year-old said of it: "It’s better than "Toy Story 4"."
Every detail of the movie is very attentive: taxi drivers rushing outside the station, sports lottery-sponsored fitness facilities in the community are drying quilts, and the greasy middle-aged walking on the street unabashedly reveals his white belly, everywhere They are all smokers.
These are the places where my daughter has the deepest impression of returning home.
The waiter in the hotel caught the heroine and asked, "Do you think China is better or America is better?"
This question is an enduring ABC torture. Whether we are close or close, almost everyone will ask my child this question as soon as they know that we live abroad.
Americans usually have a strong sense of distance, and even familiar friends would not ask such alternative questions.
And everyone sitting at the dinner table would first ask us how to study abroad, and at the same time complained that the house price was too outrageous and we couldn’t make it through, and then they persuaded us to sea turtles...
At the beginning, I patiently told them how to take the TOEFL GRE and how to apply to the school. Later, I realized that those parents don’t care about exposing their personal financial problems to strangers, let alone their own logic that can’t justify themselves. They just instill their own ideas with wishful thinking, want to choose a short and quick way for their children, and are unwilling to understand each other’s world. Don't understand the advantages and disadvantages of their children, goals, interests, etc.
The people in the movie are full of this kind of wishful thinking aggression. The grandma's sick family members wishfully think that she can't bear the bad news, make decisions for her, fulfill her wish for granted, and urge people to get married.
Billie said, maybe grandma wants to use the last time to do something she wants to do? Don’t you disrespect her when you make decisions for her like this?
The grandmother also wished to make arrangements for the younger generation, arranging the children to study abroad and arranging for the grandson to get married as soon as possible. "Do your own things yourself" only exists in the slogan. In Chinese culture, the most difficult thing to control is to make decisions about major events in one's life.
Family affection, kindness, an excuse to cross the boundary between people. People are involuntarily swept along by the torrent of family love, and others have already made a decision for you.
I remember in the film when my uncle made a toast to grandma, he said something to the effect: "I owe all my achievements today to my mother. Without a mother, there would be no me today."
After the Chinese were born, they were tied up with their parents.
One's own efforts, struggles, and choices do not hold weight in the face of the grace of parenting.
Eventually, when the parents are old, the children in turn wishfully make decisions for the important events of their parents' lives.
Whose life does this matter belong to, and whose time? Who should call the shots?
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